This is not a feel sorry for me story. Maybe a give as much as you recieve. Right now I just don't know what it could be. This is my second marriage for thirty years. The first was for twelve years 3 children and three houses and over 5 acres of ground. I will admit I was real young in mature as was my first wife. She decided she did'nt love me after twelve years when it seems my love for her was getting stronger hers was doing the opposite. Anyway the diviorce was ugly and after 2 or 3 years I won the two youngest a girl and boy. Duriing this time my dad was dying of lung cancer and most of my time was attending court or lawyers instead of enjoying what time my dad and I had left together. While at the hospital I met this girl who was a sister to my dads RN. Off an on dads stay at the hospital was a little over 2 years. So most of my time was either at work court lawyer's office or at the hospital. I suppose I fell in love with the RN's sister during this time . Dad died in September and we married in October. Up till now.I worked under civil service for 25 years. Have a nice brick 4 bed room house. Oh I had a house before we got married she was sharing an apprtment with her RN. sister. MY first wife didn't know I had bought another house during our divorce. Boy that was a good one I pulled on her and her lawyer's. LOL. I was staying with a friend of mine in the city I was working for. Her lawyer's asked me every question you could think of about wages and nothing about how many homes I had interest in. I was working three different jobs during my divorce just to keep my head above water and to accomplish my hunger and plan. I seen a nice small house in the city I was working for that was for sale while I was working part time delivering medicne for a drug store. I did'nt think I could get it but I thought what the heck . All they could say was yes or no. IT was an equity buy and take up payments. Well I put a second mortgage on it and assummed the payments. I was tough to start with. But I did it. It was easer to work those 3 jobs knowing I had something to work for. A home in a city with one of the best school systems in the state. Boy would her lawyer's only knew. I had it hid in away they could'nt touch it. They had all my income figured out even the little part time I was making. I was paying all the bills plus child support. She had a new car the payments was 272.69 and child support was over a 150 @month my attorny tried to tell her to let the car go and I could pay more child support. She wanted me to pay for the car. She said she needed the car to go to work . After all said and done I had 50 dollars left out of my pay check at the end of the month. Needless to say I had to bank rubted. Against her lawyers and car . So she was greeded and lost it all . The following year I won my two youngest in court prving she was an unfit mother.. Brings me to this point in my life. My second wife I gave her a home. I retired in 25 years she was still working . We have a younger child . He is now 25 and its her baby. I bought an ole farm house and 40 acres of ground in south Alabama. we liked 8 years of paying the house off in town. She got hers elf in trouble with the charge cards. She promised if I would refinace the house and pay the cards off she would'nt do it again. Wrong. The house has been refinaced4 times now owing 30 years. The 40 acres I bought is paid for. I paid it off right after I retired. I bought an extra lot next to the one in town its paid for also. I need to sell it and pay the charge cards off that my wife owes now. That right charge cards. My wife had limited her cards out. So she went and got a card in my name had it sent to her. She has spent right at 10.000.00 in my name. I got a call fromm wells fargo and they ask me when was I going to catch up on my account ? I said I did'nt know what you are talking about that I did'nt owe you a darn thing . He was making me mad by accussing me of this debt. Me know I had only One Visa card and that was my debit card. Until he mention my wifes name. Well the light bulb came on. I ask that I would get back to him. I never would have thought my wife of thirty years would have done this to me. Boy that hurts. I would never do her that way. Get a card in her name and use it without her knowing it. She said she did. She did'nt know what else to do ? I was wondering how and where she was getting the money to buy our sone eletronic weather station. electric heater and I don't know what all else. And then to top it off she don't even have enough money to buy gas for her to go to work. I'm buying now . Have been over a year. I should'nt I told her if it had been someone else you would be in prison. Theres where I am now. I have decided to let her have the house in town . When she retires sell it or what ever. I'm thinking about getting me a U-hall put my tools guns and gun safe in it and just leave. I have a good retirement that will go where ever I go. I want ever get over what she did to me . You have got to trust a person to have a good relation and I cannot ever find my self to ever trust her again. I want to go to Idaho If I can find a good woman who wants a good man that don't smoke . Don't drink that can cook and wash his on clothes just maybe we could be friends. I'm just so tired of being used it seems that way. Excuse my spelling I was'nt the top of the list in english matter of fact I hated it. Maybe I can find a place that want ask to much of a person ?