You definitely have deeper issues going on. Sounds like your daughter is just fine with it all. Your wife, I'm guessing is a city girl with the "animals are our friends" mentality. I can say this, because I was that woman at one time. Raised in a Mpls. suburb, married a farmer and learned about raising our food - both meat and veggies. Hopefully your wife will get over it soon. Again, you're doing the right thing by your daughters in teaching them about the circle of life. Kids are so resilient. We had a steer once. Just one (bad thing for me, because I still tend to see our animals as "pets") and my sons - ages 11, 9 and 7 named him Butch. Why? "Well, we're gonna butcher him anyway, right, Mom?"