Vacation Rant

[CityGirlintheCountry]

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I don't feel guilty. I feel mad and sad. I was really, really excited about this trip and having these friends with me. My childish hurt feelings are just that- childish hurt feelings. I'll get over it. I'm just frustrated and unhappy with the whole deal.

I'll be sending out another email tomorrow asking for the final total due. Clearly I need to make it plain that the money is non-negotiable. They do not have to actually go to the beach, but they do have to pay for it since they committed to going.

 

[19Dawn76]

Feeling mad, sad and hurt is not childish. You have a right to feel that way.

I hope it all works out for you and you have a great time at the beach.

 

[babylady4]

It sounds like fun; when are we going? I am about 4 years behind you yet though so you will have to just deal with my childishness....

I would totally be there, it sounds like a blast.

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

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It's the "They don't love me because they won't come to my party" that is the childish part. Especially when you throw in the pouting and foot stomping.

The rest is totally acceptable.

Babylady- we keep trying to talk Nifty into a beach BYC convention, but so far he has ignored our whining. Feel free to pester him about it too. BYC on the beach would be AWESOME!

I just sent out the balance due email. It didn't mention that waffling was negotiable. It just said that I have to pay the balance on the condo in a couple of weeks and I need the rest of the money pronto. I have dinner with two of them this Wednesday. I'm sure it will be discussed.

Thanks for letting me vent and be whiny.

 

[baltimoreharps]

Agreeing with both Seismic and Kate. You have every right to feel the way you do, but that doesn't mean that you are on the hook for this fab beach house that they comitted to and knew about.

I have fibro and if it was going to be a bad week for me to travel health wise, and I'd agree to pay for a deposit, I'd pay it even if I couldn't go at the last minute. It's not right to agree with something and then not follow through.

Hon, it's not bad to feel hurt, I would also. Thats why I keep putting off calling my neice to come to the beach with us for free in Sept, because I know the answer is going to be "No, can't too busy with XYZ" reasons.

Don't stress about it, it will all work out!

 

[twentynine]

I never ever never ever ever get myself envolved in trying to co-ordinate a trip, lunch, party, meeting, vacation or even a fishing trip. People will not stick to their word.

If I want to go fishing, I go, if I invite some one to go with me, I tell them I am leaving at sucjh and such time, and will be returning at such and such time. You want to go be there, you don't want to go, or can't get up, no problem. I am leaving at 0430, I have money to pay the whole way.

 

[Mattemma]

I would not give the deposit back.When I have to give a deposit it is expected that it does not get refunded.Kids go to a private school,and we pay a deposit to reserve a spot for next year.If we change our mind we lose that money.We are even responsible for the tuition if the kids start school and we decide to pull.

I hope you can afford the house, and have a great time with the friends that do go with you. My vacation is limited to the backyard,but I can dream about sandy beaches and the ocean! Don't let this issue bring you down.You did not thing wrong.

 

[Godsgrl]

A few years ago, my dd was on a cheerleading squad, and competed in several competitions. The decision was made to have one last competition in Valdosta, and make it an overnight trip. Our coach reserved all the hotel rooms, then about half the squad backed out. The coach still had to pay for the rooms, so all the cheerleaders had to pay, regardless of whether they went on the trip or not. The coach did not back down on this. By the way, dd was one of the girls that went on the trip, and we took first place.

Stay firm on the money-if they said they were going, they have to pay. No excuses. Enjoy your vacation!

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Thanks, y'all! I haven't been on a vacation in over 8 years. My job is insanely crazy and getting crazier. This beach trip is going to be great!

I'm hoping some of the maybes will end up being able to attend. That would help cover the costs and I might be able to refund money for those not attending. I hate to not refund it given that everyone's budgets are tight, but I also cannot get stuck with the cost of the place we all agreed on. We'll see. I'm not budging on the money issue until after the trip!

 

[cluckcluck42]

The deposit is DEFINITELY not refundable. Why should you get screwed over on that money because they cant get their stuff together?

If they do bail and there is only 3 or 4 of you, you can always invite husbands or just wait on the maybes. Will it be at all affordable with 4 of you?? or will the plan be to lose the deposit and go somewhere else??

People just drive you nuts sometimes. And of course you feel slighted, it's your big 4-0!!