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Morning everyone :frow

Bob- it's hard to know what to do, what to say. Being in a similar situation a few years ago, I recieved advice from just about everyone I knew, most of it wasn't even asked for....especially from family and their advice wasn't very good. I finally just decided that if it was me in that horrible condition that I would still want to know about the condition of another relative. It's hard to make that decision but I felt it was the only 'right' thing to do!
I'm truly sorry to hear of your situation, I know the pain, anxiety and sadness you feel all around.
You and your family are in my prayers!
 
007Sean said:
Morning everyone :frow

Bob- it's hard to know what to do, what to say. Being in a similar situation a few years ago, I recieved advice from just about everyone I knew, most of it wasn't even asked for....especially from family and their advice wasn't very good. I finally just decided that if it was me in that horrible condition that I would still want to know about the condition of another relative. It's hard to make that decision but I felt it was the only 'right' thing to do!
I'm truly sorry to hear of your situation, I know the pain, anxiety and sadness you feel all around.
You and your family are in my prayers!
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morning sean:frow
 
rjohns39 said:
I think I have to let mom know what we're dealing with. How is the question, but I'm thinking have my best friend visit her so he can provide support when I tell her. I'm thinking I can't call her one day and tell her her great grandkid passed without advance notice.
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Bob, you've answered your own question and have provided a viable method of letting her know.

Blooie said:
I wish I had a magic answer. All I can tell you is how much I wish that I would have been able to hug my grandson Austin one more time and to tell him how very much I loved him. One minute he was an active part of my life, the next minute he was gone, and that’s pretty hard to wrap your head around. Tam was here picking up Evan as I read your post, and I hope you don’t mind that I shared it with her. (She works exclusively with the elderly in the Care Center and I thought she might have some insight).

She said as contrary to common sense as it seems, and as much as we want to protect our older people as they grow more fragile, one of the feelings they often have to deal with is the feeling of being isolated and no longer needed because they were excluded from a family celebration - or crisis, as in your family’s situation. Now obviously you know your mom’s physical health and state of mind far better than we do so I won’t even pretend to know exactly how you should handle this news. But I thought I’d pass on Tam’s experience consoling her beloved residents when the unthinkable happens and they felt like they were left totally out of what was happening. I guess everyone needs to feel needed in some way.

I am so terribly sorry for what you are all going through. Sending hugs and prayers.....
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@Blooie, well said as always.
 

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