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Terrified of something....
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Honey..i havent read all the others posts..but Please DO NOT allow this boy to touch you if it makes you feel uncomfortable. You have asked him to stop..he hasnt..thats called sexual harrasment. Dont feel sorry for him...Make it very clear that he is NOT to touch you again or you are going to tell on him..and when you do tell on him, he can get in BIG trouble ...I am sure if you tell your teachers/guidence people that he keeps touching you and it makes you feel uncomfortable..they WILL do something to help you..they HAVE to..*trust me on this..* Please dont let anyone EVER do this to you! also...tell your parents!!! *i dont know if you have or not yet* Hugs!
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AWWWWWW!
Like I have told another person here: Being a young person sometimes really bites. Then you grow up and get bills
Being young AND having bills is a double whammy. Mucho suckish.
77 -- it'll be okay, sweetheart. From what I can tell, there are people like that everywhere, so unfortunately it's something we've all got to get accustomed to.
AWWWWWW!
Being young AND having bills is a double whammy. Mucho suckish.
77 -- it'll be okay, sweetheart. From what I can tell, there are people like that everywhere, so unfortunately it's something we've all got to get accustomed to.
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this!!!
You are getting a lot of good avice, but one thing I HAD to say, even though others have already said it, is:
It is never, ever, EVER okay for someone to touch you without your permission and make you feel unfomfortable!!!! It is kinda a "big deal" (!!!)
And adults; parents, teachers, guidance counselor, whomever... should probably have a "zero tolerance" type of mindset, and help someone who is being touched, REPEATEDLY, in a way that upsets you... regardless of if this boy has a disability or not.
"Being nice" about a disability means stuff like don't make fun of someone, don't try and make someone feel "different" or sad about the issue, etc., etc... It does *NOT* mean let someone touch you!!!
You are getting a lot of good avice, but one thing I HAD to say, even though others have already said it, is:
It is never, ever, EVER okay for someone to touch you without your permission and make you feel unfomfortable!!!! It is kinda a "big deal" (!!!)
And adults; parents, teachers, guidance counselor, whomever... should probably have a "zero tolerance" type of mindset, and help someone who is being touched, REPEATEDLY, in a way that upsets you... regardless of if this boy has a disability or not.
"Being nice" about a disability means stuff like don't make fun of someone, don't try and make someone feel "different" or sad about the issue, etc., etc... It does *NOT* mean let someone touch you!!!
Oh 77 if I were there I'd give you a big ol' hug!
You got some good advice, write a note, tell a teacher or counselor. Or better yet, tell your parents! I am hoping they are the type of parents that would take your concerns seriously and make sure the bullying stops. Oh yes, it is bullying. Disability or not.
Having a disability doesn't give him the right to bully you. In the same way that it wouldn't give anyone else the right to, for example: make fun of him if he drooled all the time.
Now, what everyone is telling you about the "no touching" rule is spot on. No one has the right to invade your personal space. This is a lesson you need to learn right now. No is no. Don't touch me, doesn't mean, keep on touching me anyway I won't do anything about it.
Now all this good advice from everyone else being said. Sometimes a little embarrassement can go a loooong way to curb this type of behavior. It will take a little backbone on your part but it's time to get one!
Since you suspect that his "poking disability" is really just an excuse to act out next time he pokes you, yell really loudly! "OUCH! SOMEONE JUST POKED ME REALLY HARD! I NEED TO SEE THE SCHOOL NURSE! I THINK I MAY BE BRUISED!" Then whirl around and stare at the culprit. A few tears would be a great addition to the whole show, so work 'em up!
And remember we're always here to talk to!
You got some good advice, write a note, tell a teacher or counselor. Or better yet, tell your parents! I am hoping they are the type of parents that would take your concerns seriously and make sure the bullying stops. Oh yes, it is bullying. Disability or not.
Having a disability doesn't give him the right to bully you. In the same way that it wouldn't give anyone else the right to, for example: make fun of him if he drooled all the time.
Now, what everyone is telling you about the "no touching" rule is spot on. No one has the right to invade your personal space. This is a lesson you need to learn right now. No is no. Don't touch me, doesn't mean, keep on touching me anyway I won't do anything about it.
Now all this good advice from everyone else being said. Sometimes a little embarrassement can go a loooong way to curb this type of behavior. It will take a little backbone on your part but it's time to get one!
Since you suspect that his "poking disability" is really just an excuse to act out next time he pokes you, yell really loudly! "OUCH! SOMEONE JUST POKED ME REALLY HARD! I NEED TO SEE THE SCHOOL NURSE! I THINK I MAY BE BRUISED!" Then whirl around and stare at the culprit. A few tears would be a great addition to the whole show, so work 'em up!
And remember we're always here to talk to!
You have gotten a LOT of good advice here! 3 things I was going to stress to you, that other people have already...
1. If you cry when you are telling the teacher, it might make more of an impact. Especially if you took the time to write it out and she sees that even handing her the letter still gets you upset.
2. Yell out in pain when he pokes you. Make it sound more painful than it is, because NO ONE can tell how much pain it is causing you inside. KWIM?
3. He doesn't have any right to touch you. Have you told your parents, or are you able to talk to them about it? Is there a teacher or counselor there that you do feel like you can talk to? Maybe they can help you turn him in. Also, you don't say how old he is. Does your school have an officer there? If he is 17 or older than you, there are legal issues here, too. Talk to someone in authority, PLEASE!
The good thing is, school is almost over. Hopefully they won't put you in any classes with him next year. If you are able to talk to your parents about it, they should be able to get your schedule fixed so that you don't have to see him. Maybe you won't even have lunch with him!!!
Keep us posted, sweetie!
Shelly
1. If you cry when you are telling the teacher, it might make more of an impact. Especially if you took the time to write it out and she sees that even handing her the letter still gets you upset.
2. Yell out in pain when he pokes you. Make it sound more painful than it is, because NO ONE can tell how much pain it is causing you inside. KWIM?
3. He doesn't have any right to touch you. Have you told your parents, or are you able to talk to them about it? Is there a teacher or counselor there that you do feel like you can talk to? Maybe they can help you turn him in. Also, you don't say how old he is. Does your school have an officer there? If he is 17 or older than you, there are legal issues here, too. Talk to someone in authority, PLEASE!
The good thing is, school is almost over. Hopefully they won't put you in any classes with him next year. If you are able to talk to your parents about it, they should be able to get your schedule fixed so that you don't have to see him. Maybe you won't even have lunch with him!!!
Keep us posted, sweetie!
Shelly
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Kids can be mentally unstable too.
Tell your folks of course, tell your teacher that he as no right to touch you.
From the words of my father to my sisters as they entered school,
"If a boy tries to touch you, grab his finger, then pull it hard behind his hand. I bet he'll never try to touch you again."
Tell your folks of course, tell your teacher that he as no right to touch you.
From the words of my father to my sisters as they entered school,
"If a boy tries to touch you, grab his finger, then pull it hard behind his hand. I bet he'll never try to touch you again."
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Kids can be mentally unstable too.
Tell your folks of course, tell your teacher that he as no right to touch you.
From the words of my father to my sisters as they entered school,
"If a boy tries to touch you, grab his finger, then pull it hard behind his hand. I bet he'll never try to touch you again."
Good idea.
Thanks everyone SOOO much! Everyone here is so helpful and caring!
Even after reading these responses I'm getting emotional.
If he's in my class next year, I think I may write a letter to my teacher and sneak it onto her/his desk. But then the next day she/he will probably talk to me in the hall about it and I will most likely get emotional....so embarrassing!
If he walks up to me and pokes me at all, I'm gonna yell(if I can), "STOP POKING ME! YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO INVADE MY PERSONAL SPACE AND THE NEXT TIME YOU DO I WILL MAKE SURE YOU GET SUSPENDED!!!!"
*kicks him*
I've really had enough of this kid once and for all. At least that's what I think, but like I said, it can be hard to express what I'm thinking. Like right now I feel like I could yell at him in front of everyone, but when it comes down to it it seems harder to actually do.
But boy would I love to give him a peace of my mind.....
Thanks again everyone! love you guys so much!
P.S. this kid is 12-13(I think). I'm a little older than he is.
Kids can be mentally unstable too.
Tell your folks of course, tell your teacher that he as no right to touch you.
From the words of my father to my sisters as they entered school,
"If a boy tries to touch you, grab his finger, then pull it hard behind his hand. I bet he'll never try to touch you again."
Good idea.
Thanks everyone SOOO much! Everyone here is so helpful and caring!
If he's in my class next year, I think I may write a letter to my teacher and sneak it onto her/his desk. But then the next day she/he will probably talk to me in the hall about it and I will most likely get emotional....so embarrassing!
If he walks up to me and pokes me at all, I'm gonna yell(if I can), "STOP POKING ME! YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO INVADE MY PERSONAL SPACE AND THE NEXT TIME YOU DO I WILL MAKE SURE YOU GET SUSPENDED!!!!"
I've really had enough of this kid once and for all. At least that's what I think, but like I said, it can be hard to express what I'm thinking. Like right now I feel like I could yell at him in front of everyone, but when it comes down to it it seems harder to actually do.
Thanks again everyone! love you guys so much!
P.S. this kid is 12-13(I think). I'm a little older than he is.
Just agreeing with everyone else - he has absolutely no right to touch you. I would demand the principal get the situation under control and respect YOUR rights. If the principal doesn't do anything, a call to the superintendent will get things moving like you wouldn't believe
If that fails (which I don't think it will) you could always politely let the administrators know that you have a great article in mind to suggest to the local news - students violating students, no help from administration
What you might want to do is tell them about it now and demand that they make sure you will not end up in the same class. Then you won't have to think about it at all before the next year starts
And about the over-emotional crying thing - you're not as alone as you think! I did it....and I was in college
Actually, I just did it last week too in front of my MIL
What you might want to do is tell them about it now and demand that they make sure you will not end up in the same class. Then you won't have to think about it at all before the next year starts
And about the over-emotional crying thing - you're not as alone as you think! I did it....and I was in college
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Step 1 : learn karate!
-just kidding
(fighting never solves anything!)
OK so the REAL step one : PLAN AHEAD!
think of responses in your head BEFORE the situation
it sounds corny but it takes away the pressure of having to be quick on your feet.
Step two: talk to a teacher
and if you dont want your classmates see you cry, wait till every one leaves the room so its just u and the teacher so that u can tell her about the poking kid.
(i had to deal w/ a guy like this at my school too)
-just kidding
OK so the REAL step one : PLAN AHEAD!
think of responses in your head BEFORE the situation
it sounds corny but it takes away the pressure of having to be quick on your feet.
Step two: talk to a teacher
and if you dont want your classmates see you cry, wait till every one leaves the room so its just u and the teacher so that u can tell her about the poking kid.
(i had to deal w/ a guy like this at my school too)
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