She can “say” anything, Kelsey, and has been for doing that for a couple of years.  By 2 she knew all of the alphabet, any case, any font, in any order.  By 2.5 she knew all the letters’ sounds.  (If you watch that video again, listen really hard after she puts up the letter “c”.  She knew she needed the H and says “ch” to reinforce in her mind what other letter she needed to make that sound.  Tell her the name of something once and she remembers and says it every time she sees that object, even if it looks different from the original one.  Reading the words out loud? Again, been doing that for a long long time - nouns, sight words, names - and if she doesn’t recognize a word she sounds it out.  She just doesn’t converse, and that’s what we have to teach her.  It’s a heck of a lot harder than it seems like it would be because we don’t know how much of speech she understands.
Imagine that someone is speaking to you in a foreign language.  Some words are universal, and some are heard so often you have a grasp of what those single words mean in English. But you still aren’t understanding the structure of the conversation, the other parts that make it make it understandable  so that you can respond in correct, complete thoughts. I think that’s where Kendra is, but I can’t get anyone to believe me because I have no formal training to back it up.  She can pick up on the familiar word in an entire sentence, and respond or use the word for that correctly.  But if I ask her to say a simple “Yes, please,” I’ll either get “yes” or “please”, but I won’t get both together.  Same with “want”.  We go around in circles with that one...she says “want”, I say “Want what?” And she will repeat “what.”  On and on.  So I’m starting there on the fridge....with that simple concept....and I’ll try to build from there.
I don’t know.  I’m winging it here.  Every speech therapist we’ve ever had is totally flummoxed by her, including the new on-line sessions we’ve started.  They give this long explanation of what they expect her to do, but she grabs a single word out of that long sentence and that becomes her focus.  If the therapist says, “I want you to find the biggest butterfly and put it on the last flower,” Kendra grabs any butterfly and puts it on any flower.  In her mind she’s completed the task.  The therapist doesn’t see it that way and moves it back to start over. Kendra thinks she’s wrong and shuts down.
It’s just so frustrating for her and for me...sometimes I can see it so clearly and think I’ve explained what I think is going on, but it’s not what the “book” says so they nod politely and go on with doing it all as they’ve been taught. So every day I sit at the table with Kendra, or on the floor, and we repeat and build, repeat and build.  I just don’t know what else to do but I can’t give up on her. We need play and giggle time too, so there are plenty of breaks. But I won’t accept less from her than I think she can give, and I don’t how much that really is.
Sorry, another book that nobody asked for but got anyway.  You are all so incredibly supportive and enthusiastic for her I can’t even begin to tell you how that makes my heart feel. 
