Using subtlety to get your SO to do housework unsollicited

[JennsPeeps]

DBF is blind. OK, not literally: figuratively. The man can't see dirt around the house, nor can he see unfolded laundry or a broom. I think this is a genetic chromosonal thing for many men. If I ask him to do housework, he nearly always does without complaint.

I spent the day with my mother today, so was in a bit of a bad mood.

After making & cleaning up dinner, then running 2 loads of laundry - one of which I dropped on the floor in the basket to announce to the household that I was doing laundry, I resorted to methods less subtle.

I walked into the office where DBF was playing a computer video game. Without saying a word, I dumped a load of laundry (sheets for our bed) nearly at his feet. Then I turned on my heel & walked out of the room.

The bed was made within 5 minutes.

See? Who says subtlety doesn't work?
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[Nateness01]

On the contary...I feel as though my wife fits the desription of your DBF to a tee!! I don't necessarily think it has anything to do with whether you're a man or a woman, I think it just has to do with how you grew up and what your priorities are. I vacuum my hardwood floors 3 times a day, do multiple loads of laundry and dishes, and clean about anything I can find, Including yardwork. Whereas my wife tends to the kids and talking on the phone and browsing the internet for things that really don't matter much. IE: getting more furniture and crap, when I just spent days trying to get rid of the clutter and junk we have sitting around gathering dust. But what do I know!!
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[JennsPeeps]

Sometimes I think we must be the stupid ones - look at the nice deal our partners have.

Wish I lived with me.

 

[coffeelady3]

Hey now, we must remember that he built you a fabulous coop. He does get some props!

 

[JennsPeeps]

True. Nice coop.

Still... lots of other stuff more important to do around here than VIDEO GAMES.

Like clean up the carport so that my mother doesn't say, "I don't know how you live with that. I couldn't. It's your house & you have to lay down the law. Well, I guess you'll do it when you want it to be done badly enough."

I finally asked her if she wanted to come over to my house and create a to-do list for me to follow. I'm almost 34 for goodness sake!!

I'm getting myself worked up. I should slug back a few shots and go to bed (J/K on the shots).

 

[pdsavage]

Men don't take hints very well,you just have to tell them in plain simple words what you want them to do.

 

[coffeelady3]

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You could send her over to my house. One step in the door and I think she would have a coronary! (Or at least she would go back to your house, give you a hug, and thank you for being such a CLEAN daughter!)

 

[AK-Bird-brain]

First of all remind mom she came by to visit YOU not your house. If she just came by to see your house she should feel free to stop by when your not around and if she feels like cleaning to just help herself.

For your DBF just tell him how incredibly sexy you find a man who is being domestic and cleaning up around the house.

 

[Wildsky]

As women, we should stop expecting men to read our minds. If I want Hubby to do something - I just tell him!

It WORKS! He does it, and I'm not MAD all day waiting for him to figure out what I'm thinking!

 

[BettyR]

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Smart woman!!!