Upset and hurt...

It isn't that I can't afford to feed the ponies, it's that in spring and summer good hay isn't available. I have big horses too, and I explained to her from the beginning that the ponies that I mow for either couldn't be in the pasture because they are escape artists or in the case of one of them it's because he is a stud pony. He used to be in the pasture until I saw this little 40" pony bring a 15 hand gelding to his knees. He can't be around the geldings period.

As for the profit line of thinking... the people that used to own our property sold a small chunk along the edge of our property and right beside the neighbors to the local grain elevator and they put up a storage building. The chunk they sold was 170' x 33'. Somehow the neighbor bought the excess property behind the building so now our property line goes west 170', north 33', and east 30' before it heads north again. The neighbor called me this morning and has offered to do a quit claim on part of it if I pay the legal fees which she said will probably be a couple of hundred. But she isn't talking about the whole section behind the building (which would be roughly 100' x 33' after you subtract the land that the building is on), she wants me to pay a couple of hundred for the 30' x 33' section that cuts into our property. I think the going rate for land up here is around $2000 an acre if it's ideal property. Her property is just a field and most of it has a pretty steep slope. And yes, her property is probably worth a little bit more now that it has been cleaned up but it still wouldn't be worth even $2000.

I asked her about 5 years ago if she would sell it to me. She didn't want to. I asked if she would consider leasing it so I could let my big horses graze it, she said only if I put up electric fence (never mind that there wasn't electricity out there and a charger that would handle that amount of fencing would have been very expensive). After we started cleaning it up, I was glad that I didn't fence it and turn the horses out because there was a LOT of downed wire out there, most of it barbed, and I found it all with my mower.

I guess until the ponies sell I'll just do what I used to do before I mowed her field... run some electric fencing in my front yard and turn the ponies loose on it. Makes the yard look pretty bad, but I'll do whatever I have to do...

As far as 'the easiest way to make an enemy of a friend is to loan them money, live with them. or get involved in a business transaction.' goes? I have bent over backwards for this woman doing clean up there that was of no benefit to me, I have taken her home made jelly several times, the gallons of Juneberries, home processed chickens, a big bag of gizzards because she loves them. I have done some clean up work in her yard just to help her out. And what she did doesn't exactly make me want to do anything else for her. I will remain polite, but that is it.
 
Some days you're the windshield, some days you're the bug.

Major bummer, but once you get your ponies sold just think of all the extra work you'll be saving yourself... all that time to kick back with some homemade bread and jelly and a good book perhaps??
 
Any possibility you can think outside the box and offer the new owners a good price and encourage them to buy elsewhere?

Good luck to you.
 
I was just wondering, too... I have to wonder how much... disclosure? the neighbor lady gave my new neighbors-to-be. I have to wonder if they know that they are putting their new home within 500' of: A flock of chickens that has a few roosters, a few geese, a flock of turkeys that has three toms and seven hens, and two peacocks and a peahen. If they don't know, I kind of feel sorry for them... think I should make sure that they know?
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I don't think the lady did anything wrong and it's her property so she can do with it as she pleases. I understand your hurt and anyone would be but I don't think it's something to flog the lady for. You said you mentioned 5 years ago that you would like to buy it. Don't you think in 5 years time she may have forgotten that you asked. I think so. You could ask her to write a provision in the contract that lets you keep cutting the hay or cozy up to your new neighbors and see if they won't let you continue to cut it.
 
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What is the age of this woman. It is possible she just did not remember?
I have a mother like that.
It started out with,"oh that's right1 I remember now." to--last person in her sight was the only person ever alive.
It might just be early onset dementia.
Nothing personal, you just were not pestering her, so she forgot.
 
You do have a right to feel hurt and be upset. They knew you were interested and considering the work you did on it should have offered it to you first. Yes they can sell to whomever they want but you should have had a chance to offer a bid too. There is no way she could say she had no idea you would be interested because you had already asked, and you were putting a lot of work into that area; so that is a moot point, she knew, period.
 

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