Victim, Villain, or Jerk?

[Duckworth]

No. I realize I need to say this. Your kid was not the same as my kid because my kid was 12 in 1995. He did not receive the triumvirate of services you named at my school district because we seriously lacked funds and personnel to deliver them. At that time many many people questioned why schools should provide the services we did. This child wasn’t eligible in any way for spec Ed. Also my position was rare and funded by Title I funds or not at all. I was only paid for 20 hours a week for an hourly rate that would be embarrassing to note here.

You and your child are very lucky to have received services well above the level of any kid at my District then or even now.

The timing does make a huge difference. The approach to working with trauma and attachment challenged children has changed dramatically since 1995. I worked in the thick of the child-welfare system before becoming the parent of three school-aged siblings. I’d seen a lot that didn’t work and a lot of people who just threw up their hands when the children in their care had difficulties. Not much would surprise or shock me.

Location matters, too. Our school system was determined not to offer any meaningful SpEd services. Then, we moved to another state and the new district willingly offered everything they though might help. After years of fighting for every single little bit of less unhelpful action, we had a team of educators who worked hard to understand my children’s needs and were willing to bring a lot of creativity to figuring out how to meet them. I was so used to having to fight for everything that I initially worried that the new district wouldn’t follow through. But it has for six years, now. And the difference in the lives of my children, especially my youngest, has been transformative for them.

 

[Miss Lydia]

Maybe @thumper650 can weigh on drakes an their behavior

 

[chickens really]

Trying to figure out how to interpret some behavior. Wondering if anyone has any insight.

I have a duck who is constantly the target of aggressive behavior from the most dominant ducks in the group.

This seems like it would most likely be a power struggle. Thing is, if it is, he lost a long time ago, and will never win.

Now, medium-status ducks and lower give him no problems. Here are my questions:

• Is this just a contest of wills, where he can tap out anytime?

• What are the behaviors that tell the dominant ducks that it's not over?

• Is he a marked man for life, or a passive-aggressive maniac, subtly pushing their buttons all day?

Any thoughts?

What breeds and what sexes are the Ducks? Plus how old?

 

[thumper650]

Yup, there's definitely some parallels between kids and ducks!
A few days ago my ducks, who are usually seperated this time of year, were together under supervision. Scooter, a pekin, went after Brendan, who was more than happy to engage. Runner Bill and pekin Roscoe looked at each other like, guess we should fight too, and they went at it.

It's hard to figure out who's the problem. Separating my boys by breed has worked so far this year. They have a fence they. An fight through, otherwise they all turn on each other.
Unlike kids, I don't think there's much therapy that will work for ducks!

 

[TashaFrancois]

I have one duck with dwarfism and the bigger ducks clearly have no empathy for the special girl. The little mallard hen sometimes hangs out with her. I have found no way to curb the behavior. I often have to put her in the duck coop after the others have gone to sleep.

 

[chickens really]

I have one duck with dwarfism and the bigger ducks clearly have no empathy for the special girl. The little mallard hen sometimes hangs out with her. I have found no way to curb the behavior. I often have to put her in the duck coop after the others have gone to sleep.

Yours survived? Interesting because all mine with Dwarfism never survive long due to other health issues..

 

[TashaFrancois]

Yours survived? Interesting because all mine with Dwarfism never survive long due to other health issues..

I had never had one. But I payed her lots of special attention. I kept her and the little mallard inside a couple weeks longer. The tiny little mallard is head hen and my little dwarf crested blue Swedish is bottom rung.

 

[chickens really]

I had never had one. But I payed her lots of special attention. I kept her and the little mallard inside a couple weeks longer. The tiny little mallard is head hen and my little dwarf crested blue Swedish is bottom rung.

Did it ever feather out?

 

[TashaFrancois]

Did it ever feather out?

Yeah. Just her head and feet are too big for her body.

 

[chickens really]

Yeah. Just her head and feet are too big for her body.

Then not Dwarfism...Your lucky ..Just a stunted growth..