Utah!

My BF's trial didn't go well. The judge made up his mind before anything was said and threw out all the evidence my BF had against his ex. He is now being forced to sell his house and everything he has to pay her bills, including attorney fees and auto insurance, and he has to pay her $1100 a month in alimony. They made it look like my BF was having an affair. He was barely surviving while paying her $800 a month. The ex didn't get hit with anything. I cannot express how evil she is.

I don't think I'm going to be able to get married for a long time. Good bye, hope.
 
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Aww Red Don't give up hope. She won't get alimony forever--she is bound to remarry herself. And at least now he is divorced, right? He is free to move on, although he is indebted to her and needs to get his financial stuff in order....love is all you need! Money helps...but you would be amazed at what you can get by on when you have love. I would live in a shack in the woods with my man and we could be happy (we started at that point I think!) He had three young kids, tons of child support, and awful ex to deal with. But now after all we have been through, 20 yrs later...we have a nice home, child support is done, the ex has been married SEVEN more times, very unhappy and a big mess, of her own doing...life is ok for us. WE got married with a $100 cubic zirconia...lived in an awful apartment..drove to Elko and got hitched all by ourselves and spent one night in a dive casino....but I would not trade those memories for anything...It just takes time...but worth the wait if it is the right man. You have to keep your chin up...look down the road a little, try not to stay in the moment as much. "This too shall pass.." right? Hang in there girl :hugs
 
Lisa
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I may end up having the cheapest, brokest elopement wedding you've ever seen. But you're all invited. I hope it happens.
 
Wow Red..I know it sounds awful right now..but is he free? Of her?? Between the two of you working, you can do it! Like Lisa said, sometimes things start out on the hard side..but you wouldn't give up those memories for nuttin!
Married my man with 7 children as you know, I had 4, then we had one. Yep, tough times, but there was a lot..a lot..of good in those times too.
Now, it's just us. Can't tell you how fast time goes by. So grateful that I trusted that things would work out. The kids all love one another. Time can really change things big time..yep. :)
Good luck. And yes, we want to come, we want to come... :) If it's close by.
 
Lisa :hugs  I may end up having the cheapest, brokest elopement wedding you've ever seen. But you're all invited. I hope it happens.


Oh I sure did, we laughed about it at the time...the kids needed to be raised though and we made sacrifices for that...but dang I look back on it now, and honestly the actual 'wedding' is the very most tiny part of the grand scheme....your life together and the memories you make will far outweigh any fancy 'moment' at a wedding....it really is just a moment, a speck if you will, in a lifetime. All the stuff that comes after that is the important good stuff :) The rough finances for us in the beginning brought us closer for sure. It made us focus on the things that really mattered. You will get through this...it is just a chapter, not the whole book ;)
 
Wow Red..I know it sounds awful right now..but is he free?  Of her??   Between the two of you working, you can do it!  Like Lisa said, sometimes things start out on the hard side..but you wouldn't give up those memories for nuttin!
  Married my man with 7 children as you know, I had 4, then we had one. Yep, tough times, but there was a lot..a lot..of good in those times too. 
Now, it's just us. Can't tell you how fast time goes by.  So grateful that I trusted that things would work out.  The kids all love one another.  Time can really change things big time..yep.  :) 
Good luck.  And yes, we want to come, we want to come...  :)   If it's close by. 


Well Cynthia, we both started out pretty rough, and I think we might be two of the luckiest happiest clams on the beach. I see all the young people getting married with the parents giving them everything, and it does not go so well. Adversity, is good. It makes you strong and really teaches you how to appreciate and not take things for granted, right? Red, with all this adversity, you might end up with the happiest marriage of all times after you get through the muck up front.

Ok on a chicken note here....Anybody lost any chickens to this cold? I have to worry about my 3 month olds. They are tiny. Most have naked necks and are looking bantam sized. They are fully feathered and have been out there for over a month, but this cold snap came on so sudden I am not sure if they have had time to develop the tolerance for the brutal cold. I sure hope they are ok in the morning. They all (13!) piled into a nest last night, I think they all fit into a one square foot space. They were fine this morning....but last night they looked so cold. And also my Polish with popsicle heads. Making me nervous!
 
I lost two of my Seramas last night. :( My frizzle boy. :( :( And of course, my favorite pullet. It was so sad..they were laying right beside each other.

I told my DH that I didn't think it felt all that warm in there, but they were laying right under that heat lamp. Thought for sure that they would be fine. They were fine when I checked on them last night. I always check my chickens before I go to bed. :p So sad. I put the other two back into the nursery coop..it stays a lot warmer. I have the three little ones in the house that I just hatched. I hope that the other two will accept them when it's time for them to go out, which won't be for a long time. This cold has to go. Thank goodness, it looks as though next week will let up a bit.
 
Oh Cynthia, that is just terrible! So sad. I really hope mine are ok. The red lamps were all gone at the stores, my last one burned out....I have a spotlight in there in the biggest coop , only 85 watt but they make a really warm spot....it is two feet off the floor...I am not worried about my big girls in there at all, they are all crammed in the coop and snuggling enough to keep warm, but those babies are in there in a nest and cold...and those ornamentals are in a pen by themselves, four of them in the dog house coop with no heat lamp tonight...makes me worry! I hope they are snuggled up too. My silkies are in another doghouse coop and run, there are 5, but they have the 125 w heat lamp in the dog house, they are probably the least likely to have problems, they seem pretty happy under the light. Thinkiing about it now, the ornamentals are making me worry the most. I should have put some sort of heat out there, I kept going back and forth. UGh we will see what happens!
 
I think the biggest danger with young birds and the cold is "piling". For birds that sleep in a pile instead of roosting, there is always the danger that some will get suffocated. This can happen anytime of year when the temps get below what they are used to. I'm always nervous when the babies graduate to an outside pen. I have some juveniles out there that don't roost yet. I put a lamp in there as well as one of those seedling heat mats. Freezing weather....grrrr...and brrrrr.

Hang in there, Red! At least you can face head on what you have to deal with. It's better than the roller coaster of not knowing.
 

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