Seriously thinking of Homeschooling my Daughter
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Our local Y had homeschool gym and swim and art classes.Check your local parks for programs too.My kids prefered to just swim freely,and the art class was a total let down.Some kids like them though.
That's so exciting!! Congratulations to you both - I hope it doesn't take long for your daughter's newly built walls to come down.
Just take it day by day... trying and make a list of things your are looking for in a curriculum and what you think your daughter might be interested in. I was too gung ho to get something and just get started that I bought the first couple things that were recommended to me and they were a total bust with my son. Once I sat down and thought about what his wants and needs truly are we found a much better fit. He's only 4 so I don't want to get too formal, but he's asking to do school so I figure why not! There are SOOOOO many options out there don't just settle just to settle. We found a great curriculum based program (Sonlight) that is the perfect fit for him... Five in a Row looks pretty good too (just bought it used with 11 of the readers). We also started on All About Reading Pre-1 and it's by far his favorite. He begs to do his letters everyday and absolutely loves Ziggy the Zebra. Those might not be a good fit for you though, but thought I would throw it out there as maybe a starting point for you. My favorite part about what I have purchased so far is that there are very few consumables so after the initial cost I can use most of the program for my other two children - assuming they follow the same interests as DS.
It's an adventure that we are just getting started with and it's so exciting! I hope it is a wonderful time for both you and your DD!!
Just take it day by day... trying and make a list of things your are looking for in a curriculum and what you think your daughter might be interested in. I was too gung ho to get something and just get started that I bought the first couple things that were recommended to me and they were a total bust with my son. Once I sat down and thought about what his wants and needs truly are we found a much better fit. He's only 4 so I don't want to get too formal, but he's asking to do school so I figure why not! There are SOOOOO many options out there don't just settle just to settle. We found a great curriculum based program (Sonlight) that is the perfect fit for him... Five in a Row looks pretty good too (just bought it used with 11 of the readers). We also started on All About Reading Pre-1 and it's by far his favorite. He begs to do his letters everyday and absolutely loves Ziggy the Zebra. Those might not be a good fit for you though, but thought I would throw it out there as maybe a starting point for you. My favorite part about what I have purchased so far is that there are very few consumables so after the initial cost I can use most of the program for my other two children - assuming they follow the same interests as DS.
It's an adventure that we are just getting started with and it's so exciting! I hope it is a wonderful time for both you and your DD!!
I'm concerned about the OPs daughter, and concerned about the situation, and other children that may be in the same situation.
From what I have seen posted here, the OP doesn't know what is going on with her daughter at school and hasn't made much effort to find out. She found or is finding a different option, but she still doesn't know what is causing her child's difficulty. She doesn't know if it is bullying, classroom management, learning anxiety, an unfamiliar environment, the teacher, anxiety about failure, the school itself, a scary bathroom, other adults or children at the school, or any of another host of issues. She is working with heart not head, something that is natural to all of us with children. She also doesn't know if this is an issue that will carry over into the homeschool environment because she doesn't know the cause. All she knows is that something about school isn't working.
She has made the assumption that the problem lies exclusively with the school, without really knowing for sure. And has also assumed that homeschooling will remedy the situation.
From what I have seen posted here, the OP doesn't know what is going on with her daughter at school and hasn't made much effort to find out. She found or is finding a different option, but she still doesn't know what is causing her child's difficulty. She doesn't know if it is bullying, classroom management, learning anxiety, an unfamiliar environment, the teacher, anxiety about failure, the school itself, a scary bathroom, other adults or children at the school, or any of another host of issues. She is working with heart not head, something that is natural to all of us with children. She also doesn't know if this is an issue that will carry over into the homeschool environment because she doesn't know the cause. All she knows is that something about school isn't working.
She has made the assumption that the problem lies exclusively with the school, without really knowing for sure. And has also assumed that homeschooling will remedy the situation.
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I'm concerned about the OPs daughter, and concerned about the situation, and other children that may be in the same situation.
From what I have seen posted here, the OP doesn't know what is going on with her daughter at school and hasn't made much effort to find out. She found or is finding a different option, but she still doesn't know what is causing her child's difficulty. She doesn't know if it is bullying, classroom management, learning anxiety, an unfamiliar environment, the teacher, anxiety about failure, the school itself, a scary bathroom, other adults or children at the school, or any of another host of issues. She is working with heart not head, something that is natural to all of us with children. She also doesn't know if this is an issue that will carry over into the homeschool environment because she doesn't know the cause. All she knows is that something about school isn't working.
She has made the assumption that the problem lies exclusively with the school, without really knowing for sure. And has also assumed that homeschooling will remedy the situation.
I can see your concern, but she did look into other aspects and decided on HSing for more than just the initial reasons (very fast paced curriculum). Also, it's a pretty good assumption that it lies within the school since it started when she started school, it's where she's having the accidents, etc. It's not like it's halfway through the year and just starting... it was almost an exact time correlation from the way she described it.
Yes, it would be good to find out exactly what is going on, but in someways it might be near impossible - especially seeing that they don't seem to want to work with her. It's like trying to find out the root cause of a fight between kids... there's always a different story depending on who you talk to and likely you will never know the truth.
I'm concerned about the OPs daughter, and concerned about the situation, and other children that may be in the same situation.
From what I have seen posted here, the OP doesn't know what is going on with her daughter at school and hasn't made much effort to find out. She found or is finding a different option, but she still doesn't know what is causing her child's difficulty. She doesn't know if it is bullying, classroom management, learning anxiety, an unfamiliar environment, the teacher, anxiety about failure, the school itself, a scary bathroom, other adults or children at the school, or any of another host of issues. She is working with heart not head, something that is natural to all of us with children. She also doesn't know if this is an issue that will carry over into the homeschool environment because she doesn't know the cause. All she knows is that something about school isn't working.
She has made the assumption that the problem lies exclusively with the school, without really knowing for sure. And has also assumed that homeschooling will remedy the situation.
I can see your concern, but she did look into other aspects and decided on HSing for more than just the initial reasons (very fast paced curriculum). Also, it's a pretty good assumption that it lies within the school since it started when she started school, it's where she's having the accidents, etc. It's not like it's halfway through the year and just starting... it was almost an exact time correlation from the way she described it.
Yes, it would be good to find out exactly what is going on, but in someways it might be near impossible - especially seeing that they don't seem to want to work with her. It's like trying to find out the root cause of a fight between kids... there's always a different story depending on who you talk to and likely you will never know the truth.
mom'sfolly :
I hope you enjoy homeschooling.
I have to admit that I'm a little disappointed in you not following through with the school to know what exactly is going on and what the policies are. To my mind, a
instead of a real answer about "accidents" is a bit of a cop out. JMHO
You originally posted on a Friday, so your child has had at most 3 days of school since the last time you posted. I would find out what was going on simply for peace of mind, and clarification. A child should not be kept in from recess because of an accident. I really feel you have not investigated the situation nearly enough.
I agree with this. A child of 5 does not normally have frequent accidents. It could be a physical problem or an emotional one. Kindergarten teachers are not accustomed to dealing with children who have frequent accidents; by the time children are in kindergarten, they are usually well-potty trained, and accidents should be few and far between. I would not be surprised to find out the teacher is angry or annoyed about it. That she is keeping her in from recess (punishment?) for an accident tells me that she has expectations that you daughter fails to meet, and possibly you as well.
I have no issues with your choice to homeschool your daughter, I do have a problem with you ignoring what is going on without finding out more details specifically related to your daughter. She needs a visit with the doctor to rule out physical reasons for the accidents, and you need to find out where she falls on developmental charts. That will help you tailor lessons to her current abilities and allow you to assess whether she needs additional opportunities that she has not had.
(Couple of cases in point. On one of my son's annual well checks, as his pediatrician was checking off his development levels, he asked how he held crayons, and made intentional marks with them. It had never occurred to me to give a crayon to a child barely 1! Doctor gave him a pen and paper, and ds proceeded to scribble on it.
Second case, a number of years ago I taught a preschool class, having taken the class when its regular teacher went on maternity leave. One of the oldest students in the class (older 4 year old) was very bright, but his writing skills were not much better than that first scribbling of my son. He did not favor one hand over the other, sometimes using his left, other times his right to hold the pencil. The regular teacher had been insisting that he use his right hand, I did not think that right, and let him make his own choice. When we had parent teacher conferences, I told his mother how bright he was, but that his handwriting skills were very poor, and that he did not consistently use one hand more than the other; his writing was equally poor with both hands. She was concerned; I asked which hand he used to hold fork and spoon at mealtimes. She said, "oh, he's too messy, I never let him feed himself." He'd never had the opportunity to develop small muscle skills.)
I realize that both these examples are about writing, and that is not speciifcally what I intend to convey. In the first case, my ignorance had caused me to not give my son opportunities that I should have made available for him to try months earlier. In the later, the mother found it easier to do a task for herself rather than let her son have that experience.
By all means, homeschool if that is what you and your husband decide, but ALSO find out in full what is going on at school.
I hope you enjoy homeschooling.
I have to admit that I'm a little disappointed in you not following through with the school to know what exactly is going on and what the policies are. To my mind, a
You originally posted on a Friday, so your child has had at most 3 days of school since the last time you posted. I would find out what was going on simply for peace of mind, and clarification. A child should not be kept in from recess because of an accident. I really feel you have not investigated the situation nearly enough.
I agree with this. A child of 5 does not normally have frequent accidents. It could be a physical problem or an emotional one. Kindergarten teachers are not accustomed to dealing with children who have frequent accidents; by the time children are in kindergarten, they are usually well-potty trained, and accidents should be few and far between. I would not be surprised to find out the teacher is angry or annoyed about it. That she is keeping her in from recess (punishment?) for an accident tells me that she has expectations that you daughter fails to meet, and possibly you as well.
I have no issues with your choice to homeschool your daughter, I do have a problem with you ignoring what is going on without finding out more details specifically related to your daughter. She needs a visit with the doctor to rule out physical reasons for the accidents, and you need to find out where she falls on developmental charts. That will help you tailor lessons to her current abilities and allow you to assess whether she needs additional opportunities that she has not had.
(Couple of cases in point. On one of my son's annual well checks, as his pediatrician was checking off his development levels, he asked how he held crayons, and made intentional marks with them. It had never occurred to me to give a crayon to a child barely 1! Doctor gave him a pen and paper, and ds proceeded to scribble on it.
Second case, a number of years ago I taught a preschool class, having taken the class when its regular teacher went on maternity leave. One of the oldest students in the class (older 4 year old) was very bright, but his writing skills were not much better than that first scribbling of my son. He did not favor one hand over the other, sometimes using his left, other times his right to hold the pencil. The regular teacher had been insisting that he use his right hand, I did not think that right, and let him make his own choice. When we had parent teacher conferences, I told his mother how bright he was, but that his handwriting skills were very poor, and that he did not consistently use one hand more than the other; his writing was equally poor with both hands. She was concerned; I asked which hand he used to hold fork and spoon at mealtimes. She said, "oh, he's too messy, I never let him feed himself." He'd never had the opportunity to develop small muscle skills.)
I realize that both these examples are about writing, and that is not speciifcally what I intend to convey. In the first case, my ignorance had caused me to not give my son opportunities that I should have made available for him to try months earlier. In the later, the mother found it easier to do a task for herself rather than let her son have that experience.
By all means, homeschool if that is what you and your husband decide, but ALSO find out in full what is going on at school.
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How do you KNOW this wll no longer be an issue? If the child has a physical problem such as a UTI, that happened to coincide with entry to school, the accidents will still occur. If htere is some sort of learning disability, it will still be present. Momsfolly said, in a nut shell "find out what and why." Doing anything less is simply ignoring the possibility of real problems.
How do you KNOW this wll no longer be an issue? If the child has a physical problem such as a UTI, that happened to coincide with entry to school, the accidents will still occur. If htere is some sort of learning disability, it will still be present. Momsfolly said, in a nut shell "find out what and why." Doing anything less is simply ignoring the possibility of real problems.
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I can see your concern, but she did look into other aspects and decided on HSing for more than just the initial reasons (very fast paced curriculum). Also, it's a pretty good assumption that it lies within the school since it started when she started school, it's where she's having the accidents, etc. It's not like it's halfway through the year and just starting... it was almost an exact time correlation from the way she described it.
Yes, it would be good to find out exactly what is going on, but in someways it might be near impossible - especially seeing that they don't seem to want to work with her. It's like trying to find out the root cause of a fight between kids... there's always a different story depending on who you talk to and likely you will never know the truth.
That one thing follows shortly after another does not mean that the first caused the second. It can be pure coincidence. But, you are also looking at a HOST of possibilities that could be the cause. Going to public school is not THE cause. Operate from knowledge, not ignorance.
I can see your concern, but she did look into other aspects and decided on HSing for more than just the initial reasons (very fast paced curriculum). Also, it's a pretty good assumption that it lies within the school since it started when she started school, it's where she's having the accidents, etc. It's not like it's halfway through the year and just starting... it was almost an exact time correlation from the way she described it.
Yes, it would be good to find out exactly what is going on, but in someways it might be near impossible - especially seeing that they don't seem to want to work with her. It's like trying to find out the root cause of a fight between kids... there's always a different story depending on who you talk to and likely you will never know the truth.
That one thing follows shortly after another does not mean that the first caused the second. It can be pure coincidence. But, you are also looking at a HOST of possibilities that could be the cause. Going to public school is not THE cause. Operate from knowledge, not ignorance.
Sonoran...you said in a few words what I was trying to say in many...."operate from knowledge not ignorance"
I think it is very important for the OP to find out what is going on. Unless things have changed, the only face to face contact she has had with anyone at the school was on Back to School Night, which is never the time to find out anything other than gross generalities.
If it were my kid, I would want to know what is going on...and if the situation warranted it, the stink raised would be big enough to gag a skunk.
Parents need to be advocates for their children. You can't do that if you don't know what is going on.
I think it is very important for the OP to find out what is going on. Unless things have changed, the only face to face contact she has had with anyone at the school was on Back to School Night, which is never the time to find out anything other than gross generalities.
If it were my kid, I would want to know what is going on...and if the situation warranted it, the stink raised would be big enough to gag a skunk.
Parents need to be advocates for their children. You can't do that if you don't know what is going on.
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I can see your concern, but she did look into other aspects and decided on HSing for more than just the initial reasons (very fast paced curriculum). Also, it's a pretty good assumption that it lies within the school since it started when she started school, it's where she's having the accidents, etc. It's not like it's halfway through the year and just starting... it was almost an exact time correlation from the way she described it.
Yes, it would be good to find out exactly what is going on, but in someways it might be near impossible - especially seeing that they don't seem to want to work with her. It's like trying to find out the root cause of a fight between kids... there's always a different story depending on who you talk to and likely you will never know the truth.
That one thing follows shortly after another does not mean that the first caused the second. It can be pure coincidence. But, you are also looking at a HOST of possibilities that could be the cause. Going to public school is not THE cause. Operate from knowledge, not ignorance.
Did you seriously just call me ignorant in a round about way? Wow... I'm totally speechless at this point.
I'm trying to support the OP in her decision to HS her child... not rake her over the coals for her decision process. Some people may not be as outspoken as others, or as pushy (I am one of them!). I love my children, I truly do, but I am not one to go in raising he** when there might be other options. My husbands aunt is the other way around. It takes different people to make the world go round. I'm proud of her for doing what she feels is best for her child - just b/c you two would have gone about it a different way doesn't make one person right and the other wrong. Two totally different pathways IMO. Sheesh...
I can see your concern, but she did look into other aspects and decided on HSing for more than just the initial reasons (very fast paced curriculum). Also, it's a pretty good assumption that it lies within the school since it started when she started school, it's where she's having the accidents, etc. It's not like it's halfway through the year and just starting... it was almost an exact time correlation from the way she described it.
Yes, it would be good to find out exactly what is going on, but in someways it might be near impossible - especially seeing that they don't seem to want to work with her. It's like trying to find out the root cause of a fight between kids... there's always a different story depending on who you talk to and likely you will never know the truth.
That one thing follows shortly after another does not mean that the first caused the second. It can be pure coincidence. But, you are also looking at a HOST of possibilities that could be the cause. Going to public school is not THE cause. Operate from knowledge, not ignorance.
Did you seriously just call me ignorant in a round about way? Wow... I'm totally speechless at this point.
I'm trying to support the OP in her decision to HS her child... not rake her over the coals for her decision process. Some people may not be as outspoken as others, or as pushy (I am one of them!). I love my children, I truly do, but I am not one to go in raising he** when there might be other options. My husbands aunt is the other way around. It takes different people to make the world go round. I'm proud of her for doing what she feels is best for her child - just b/c you two would have gone about it a different way doesn't make one person right and the other wrong. Two totally different pathways IMO. Sheesh...
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