Maybe I should start a new thread about my experience owning my first horse. I have only had my horse 2 years. Wow I have been in your exact situation with a thread or two of mine.
It is hard to read people through a computer to start with on both sides. We only know what we type. We don't know each other personally so it is not personal. Don't let it get that way. I have been there too. That is another issue and more then personal at this point.
Where to start.....I was 34 and bought my first horse 2 years ago. I was and am a still very much a beginner. I had not been on a horse or even so much as touched one since I was 13 or so and oh did I have some guts back then. I really wish I still had them. I drove 6-8 hours to buy my horse based on this pic.
In this pic she was a month old. First off I did not even occur to me that horses grow so big so fast. I did not even think to ask for current pics. She looks small and harmless right. Thinking to myself I can handle her, train her wtc. and know exactly what I have. Instead of trusting some horse someone tries to sell me on craigslist. That was my reasoning and mind you I had not yet joined this site.
I get there and for one there was a price issue....not really I thought the horse was cheaper then what the owner wanted based on his ad but this was not mentioned or clarified till I was there and handed him the money. Now what she looked like when I got there. Like 3 to 4 times the size and only 5 1/2 months old and a totally different color also. Here is what she looked like in the first week of being at her new home.
Still very pretty but very hyper, did not know how to load in a trailer, but after that distance of a drive and all we took her anyways. She was a late fall baby so she was not worked with all winter. She trailer-ed 8 hours home. I got her the following feb after she was born.
We get home I don't really remember getting her in her pen but I do remember the next week very well to follow. Her hooves were over grown....and cracking up the center. I thought it was an immediate need to get them trimmed. I don't know any farriers around here. I decide to look on craigslist and just so happens some guy is coming the next day my way for some regular clients. The farrier is scheduled to come the next day at 10am. I run down to the store in the morning to get money out and when I get back he is here. I am in sandals by the way. Well this farrier was a old guy and very impatient come to find out. He told me he is going to use a twitch and I have no idea what that is. Truthfully made things way worse and never again was he welcome back. I this young baby untrained never had her feet lifted and him having the twitch so tight blood is coming out her pores. I do get kicked in this process with a sharp cut hoof as my horse was trying to get up and away from the farrier. When the farrier told me he was gonna use the twitch he said this won't hurt the horse a bit it will just get this done faster. I was on the same side when he was trimming the back feet, the fronts were not that hard to do, but for him to do the back he was practically sitting on her and he dropped the one foot he was working with and she went flying up and forward and her newly cut hoof went right in the front of my leg about ankle high and no medical insurance at the time. Oh my did it hurt I wanted to cry so bad....glad it was cold out I think it numbed the pain a tad. I think something was def. broken it hurt for weeks and still may does if pressed hard in that spot and I have a scar too. Her hoof cut me as well it was so sharp. In hindsight I probably should have let her settle in for a week and then went on to that if not longer to get her use to lifting her feet as well.
The next day I had to work and traveling at the time and I wanted to work with her a bit so we went on a walk. She had a halter on so I left it on. Everything was great till we got to the gate of her pen and she was to go in. She flew in and flipped around rearing. I was freaked out I was gonna let her go lead line on and all still but she finally stayed down and I unclipped the lead and got out of there. This is my pig pen and rectangle shaped and no pigs at the time. When she got loose she went crazy running back and fourth side to side and yes got caught up in the fence and into the cows "no barb wire in the middle so lucky". She did however hurt her leg but I think just sprained it she had a limp for a couple days she got over it. She always had a fascination with the cows anyways. This is the herd animal part....I think this what she wanted all along and it made her feel safe and comfortable to be with them she grew up with them in the big pasture and they were fine together. Now she can't be with the cows she is too rough.
So she stayed in this pen for a few more days and her halter came off some how. Great so now I caught even catch her. I had to call a neighbor to catch her for me. When he did she was loaded in the horse trailer. She does not know how to load so my husband and the other guy locked hands and bucketed her butt up in the trailer cause she sure was not going anytime soon. I sent her off to a trainer for 2 months to learn respect and ground manners. I am absolutely terrified at this point. Part is her breed and part is she is just a baby and untrained and so am I in all aspects.
A couple not so good things happened at this trainers that I know of. Also she learned tons and when she came home, her feet could be lifted, haltered, she wanted to come to you and be with you. She could be touched everywhere, I could groom her, I could have her lay down I could sit on her while laying down. I could go on and on. She did start bitting. Yes I was bit once after coming home and she was in big trouble. It sure hurt and has not happened again since and I did not have to make her bleed or make marks on her to stop it from happening again.
Oh yeah that training was $500 a month and I paid for my own feed. Since then she has been home and not really worked with. I can do all the basics with her but now not knowing much myself and not wanting to pay for a trainer cause I can't really afford it she sits there. She is not challenged in anyway or myself with her and that is what I want.
You can see my plan has not went so good. I am still learning and do everyday.
I think I am who patandchickens has mentioned earlier about looking for a bomb proof horse and if not I am and have been since last Oct. here is that thread if you want to look at it.
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=404637 I am still looking for a good horse and I have some stipulations but I am not gonna get another horse and be in this same situation. I am stuck with a lovely girl that I can't use or give her what she needs. I will learn and we will keep at this together. I do not agree with getting more then one horse if you can't afford it or for no reason then other to give a single horse company. I want another horse but one I can use and I know what to get, what I want and need so much better then 2 years ago.
I have barb wire on my fencing. It was already up and usable so we starting using it but it will be replaced soon, she is the only horse, and was a bit under weight going into winter, along with not being challenged. What do I do now? Well she will stay here but this is the kind of situation that some posters are trying to help you not get into.
Here is another thread of mine.....looking for a better trainer and got into feeding issues and other stuff. Might be of interest for you to read.
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=422280
Good luck!