The NFC B-Day Chat Thread

[janiedoe]

Speaking of hurricanes, Hurricane Little DIane leaves tomorrow. Not sure how I feel about it…..part of me will miss her bright giggle and her company. But the other part of me is about over her staying up until 2,3, even 4 in the morning, sleeping until noon or later, helping herself to whatever, and her absolute addiction to her phone and tablet. First night here I asked her to wait until after dinner to do whatever it was that was so important. By her 3rd night here I finally laid down the law - I didn’t spend time cooking a great meal just to see her let it get cold while she has her face buried in her electronics. I picked up her plate and stuck it in the fridge. When she questioned what I was doing, I told her it was dinner time, but if her electronics were that important she could go sit on the porch and electronic away, then eat when she was finished with it.

If there’s something in the pantry, fridge, or freezer she wants, it’ll be gone when we get up, with the mess from making it still left in my beautiful new kitchen. That includes things I may have been planning to use for the next night’s meal. There’s a makeup stain on the guest room carpet. Yesterday while we were gone she decided she wanted to dye her hair. Red. I hope that comes out of the tub. I swear, she’s more like 17 than 27. Can’t help me in the yard because she’s “allergic to weeds, grass, and flowers”. Can’t help me with the chickens because she gets “major anxiety” around them. <sigh>

But she and Ken put on the new storm door on the front, she takes great care of the dogs, and her laundry is always done and put away neatly. She makes her bed (when she finally gets out of it) and takes out the trash at the first sign of it being full. The patio door wasn’t working right, so she and Ken got that fixed. They installed 2 ceiling fans. She helped a lot while I was in the hospital and when I got home.

Now she’s decided to sell her house in Sioux Falls and move back here. She announced that last night. Grampa let her know in no uncertain terms that this visit she’s been a guest - and not a very courteous one. When she comes back, she’ll be a resident, which means she’s on her own. She can stay with us for a couple of weeks until she meets her two priorities. First priority is a job, second is a place to live because she’s not living here. He told her she will not be permitted to be a “basement-dwelling adult”. We aren’t driving to SF and helping with her packing and hauling her stuff back here, and she’s not stuffing our garage with her junk. She’ll have to do all of that on her own, including renting a storage unit. She seemed a little less enamored with the idea after that, so we’ll see. I think she thought WE’D move her back in with us so she could continue the routine she’s established here. Nope. Not happening.

Am I being unreasonable? This 2 week visit has been a month long trial. And it’s not like we haven’t set boundaries…..she just has this attitude of still being a kid with Gramma and Grampa being responsible for her like when she was little. She’s not little anymore!!

I admire you and Ken, Blooie. If not for my husband, I'd probably be supporting every grandchild we have. Em, my mini-me, & only granddaughter, and (former) teenage mom of my only great-granddaughter is a lot like your little Diane.
Be happy your Diane hasn't had a baby of her own.
Em's a loving mother, but she isn't terribly responsible. She loves cosmetics, sellfies, and her phone more than food. Lol
Thankfully, she has a good parental support group, and not just me to rely on.

I wish you lots of luck with little Diane and her big move. Will she still be adopting the dog?

 

[N F C]

Speaking of hurricanes, Hurricane Little DIane leaves tomorrow. Not sure how I feel about it…..part of me will miss her bright giggle and her company. But the other part of me is about over her staying up until 2,3, even 4 in the morning, sleeping until noon or later, helping herself to whatever, and her absolute addiction to her phone and tablet. First night here I asked her to wait until after dinner to do whatever it was that was so important. By her 3rd night here I finally laid down the law - I didn’t spend time cooking a great meal just to see her let it get cold while she has her face buried in her electronics. I picked up her plate and stuck it in the fridge. When she questioned what I was doing, I told her it was dinner time, but if her electronics were that important she could go sit on the porch and electronic away, then eat when she was finished with it.

If there’s something in the pantry, fridge, or freezer she wants, it’ll be gone when we get up, with the mess from making it still left in my beautiful new kitchen. That includes things I may have been planning to use for the next night’s meal. There’s a makeup stain on the guest room carpet. Yesterday while we were gone she decided she wanted to dye her hair. Red. I hope that comes out of the tub. I swear, she’s more like 17 than 27. Can’t help me in the yard because she’s “allergic to weeds, grass, and flowers”. Can’t help me with the chickens because she gets “major anxiety” around them. <sigh>

But she and Ken put on the new storm door on the front, she takes great care of the dogs, and her laundry is always done and put away neatly. She makes her bed (when she finally gets out of it) and takes out the trash at the first sign of it being full. The patio door wasn’t working right, so she and Ken got that fixed. They installed 2 ceiling fans. She helped a lot while I was in the hospital and when I got home.

Now she’s decided to sell her house in Sioux Falls and move back here. She announced that last night. Grampa let her know in no uncertain terms that this visit she’s been a guest - and not a very courteous one. When she comes back, she’ll be a resident, which means she’s on her own. She can stay with us for a couple of weeks until she meets her two priorities. First priority is a job, second is a place to live because she’s not living here. He told her she will not be permitted to be a “basement-dwelling adult”. We aren’t driving to SF and helping with her packing and hauling her stuff back here, and she’s not stuffing our garage with her junk. She’ll have to do all of that on her own, including renting a storage unit. She seemed a little less enamored with the idea after that, so we’ll see. I think she thought WE’D move her back in with us so she could continue the routine she’s established here. Nope. Not happening.

Am I being unreasonable? This 2 week visit has been a month long trial. And it’s not like we haven’t set boundaries…..she just has this attitude of still being a kid with Gramma and Grampa being responsible for her like when she was little. She’s not little anymore!!

Not unreasonable at all Blooie!

 

[Blooie]

I admire you and Ken, Blooie. If not for my husband, I'd probably be supporting every grandchild we have. Em, my mini-me, & only granddaughter, and (former) teenage mom of my only great-granddaughter is a lot like your little Diane.
Be happy your Diane hasn't had a baby of her own.
Em's a loving mother, but she isn't terribly responsible. She loves cosmetics, sellfies, and her phone more than food. Lol
Thankfully, she has a good parental support group, and not just me to rely on.
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I wish you lots of luck with little Diane and her big move. Will she still be adopting the dog?

No children to worry about….she won’t be having any. She has an inherited condition called Marfans Syndrome, a condioti9n of the connective tissues in the body. Her dad and half-sister have it very severely, but fortunately Bumbley isn’t as symptomatic as they are. She has the crowded mouth, weak joints, pigeon chest, and extremely long digits, and her aorta is monitored for dissection, and that’s it. But she decided years ago that in her family, it stops with her. We had custody of her and her brother for years, then she went back to Sioux Falls to live with her dad.

Like your Em, her primary interests are her cosmetics, selfies, and her electronics. So unlike the young lady who owned her own business and bought her own home at 22 years old. She had so much drive and ambition but let failed relationships take all the oomph out of her. I’d like to help her find that Diane again, but I can’t - I won’t - do it for her. I think sometimes we have to love them enough to let them hate us for a little while. Your Em is a beautiful young lady! So is our Little DIane.

Not unreasonable at all Blooie!

I didn’t think so, but I guess I needed some validation. This is not the child we raised. <sigh>

 

[Grammy60]

Good afternoon everyone So sorry I'm not around much, but the grandkids are keeping me busy and my thoughts off of my reality. Have an awesome day

@Blooie and @janiedoe your daughter's are beautiful

 

[janiedoe]

No children to worry about….she won’t be having any. She has an inherited condition called Marfans Syndrome, a condioti9n of the connective tissues in the body. Her dad and half-sister have it very severely, but fortunately Bumbley isn’t as symptomatic as they are. She has the crowded mouth, weak joints, pigeon chest, and extremely long digits, and her aorta is monitored for dissection, and that’s it. But she decided years ago that in her family, it stops with her. We had custody of her and her brother for years, then she went back to Sioux Falls to live with her dad.

Like your Em, her primary interests are her cosmetics, selfies, and her electronics. So unlike the young lady who owned her own business and bought her own home at 22 years old. She had so much drive and ambition but let failed relationships take all the oomph out of her. I’d like to help her find that Diane again, but I can’t - I won’t - do it for her. I think sometimes we have to love them enough to let them hate us for a little while. Your Em is a beautiful young lady! So is our Little DIane.
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I didn’t think so, but I guess I needed some validation. This is not the child we raised. <sigh>

She is so beautiful, Blooie.
I am familiar with Marfans. I wouldn't have guessed that she had it. The two people that I've know, who've had it, had much more noticable features.
I'm glad she isn't letting it hold her back. In fact, none of your grands have let diagnoses hold them back. That is very unusual and admirable, in today's world, where everyone touts their diagnosis, and uses it as an excuse for laziness.
I have to offer kudos for your influence on them.

Good afternoon everyone So sorry I'm not around much, but the grandkids are keeping me busy and my thoughts off of my reality. Have an awesome day

@Blooie and @janiedoe your daughter's are beautiful

Thank you Sue! I'm glad you dropped in, we miss you.

 

[DigMyChicks]

I admire you and Ken, Blooie. If not for my husband, I'd probably be supporting every grandchild we have. Em, my mini-me, & only granddaughter, and (former) teenage mom of my only great-granddaughter is a lot like your little Diane.
Be happy your Diane hasn't had a baby of her own.
Em's a loving mother, but she isn't terribly responsible. She loves cosmetics, sellfies, and her phone more than food. Lol
Thankfully, she has a good parental support group, and not just me to rely on.
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I wish you lots of luck with little Diane and her big move. Will she still be adopting the dog?

Wow, she does look like you! She’s very pretty.

 

[N F C]

@janiedoe and @Blooie you both have gorgeous grand-girls!

 

[DigMyChicks]

The dumpster is gone. I can’t wait until our place is back to normal. The rafters were supposed to come this week…haven’t seen them yet. I don’t know if they deliver on Saturday’s. We are getting ready for cement, not sure what that all involves. We started digging dirt under our back deck, not quite done yet. We’re putting a cement slab there. It’s always a wet, weedy, mess. I’m hoping everything is done before I go back to school. Our damaged shed will not be done by then.

 

[janiedoe]

Wow, she does look like you! She’s very pretty.

Thank you, DMC. She is a sweet girl, just a little naive.

@janiedoe and @Blooie you both have gorgeous grand-girls!

Thank you, Debby.

The dumpster is gone. I can’t wait until our place is back to normal. The rafters were supposed to come this week…haven’t seen them yet. I don’t know if they deliver on Saturday’s. We are getting ready for cement, not sure what that all involves. We started digging dirt under our back deck, not quite done yet. We’re putting a cement slab there. It’s always a wet, weedy, mess. I’m hoping everything is done before I go back to school. Our damaged shed will not be done by then.
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I love that retaining wall. Is it dark brick?

 

[DigMyChicks]

Thank you, DMC. She is a sweet girl, just a little naive.

Thank you, Debby.

I love that retaining wall. Is it dark brick?

Thanks, it’s a charcoal gray brick. It needs TLC. They are really to small to hold back dirt. This is my flower retaining wall, same brick. The back is starting to shift and get uneven.