Toddlers are Quackers

[kajira]

Hi Abi

Hello Everyone

and @kajira

you are a remarkable person

I made him cry earlier. He grabbed my rockstar when I was in the kitchen and dumped it all over my bed. ^.^
I yelled "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" really loud and he started to bawl.... LOL his little lip came out and everything. I felt so bad for making him cry! LOL

 

[BullChick]

I was tortured with needles from birth to four. Hospital stays and all. I also got my butt smacked if I acted up about going to the doctor or hospital. I don't hate my parents for teaching me right from wrong. Acting out only made the needles worse anyway.
I do resent the adults that act out because they were spoiled. ADD/ADHD/Bipolar are not excuses for bad behavior. Change the discipline, but get it done.

 

[DwayneNLiz]

I made him cry earlier. He grabbed my rockstar when I was in the kitchen and dumped it all over my bed. ^.^
I yelled "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" really loud and he started to bawl.... LOL his little lip came out and everything. I felt so bad for making him cry! LOL

lol, poor kid

 

[kajira]

I was tortured with needles from birth to four. Hospital stays and all. I also got my butt smacked if I acted up about going to the doctor or hospital. I don't hate my parents for teaching me right from wrong. Acting out only made the needles worse anyway.
I do resent the adults that act out because they were spoiled. ADD/ADHD/Bipolar are not excuses for bad behavior. Change the discipline, but get it done.

I'm a firm believer in discipline - but if the kid cognitively doesn't understand, you can't force them to make connections and spanking won't fix that.

When your kid has an anxiety attack that causes them to hyperventilate until they puke, because of their fear of doctors, you don't make it worse by hurting them. You help them work through it.

I've had PTSD type symptoms due to abuse, that type of fear is horrific. I was lucky that my husband loved me enough to help me work through it. But he didn't do it by hurting me. He did it by holding my hand and helping walk me through situations that terrified me, helping me face my fears with support.

I want to show my child compassion, because you don't make someone get over fear, by causing fear to be worse, or being afraid of more pain if they show emotions.

There's a huge difference between willful disobedience, and fear making you lash out.

 

[BullChick]

Well, as long as we remember to be respectful, there's nothing wrong with us voicing our opinions.
My opinion is that he understands more than you think. I worked with special education students for many years. When my neighbor told me that her 22-year-old sister was incapable of lying I about died. We were in a world where there are books and "professionals" to tell us anything we want to hear. I am going with experience.

 

[kajira]

Well, as long as we remember to be respectful, there's nothing wrong with us voicing our opinions.
My opinion is that he understands more than you think. I worked with special education students for many years. When my neighbor told me that her 22-year-old sister was incapable of lying I about died. We were in a world where there are books and "professionals" to tell us anything we want to hear. I am going with experience.

I know special needs people can lie. LOL I've never believed that myth for a second - and while I know my toddler does understand a lot - he's still only 2, and developmentally delayed in many ways. I pretty much disregard anything a specialist would say, if they speak of it as a universal truth.

Everyone is different. Every child is different, each kid should have things adapted to their unique personality and what works for their brain and what they respond too.

my daughter for example, will do anything for a quarter... or the opportunity to make cookies. LOL So just warn her you'll take a quarter away from her, or won't make cookies, and whatever undesirable behavior you don't want, she'll usually stop instantly.

 

[BullChick]

How to make Jell-O when your toddler is home
Grab a mixing bowl and individual dessert bowls.
Add one cup boiling water to one package of flavored gelatin. Mix well.
Add one cup of cold water. Stir, and pour into dessert bowls.
Place in the refrigerator for approximately four hours.
Put spoon in sink.
Forget you even made the jello.

How to make Jell-O when your toddler is away
Gather your Pyrex four cup glass measuring cup and shot glasses. The spout on the measuring cup prevents spillage.
Mix 1 cup of boiling water to one package of flavored gelatin.
Add three to four ice cubes to a one cup measuring cup. Fill the measuring cup with your favorite spirit. Don't drink it!
Mix into the gelatin. Laugh at the sight of the shot glasses. Place measuring cup in refrigerator for approximately ninety minutes. Leave the spoon in it.
Try not to drink before it's set.

 

[BullChick]

It's only half gone, and I didn't "drink" so much as slurp!

 

[Chaos18]

A gulp?

 

[BullChick]

We can go with that.
It's only 9 o'clock. Maybe I should make some more.