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duluthralphie said:
Whether you would like it or you are creative does not matter. It is extremely illegal to import another rolling pin into Minnesota. We are trying to get rid of those we have.  They are used in way too many attacks on us innocent men.
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I doubt an innocent man has ever been hit with a rolling pin
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N F C said:
See...that's why I don't like Facebook and don't partake. If I really wanted to stay in touch with someone, I'd do it via phone calls, letters, email, visits, etc. Who needs their life "out there" for everyone that wants to can get at it one way or another. I used to work with an IT person that made a hobby out of tapping into other people's private FB accounts just out of nosiness and because she could, not because she was on their Friend list. As easy as it was for her to do, most anyone could do it.

Sorry Blooie, that just made me mad to think you got handed that plate of tripe. Mean people just suck and that's the truth.
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Blooie said:
I guess what goes up must come down.  I just got a private message on FB that threw me for such a loop and if I don't vent I'll explode!  A message popped up from a cousin of mine.  Now, you might remember that the man who raised me was my stepdad, and he later adopted me and Linda when we were adults.  He had one sister (who would be my aunt) that always seemed so stuffy.  My sister Linda said one time that it wasn't my imagination either.  She'd overheard this aunt telling my beloved Uncle Lloyd (Dad's other sister's husband) at a family gathering that Dad had married beneath him, and was saddled with two girls before he even settled into being married.  Uncle Lloyd shut her up right quick, telling her that Dad was smart enough to recognize a blessing when he saw it. 

So anyway, this catty aunt raised 4 kids who also had superiority complexes.  We never hung around with them much at gatherings, preferring the cousins who didn't mind getting their clothes dirty and climbing apple trees, so I've just sort of forgotten about them through the years.  So a few minutes ago I got this message from this cousin I haven't seen since I was 16:

"Diane, I am your cousin Deborah __________________. I see its your're birthday. Happy birthday. Kathy (a favorite cousin of mine - Lloyd's daughter) said she has been friends with you and helped me find you. They spend the night here on their way  back to Rapid City and she pulled up your page after breakfast when we were talking about the family. Have been reading your wall off and on for a couplehours before they left. It looks like you have quiet a family. I was a little suprised at how many friends you have too because you never liked people before.  You don't look the same you did when we were kids. I read you are a writer. Did you ever quit stuttering because your defect made it hard to want to do stuff with you when we were little. I'm sorry you have a grandchild who is also defective.  Anyway, it looks like you did alright anyway with all your problems.  I'm going to send you a friend request so we can catch up." 

Now how the he!! was I supposed to take that???  I am so mad I can't see straight!  I'm afraid I'm even madder about my response because it was so out of character for me.  But I  made it short and sweet.

"Hello Deborah.  I may have changed, but sadly it seems like you haven't.  All of the friends and family you have seen on my FB page love me, defects and all.  So I guess at this point all I can say is that I've obviously done just fine without you for the past 50 years and I'm sure I'll continue to thrive if we keep it that way.  Sorry, but there's just no room in my world for negativity."

And of course, now as usual I'm second guessing myself.  Maybe she didn't mean as mean as it came out....maybe she's ill and trying to make amends....maybe she's just curious?  Whatever the reason, I have managed to let her burst the little joy bubble I had built the past week and I'm furious that I let her do that - again!  Grrrrr  And I'm sure Kathy meant well...we have been cousin/buddies since we were 5 years old and she's an incredible friend.  But grrrrrr!!
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Holy crap Blooie...I'm with you! I think we found a better use for that rolling pin then cookies
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Don't let her ruin your fabulous Christmas. Your family was given Kendra for a reason as you are blessed by her
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N F C said:
See...that's why I don't like Facebook and don't partake. If I really wanted to stay in touch with someone, I'd do it via phone calls, letters, email, visits, etc. Who needs their life "out there" for everyone that wants to can get at it one way or another. I used to work with an IT person that made a hobby out of tapping into other people's private FB accounts just out of nosiness and because she could, not because she was on their Friend list. As easy as it was for her to do, most anyone could do it.

Sorry Blooie, that just made me mad to think you got handed that plate of tripe. Mean people just suck and that's the truth.
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I don't have Facebook either. I have a friend who joined Facebook just to stalk people, no thanks!! I did just join a cat site like BYC and hope it's as fabulous as our thread here.
 
I LOVE Facebook. This was a one time, unusual event. I've never had anyone post anything negative on my page, and by turning down "Cousin It's" friend request it will stay that way!

It's been a lifesaver to keep up with friends and family that are scattered all over the place, and we have one, invitation only strictly family page so that when Ashley has stuff coming up or Linda is having issues, someone just has to post there once and we all keep up. Saves them making dozens of phone calls or receiving concerned phone calls when it might not be the best time. Ken had such a hard time maneuvering here to let you know about my heart attack in February, but to let family know he just posted once on FB and was able to update real quick on his phone, so when we knew something, they knew it too, and it was all in one place, first hand instead of "Well, Ken called and said he'd talked to Linda, who said she'd talked to Ron and found out.....yada yada" One of the happiest times I've had was when I signed on to FB and saw a notification of a new post on the family page was when Russ posted the first photo of Linda out of ICU...and there is always some personal medical information that you just don't want publicly displayed. My entire family has all of their other FB accounts set up so that only people who are listed as "friends" can see posts as well.

My family has been able to watch Kendra's progress from day one, and when we went back there in September 2014 for Little Diane's wedding they already "knew" Kendra. So we weren't introducing this little being in a wheelchair, and Linda's house was already set up to accommodate her special needs just as well as we are here at home, with no delays and no uncertainty.

So if you use it right, and simply don't tolerate garbage, it's just as useful and fun a place as BYC is. At least that's been my experience. Shoot, I've put more of my life "out there" here than I have there!
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@CTKen , I hope that remark was worth the trouble you're in now!
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Well, now that my chin has come up off the keyboard (and I have deleted the extraneous letters that resulted from the editor), I must say, Blooie, I am aghast. Children can be beasts, but I find it impossible to believe that any normal adult could say what your cousin did and not expect to cause offense. The only possible excuse I can come up with is that she has had some sort of brain event that has removed her "filter," in which case, she isn't completely responsible for anything she says, or the damage it may cause.

But whether your cousin is vicious, or stupid, or just "defective" herself, I think keeping your distance from her is the only logical thing for you to do. You didn't deserve this kind of treatment, you never did, and I'm sorry to hear that the scars got opened up again like that.
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