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This very nearly defines a good marriage.
The couple that learns to get along each to his own, but together, has beaten suspicion and jealousy. It doesn't mean there is no love; in fact, it is the highest form of love, to accept that which fulfills the other. When you do come together, then, it is at peace.
I do hope you and your DH can reach such a state. It's hard when one person makes all the sacrifices...
An excellent compromise is to place the computer right out in the open, as suggested. I did this, too. Then you are together, yet each can do "their own thing" without the other feeling left out.

Well, that's the hope... for some that wont be enough.
Jealousy is a wicked master. It's like dragging a a ball around behind you all the time, and eventually it turns to guilt and shame as a way to manipulate the other.

I sincerely hope you can get it sorted.
 
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I sure need all the prayer I can get and so does James. so far today things have quieted down. knock on wood I hope it stays that way. The poor feller he just has so much on him and he strikes out at me. I guess I am the way he uses to get his anger out. He has NEVER and Imean NEVER hit me. Just yelling sometimes though I believe it would be better if he did hit it wouldn't hurt as much. But I am doing better today just need the good Lords help and strength and thing will be alright.
 
Please don't take offense but it sounds to me like you need a new husband. You are a person and don't deserve to be treated like that. I spent better part of 8 yrs in an abusive relationship and I can tell you it doesn't get better. It only escalates to violence and you deserve so much more. Don't make excuses for him. There is none. I don't care if the world fell in on him that day....he still has no right.

Good luck to you and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
 
I feel for you; my DH sounds quite similar in lots of ways to yours. He's 62, so I doubt he'll change. He wants me all to himself...he gets "jealous" of my time in the barn with my critters and even verbalizes it that way. Yes, he begrudgingly builds coops and fences and pens...but I have to beg and plead and "make deals." He rolls his eyes and gives huge sighs each time I ask for help with something. It's irritating and hurtful at times, BUT - he is also a really good man. He loves me to the end of time, this I know, as he shows it and says it daily. Complicated? Yes. Irrational? At times. But....loves me true....YEP! Is it worth it all? ABSOLUTELY!

If you ever want to chat about DH's, PM or e-mail me.
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ETA: Please don't leave! I always enjoy your posts!
 
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well i am glad you stayed! I am sorry your hubby feels that way. my husband calls this place chicken f
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he also realizes i am a stay a home mother and really have no friends here(moved coss country) , this is my vice and a way to make friends . Better then any other vices i could name. I hope you get to a better place with all this
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bruises fade but verbal abuse stays with u a lifetime.....please be careful! Words hurt just as bad a fists! Trust me i know both ways~ Disclaimer** not by my husband! He knows better and is scared of me,lol. OLD BOYFRIEND
 
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Hate to barge in here....but, as a man, as a husband, as a father, YELLING at your wife is no way to deal with frustration or anger, and I feel terribly sorry for you that "one of us" is treating you that way. Marriage has got to be a partnership...taking the good with the bad. I totally understand the whole jealousy thing (its an insecurity all of us bone-headed men have). Hopefully you can get him to understand that this is an outlet for you just as I'm sure he has outlets for himself (I know I do and my DW tolerates them all). Will be praying for you and for him. If this is a marriage that you want to succeed, then, I will pray for that as well.
 
we have been married for 21 years so I doubt if he will change. He really is not a bad man. and he is a wonderful dad to our girls. he loves me he just has a bad way of letting off steam
 

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