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[KMHunter]

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Uh Yeah.....they do! I have two and the 16yo gets it all the time! Lol! I thought I would be getting out of that with boys, but I guess not. Oh well.

It is my 16 yo right now that is spiking on the PMS...my gosh that boy is trouble.
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He is a good kid....but he is one raging hormone. He is very active in HS sports. Starting school year this is our order: Football, wrestling, Track, and then for the summer we top it off with swimming. I just made the comment to my DH the other day what a huge chest middle DS has. He is in fantastic shape...oh ya, forgot, he lifts weights occasionally and rides bicycle in down time. Good for him. I keep telling him girls are trouble and are expensive. He won't listen to me.

Mine won't listen to me about girls either. Has a GF now who is seriously high maintainence! Oh well! It's his problem, not mine.....most days anyway. Lol!

 

[cheryl98117]

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if you dont want to put furniture on your furniture to keep the pets off, go to office depot or somewhere, walmart...buy the plastic runners that you put under your office chair or in a long hall way, they have little spikes on the bottom side to grip carpet so they dont slide. cut those to fit and flip them spikey side up and lay them on your couch at night...dog aint getting up there....

I would think it best to just do the dogs as you would a child and teach them what is ok and what is not !!! JIMHO !!!!!

Well I have been able to get one to not chew on everything, she stays off the furniture so long as someone is "in" the room. But as soon as you leave, and she nows you cant see her. She's right up on it.

Personally, I would lie the two bigger dogs to sleep outside. But my DH and I dont agree. I put them out, he lets them in. That and we are nowhere near on the same page in training the dogs...

 

[Zgoatlady]

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OH my gosh that looks like the one my husband is building now for a friend.

 

[Cowgirlgrace]

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Very true. DH only talks anything about the quantity of the chickens when he's cleaning the coop.

Yeah...but I have been bugging mine to FINISH my large coop since 2009...I gave up on that and got something that I thought could be easily converted into a second coop...that was also about 2 years ago...and then I found several options for builders to build me what I need that he won't and he's just now starting to get the second coop done and keeps threatening to stop all construction because he wants me to sell 1/2 my flock and downsize.

He refuses to finish my bantam bins which will house my bantams during the winter. This means I have to sell most of them (to him). To me, it means I have to hire someone else to do the cages. I pay for all of the chickens, chicks, eggs, vaccines, medications, sand, shavings, feed, etc, etc myself through hatching egg sales. Not a dime comes out of our "regular" budget...

He's only b*tching about it because he'll have to actually help out around here with feeding/watering while I'm recovering from the c-section....now that he knows how many birds I have

and he doesn't listen to me as far as the quickest/most time-efficient ways to feed/water--he's griping because it takes him 1/2 hour and it's "disorganized."

In actuality, it is not....but in his OCD brain, it is. He wants everything absolutely perfect and uniform and weird. They are living things!

He has already made me get rid of four of my horses. I told him it's him or the remaining horses--so he backed off. The hatching egg sales pay for my 3 horses' hay (and HIS one horse's hay) every year. I used to raise/breed reptiles before I got into the poultry...he made me stop that because he said the lizards were gross, their heat lamps were a fire hazard and the crickets I had to feed them were "smelly & noisy." Now that I have chickens--it's all he gripes about. He brings it up several times a day/night. Tonight, he said it was really bothering him and that my chicken hobby is "weird & gross."

Girl, I so understand what you are going through. I could go on and on about stuff but just a few tidbits about what I have concluded. Everyone has interestes, hobbies, things they like to do, things that bring them joy. I have wanted a farm since I was a little horse crazy girl. I inherited that passion from my Grandma, my dads mom and my dad relived that through me. We raised cows, horses, pigs, chickens, veggies and hay together. My dad nurtured that passion and that love followed me to adulthood and has been ingrained in who I am. When I met DH I told him all about me, what I wanted for my life, my dreams etc. He is a city boy but he loved me. Tried for a cowboy but he broke my heart. So city boy made it sound like he had the same dreams. NOT!! So 25 years later and two boys 19 and 22 he's got an ultimatum. I have put up with so much BS, so much of his illness, so many lies, so much complaining about the farm and someone who has done a complete turnaround from the person I married. I have turned to my farm as the only joy in my life. Even my kids have put me out of their life (they are teen and young adult so whatever). What none of them realize is if the animals go, so do I, because they are the reason I stay. They are what I turn to to survive, to bring me joy. I know that sounds sad but I feel obligated to stay for other reasons. You are young and expecting a new baby. Put your foot down and explain to him that he is not the only thing that defines you. Your hobbies, dreams and interests define you. It's part of the person you are. The person he married. He may not like parts but you take it all when you get married. When you marry you agree to accept the whole person. The good, the bad, the ugly. For better or for worse. I'm sure there are things about him you don't particularly enjoy but you agree to live with because you love him. It's all a give and take and acceptance. I know sometimes people can be excessive but what you are doing doesn't sound to me to be excessive. Just not a joy he shares. I have even gone from 8 horses down to 2 to make mine happy and he still complains. I either have 2 or none. If they are none, I am gone. I give and he takes. There is nothing to fill me back up but the farm. Lay it on the line girl! Do it before you raise your kids together so they don't have to suffer through the disagreements. Come to an understanding of each other.

Whew, sorry for the heavy stuff but that just struck a cord that was a long time in strumming! Hope this helps some.

 

[broodytood]

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Oh, dear. Does he have any idea how messy babies are? He's in for a shock.

Here's a t-shirt for him. http://www.cafepress.com/+i_have_cdo_dark_tshirt,437328017

GAWD, that's perfect! LOL

Yes, he knows about messy babies...but that's "different" because it's a human--not a filthy animal....

Just wait till the baby has it's first 'blowout' Poop in every direction! Only course of action is the bath tub! Might make him rethink a bit!

 

[Stumpfarmer]

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I just hose the chicken poop on the lawn into it. Fertilizer.

If your lawnmower isn't broken (my mower and mower-operator are both hors de combat), you can also mulch-mow it and then water it in, which spreads it around better.

The Hamburg coop has an interesting cycle: it has a harvest ant colony; the birds eat some of the ants, but the ants clean up droppings and spilled feed, and on the whole everyone seems satisfied.

 

[hallerlake]

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I just hose the chicken poop on the lawn into it. Fertilizer.

If your lawnmower isn't broken (my mower and mower-operator are both hors de combat), you can also mulch-mow it and then water it in, which spreads it around better.

The Hamburg coop has an interesting cycle: it has a harvest ant colony; the birds eat some of the ants, but the ants clean up droppings and spilled feed, and on the whole everyone seems satisfied.

A symbiotic relationship!

 

[RedReiner]

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if you dont want to put furniture on your furniture to keep the pets off, go to office depot or somewhere, walmart...buy the plastic runners that you put under your office chair or in a long hall way, they have little spikes on the bottom side to grip carpet so they dont slide. cut those to fit and flip them spikey side up and lay them on your couch at night...dog aint getting up there....

I would think it best to just do the dogs as you would a child and teach them what is ok and what is not !!! JIMHO !!!!!

thanks for the !!!! I breed show and train dogs, dogs will do just like kids and if they can get away with it, knowing full well its against the rules they will. you can teach your dog to stay off the furniture and he will...as long as you are there to reinforce the rules should he forget. the upside down carpet runners do not hurt the dog, the grippers are small, its not like they cut them to shreds. they are uncomfortable to step on. they are a tool in training your dog like everything else. its a reminder and a deterrent to break the pattern of sneaking on to the furniture in the middle of the night. I just got from Cheryl's post that she has a lot on her plate, it was just a suggestion to make things a little easier than moving furniture around while chasing kids and taking care of all those critters. but never mind, I will leave it to the resident professional to make the suggestions from now on....

 

[DIYSeattle]

I sbuilding your own hive something that is done regularly CR? I have most of the things already to do it I think.

 

[herbandteas]

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Yeah...but I have been bugging mine to FINISH my large coop since 2009...I gave up on that and got something that I thought could be easily converted into a second coop...that was also about 2 years ago...and then I found several options for builders to build me what I need that he won't and he's just now starting to get the second coop done and keeps threatening to stop all construction because he wants me to sell 1/2 my flock and downsize.

He refuses to finish my bantam bins which will house my bantams during the winter. This means I have to sell most of them (to him). To me, it means I have to hire someone else to do the cages. I pay for all of the chickens, chicks, eggs, vaccines, medications, sand, shavings, feed, etc, etc myself through hatching egg sales. Not a dime comes out of our "regular" budget...

He's only b*tching about it because he'll have to actually help out around here with feeding/watering while I'm recovering from the c-section....now that he knows how many birds I have

and he doesn't listen to me as far as the quickest/most time-efficient ways to feed/water--he's griping because it takes him 1/2 hour and it's "disorganized."

In actuality, it is not....but in his OCD brain, it is. He wants everything absolutely perfect and uniform and weird. They are living things!

He has already made me get rid of four of my horses. I told him it's him or the remaining horses--so he backed off. The hatching egg sales pay for my 3 horses' hay (and HIS one horse's hay) every year. I used to raise/breed reptiles before I got into the poultry...he made me stop that because he said the lizards were gross, their heat lamps were a fire hazard and the crickets I had to feed them were "smelly & noisy." Now that I have chickens--it's all he gripes about. He brings it up several times a day/night. Tonight, he said it was really bothering him and that my chicken hobby is "weird & gross."

Girl, I so understand what you are going through. I could go on and on about stuff but just a few tidbits about what I have concluded. Everyone has interestes, hobbies, things they like to do, things that bring them joy. I have wanted a farm since I was a little horse crazy girl. I inherited that passion from my Grandma, my dads mom and my dad relived that through me. We raised cows, horses, pigs, chickens, veggies and hay together. My dad nurtured that passion and that love followed me to adulthood and has been ingrained in who I am. When I met DH I told him all about me, what I wanted for my life, my dreams etc. He is a city boy but he loved me. Tried for a cowboy but he broke my heart. So city boy made it sound like he had the same dreams. NOT!! So 25 years later and two boys 19 and 22 he's got an ultimatum. I have put up with so much BS, so much of his illness, so many lies, so much complaining about the farm and someone who has done a complete turnaround from the person I married. I have turned to my farm as the only joy in my life. Even my kids have put me out of their life (they are teen and young adult so whatever). What none of them realize is if the animals go, so do I, because they are the reason I stay. They are what I turn to to survive, to bring me joy. I know that sounds sad but I feel obligated to stay for other reasons. You are young and expecting a new baby. Put your foot down and explain to him that he is not the only thing that defines you. Your hobbies, dreams and interests define you. It's part of the person you are. The person he married. He may not like parts but you take it all when you get married. When you marry you agree to accept the whole person. The good, the bad, the ugly. For better or for worse. I'm sure there are things about him you don't particularly enjoy but you agree to live with because you love him. It's all a give and take and acceptance. I know sometimes people can be excessive but what you are doing doesn't sound to me to be excessive. Just not a joy he shares. I have even gone from 8 horses down to 2 to make mine happy and he still complains. I either have 2 or none. If they are none, I am gone. I give and he takes. There is nothing to fill me back up but the farm. Lay it on the line girl! Do it before you raise your kids together so they don't have to suffer through the disagreements. Come to an understanding of each other.

Whew, sorry for the heavy stuff but that just struck a cord that was a long time in strumming! Hope this helps some.