seeing blood

[Southern28Chick]

Putting your hands on another human being is NOT ok. Tell your daughter that he will do it again if they get back together and she needs to file charges against him ASAP.

Edited: Take comfort in knowing there's a special place in Hell reserved for people like him.

 

[sgray136]

Vent away mom! Sounds as though you have a good handle on where your head should be. From my experience I have found that when the perodical child returns it's best to praise them for using those ethics specific to your family as if it was a for gone conclusion.

Prepare yourself that she may not be done with the relationship yet and let her know that you are there when she is out of the dysfunctional stuff.

She'll learn, hopefully...

Good Luck

 

[SpottedCrow]

If it was MY kid, the broken hand would have a matching broken a$$.
No reason for putting your hands on a smaller person. I found out only recently that my ex(thank the Gods) BIL was beating on my twin sisterand I was seeing red too...He had kept her away from this side of the family...but he wasn't worth me losing my freedom for. He'll get his eventually.

 

[mourninglory]

Thank you all!! Your support really means a lot. I stayed up all night -till sun up just to make sure that jerk didn't try and show up here (secretly hoping he would be that stupid!). I finally got a few hours sleep when my husband got up. (He told me later today that he wasn't really asleep either.)
By the time I awoke my husband and daughter had decided to go retrieve her belongings. That wasn't the original plan -she was not supposed to be going. While they were on their 1-1/2 hour trek, the EX boyfriend called her back worried and wanted to know if my husband was coming to kick his ass. She said "no, but we are coming to get my stuff".
The pick up went fairly smoothly. The EX-boyfriend said little, as he is now terrified of my husband -who has a hundred pounds over the little turd and is physically the strongest men I've ever known.
The rotten little jerk did as he promised and threw her clothes in the yard (it's been raining), and tossed her dresser out the door. He mangled the dresser, given to her as a small child by her MawMaw, and one of her most prized possessions -and he knew it.
When the EX boyfriend found out my daughter wasn't coming alone he tried to repair the dresser (it's really messed up) and picked up her wet and muddy clothes and folded them. The little coward!!
Well anyway, for the rest of the day my daughter stayed secluded until we had dinner.
She is choosing not to press charges, or file a report. Still, I'm very proud of her for not tolerating this treatment. She really seems to be taking the "First time is the Last time" attitude. I hope it holds out. At dinner she asked me to update her resume', and seems ready to get back to life before AHole.
And coyete magic, the SSS method makes sense, if only I hadn't blabbed it all on here already!

Thanks again everyone!!

 

[SpottedCrow]

We would never tell and help you disperse the dismembered body over most of the country and England and Australia...

 

[davecash]

had the exact same problem, i know how you feel. but my sister kicked the deadbeat to the curve and has found herself a real man. hope all works out well. youll be in my prayers