Trying to Convince...

[MissPrissy]

Even though you may not like it your mother makes the rules. Obey your mother.

Don't be fooled into thinking if you smuggle it home you'll somehow get to keep it.

As a parent what I say I mean. If I said no rooster and it was brought home anyway I would remove the rooster from the premises and there would be no chickens at all for a very long time for disobedience and disregard for my authority.

 

[Miltonchix]

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YEAH! Me too!
Ever heard the saying "mom knows best".
If for no other reason, its HER home and HER rules.
Because "I said so" should be reason enough.

 

[Bricheze]

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You need to work on your timing!

If you asked her immediately after she got home from work, she was probably really tired and stressed by the amount of work to get done around the house. She was likely thinking "Okay... gotta get dinner on the table, then do a couple loads of laundry, then clean the house, then get the kids ready for bed, then do..." Feel free to fill in the rest. Then you jump in and ask her to add one more thing to an already overflowing plate. No wonder she just said no.
Perhaps wait until she's relaxed. After the chores are all done (which perhaps you had a BIG hand in doing for her), after dinner and dishes are done (do you know how to cook?), after she has had a chance to unwind. She will be a lot more receptive to your request if she is not overwhelmed and stressed. Trust me. I was a kid that collected pets too. It's all about the timing. Well, that and showing that you are willing to take on more responsibility around the house to make her life easier. Privledges and responsibility go hand in hand.

Good luck!

I cleaned the house and all the animal cages really well before she came home last night for that very reason. Still no help, she wasn't stressed just completely not listening to me. YOu know I might be okay with it if she was saying things like I don't want the work of another animal, but, because she is trying to teach me something. Is why I don't like it; animals aren't meant to teach your kids they can't save the world. They are living breathing creatures and deserve to be treated as such.

We didn't eat dinner or anything last night, and I could tell that she wasn't stressed. It was like someone at her work had told her she better not let me get that rooster, and scolded her about turning me into a person who is going to get a million pets and not be able to take care of them. Cuz she was completely different in real person then she had been on the phone!

 

[Bricheze]

I think she just doesn't want me to grow up and become over run with animals because I want to "save" them all. Maybe I do want to try and save the amazing animals I come across, by either taking them in or adopting them out. I don't understand why it's so terrible. It's not like I'll go to the pound and take every single good cat and dog I see and then come home and not be able to take care of them. I geuss what I am saying is I don't bite off what I can't chew. I know that I can take care of this rooster, so dumb!

 

[MissPrissy]

Perhaps it is your "I know better than you do, mom" attitude that is your downfall. Clearly what you have written says just that. You know better than your mom and you refuse to be taught anything. Yes, it is sad when an animal is put down. The bigger picture is obeying your parent and learning the authority is to be respected and not questioned and not met with your anger over not getting what you want.

 

[Guitartists]

Even with the best of intentions.... it can be overwhelming to take in so many animals...even if you are finding new homes for them eventually. The idea of adding a roo to the mix may be more than your mom is willing to tackle. Respect your mother... you have only one. Maybe her reasoning is a bit infuriating to you, but, maybe she can't find better words, or maybe that is just how she feels. Either way, you have to respect her wishes... .. hard, I know, I was also a kid and young adult once too

AND an animal lover/crusader.

In all actuality.... I support your mother's lesson and commend your want to save an animal. Both are valid, and both have their own set of life lessons attached. We don't get to pick and chose which lessons we learn... oh how easy life would be if we only had to learn the lessons we wanted to

Your mom does make a valid point, and so do you. It's not her fault that us humans use and treat animals as a food source only. MANY MANY MANY roos are in the same situation as the guy you want to save.

Maybe if you could find an honest reason other than "I want to save him" maybe you could get your mother to reconsider. But be honest... because I believe that just because you CAN save an animal, doesn't always mean that you should. (this is just my opinion, and certainly NOT the personal opinion of many others..... not intended to spark a debate in ANY way.... just there as an opinion to be considered and either taken or discarded... nothing less, nothing more)

 

[Miltonchix]

Who buys the feed and the materials you'd need to construct a coop? A lot of people now are experiencing some serious financial belt tightening.
MOST parents will NOT discuss their finances with their children. Maybe her decision was based on "another mouth to feed". Theres ALWAYS a bigger picture that when you're young can be nearly impossible to see. Trust your mothers judgment. You'll get over bruised feelings quickly.

 

[Sparrow]

If her decision is based solely on teaching you a lesson, I disagree with it. I think personally that the knowledge that you "can't save the world" should never be used as a reason not to try to do your part. Saving one rooster does not equate to saving the world...but to him, that action meant the world. You saved his world. I think that's something.

Now, if you are just trying to win a battle of wills with your mother, I wouldn't go there. There is no need to create extra tension i n your family. But, I don't get the feeling that this is what's in your heart. I get the feeling that you are actually concerned primarily about the roo, which is why I'm supportive.

 

[Bricheze]

Now it's making me depressed to see the little guy in the bunny cage at the farm

I have a paying job and I have several hundred dollars saved up for occasions just as this. I can afford the time and money to take care of a roo, my mom wouldn't have to pay for it or anything. My land ordinances says that I can have 6 chickens and one roo. So it's legal, I took a pic of him can't upload it right now, very photogenic bird lol. He let me old him with ease and this morning when I came in around 7 he was being VERY silent. I still think he is a good bird.

I know someone said even tho you can save an animal it doesn't mean you should. It's not that I can, it's that I want to.

 

[Guitartists]

Well then, let your mom know how much this means to you, and that if she stands firm, you will respect her decision, but that you'd really like to give this guy a second lease on life because you have bonded with him so.

Let her know this isn;t a fly-by-night kind of thing, but that you really want this.

Good luck... sometimes even us mean moms can have a change of heart when we see how much something really truly means to our kids.