Really?! I need to rant here.

[TheDuckCrew]

So, i am totally mad at my friend at the moment. we met this year at the barn because she has a horse there, but she just pushed herself wayyyy too far into my personal life. there's a guy i like and while i was telling my REALLY good friend at the barn that i've been friends with for ever about him, i guess she listened in. she found him on facebook and friend requested him. he knows i like him now and i have been really nervous and awkward around him, so i've been talking to him less. (i know, thats sad.) so i was mad at myself for not talking to him today, so i put my facebook status as "why do i have to be such a chicken?" he commented saying that he likes chicken. she decided to but in telling me i should talk to him and that he said he likes me by saying that. and he can see everything she has said. i'm sooooo mad at her!! like really? theres a reason i didn't tell her about him, but she found out anyways. i am so mad.

 

[FLOWERPOT]

Maby she is really just trying to help by getting you two together?
Albeit a little on the pushy side but maby good intentions for you.

 

[gocrow77]

Some people just have a big mouth and have no discretion. I'm sorry this happened to you. It doesn't really sound like she is being malicious about things just maybe is lacking a little in the judgement department and may be a little immature. Also, you sound like a pretty private person - she sounds very open. She may not even understand that she has upset you or why you are upset. If this is a friend that you value and can forgive perhaps you can explain that you are a more discrete/private person and personal things are not to be "shared" with anyone without your specific permission. ( does sound like he likes you BTW

) I am hoping it was not intentional or that she just didn't realize how this would be upsetting to you - hope she deserves the benefit of the doubt. If she has done things like this before and you two have had a "coming to Jesus" talk about this sort of thing I'd scrap her and find friends that can respect my feelings AND my privacy. Best wishes...

Aimee

 

[TheDuckCrew]

thanks. yeah this is the first time she's gone this far. i just met her a little while ago, and she's extremely clinging and does tend to push her nose into places it shouldn't be. but i am a very quiet and private person and i like to keep it that way if i can.

 

[newchickenfamily]

Maybe you should "un friend"her from FB. Sounds like he might be interested anyway! Good luck!

 

[Im4Eggcellence]

Not you again!! (I'm just kiddin ya

)

Yes, she crossed over the bounds of good taste, but I wouldn't be too hard on her. I don't think see intended to be malicious. Maybe she was just trying to give you two a "push".... some folks just like to fix people up. And it sounds like it is working.

He was definitely hinting back that he's interested in you.

But in the future, if you want your discussions to be private, making sure you really are alone is the best way to insure that.

 

[English Chick]

Just have a long chat with your friend and mention that she has invaded your privacy, and that what you told her was confidential...... you like your private life to remain that way, but if she oversteps your boundaries again block her from Face Book.........

 

[cariboujaguar]

brings me back... in the grand scheme of things this will just make you laugh later on... but his comment is cute and sweet and sounds like he likes you. Stop being so shy or nervous, be honest and yourself, he can take you or leave you

I wouldn't trust her though

Goodluck!

 

[Boyd]

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I agree. He is DEFINATELY hinting back. And lemme tell ya something girly, some of my best friends in school were quite shy and not part of the big group gatherings.... I practically drug them through every social event I could, played matchmaker. Today they are some of my best friends. At that time in their life they needed a little nudge.

If I was in your shoes, I'd be annoyed too, but maybe she already had the inside info that he liked you?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

NUDGE NUDGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Ol'FashionHen]

It sounds like your friend was just trying to help you out. But you do need to set her down and explain what kind of a person you are and that by her doing that it embarassed you ...be nice you know because she was just helping ...so it may hurt her feelings cause she likes you as a friend (friend-that's a good thing) just you like to do things on your own terms. Tell her as a friend she is more than welcome to give you encouragment (good encouragment Missy) just do not take your matters into her hands anymore ...for example: (Hi, I wanted to talk to you for a minute about something..I really appreciate you trying to help me out that was really sweet of you and I know you were just wanting to be a good friend to me and thank you.. again that is sweet of you, but it kind of embarassed me. I'm really a private person and things that I discuss with my friends I don't want to be aired out to others I prefer that it be between my friends and I , and I like to do things on my own terms... I feel kind of weird about people talking for me).
I'm sure your friend will understand what you are saying..but be precise so that she is not confused, and never just throw out a hint to her or play mind games (I hate mind games) they are childish in my own opinion. And of course the most important of this subject is HE LIKES YOU GIRLIE

...so go on with cute self.