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[Stumpfarmer]

ANYway, I forgot to say: Elvis is sitting in the Hamburg run in the dog carrier, so tomorrow morning he can get aquainted before I let him out. He's really tame and sweet-natured and I hope there will be no transitional problems.

 

[pettec63]

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Oh luckily for my Dh he isnt that bad. He mainly drinks beer, but ocasionally will drink harder stuff... Its when he mixes drinks such as beer and liquer, or different types of hard liquers that he gets on my nerves... My mother is the biggest pain in the rear, as she starts drinking around noon, and doesnt stop until around midnight... I worry that I will go over and she wont be with us anymore. She's on Methadone "sp?" and still drinks heavily on a daily basis... No amount of talking to her does any good, and just not going over to see her doesnt do any good iether... My Sister and I have even gone in and talked to her pain Dr. So far nothing has helped... Not sure what else to do about that.

I know the feeling. You see all the news programs and documentaries and movies of people with insurmountable difficulties and they somehow over come, rise above and come out victorious. They even show terminal people living each day to the fullest till they die. Oh, so wonderful! So you think,'those in my life should do the same'. They should embrace the life they have left or LIFE period. But the reality is, those people they feature are a very small minority. The majority and the sad reality is people with insurmountable difficulties do not overcome them. There is emotional pain, physical pain, disabilities that are painful because society shuns you. Huge things happen in peoples lives that no matter how hard they try they can't 'come out victorious'. No matter what you do to try and guide them through, find programs to help, support groups, securing pain meds and therapy, it is ultimately up to the individual. Either the pain cripples them or the inability to fit in to society cripples them, and depression sets in that they have no strength to deal with. Ultimately, many turn to alcohol to dull all. Which us support people know is not the answer, it's a one way street but who are we to judge when a loved one is done. We can't give up. You just keep on helping where ever you can to help them through and hopefully make a difference. But if not, you did the best you could. It is very painful to watch a loved ones life waste away but people make up their own minds. We just have to keep loving them. Wondering how many of these 'intervention' programs actually work. You see the shows on TV and I think it give you a false hope for your own loved one. How many people in those shows actually get through to the other side and stay there. I just know that once people get to a certain point there is not much you can do but love them and try to continue on with your own life and make some happiness for yourself. They are their own person and make their own choices. Sorry, don't want to be a downer but that JMHO.

That is true, they are their own person, and yes we can't make the choices for them, but we can choose to participate in their addiction or not. I have watched a lot of the intervention shows and wonder the same thing, only WE as the family can control how WE respond. Like you have seen in the shows, they give the addicted person's family choices to either be part of the solution or remain part of the problem. My son is in rehab in WY, he spent time in prison, all because he chose to use. I chose not to participate, I tough loved it. He has come so far, and has learned so much and is now on the right path. If I had sheltered him, he would have kept using. In his recovery, he has shared things with me about our past, my past relationship, this person not only hurt my daughter, but, now I find out he has hurt him as well!! I can tell you, had I not been in recovery today, I know what I would have done when I learned of this! It wouldn't have been pretty! But, that's what we learn when we don't hide from life, when we don't dull the pain, we have to live life on lifes terms, and deal with the raw emotion and trauma head on. It wasn't easy to hear, it took me two weeks to stop the hysteria, but ya know what??? I didn't take a drink!!! and I don't have too! I will keep all of you in my prayers!!

Remember we ALL have CHOICES

 

[pettec63]

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from another Julie!! I used to have Blue/black/ laves too! ?? and I had BLRWs!!!?? maybe it's a julie thing!! LOL!! glad your here!!!

 

[pettec63]

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I know the feeling. You see all the news programs and documentaries and movies of people with insurmountable difficulties and they somehow over come, rise above and come out victorious. They even show terminal people living each day to the fullest till they die. Oh, so wonderful! So you think,'those in my life should do the same'. They should embrace the life they have left or LIFE period. But the reality is, those people they feature are a very small minority. The majority and the sad reality is people with insurmountable difficulties do not overcome them. There is emotional pain, physical pain, disabilities that are painful because society shuns you. Huge things happen in peoples lives that no matter how hard they try they can't 'come out victorious'. No matter what you do to try and guide them through, find programs to help, support groups, securing pain meds and therapy, it is ultimately up to the individual. Either the pain cripples them or the inability to fit in to society cripples them, and depression sets in that they have no strength to deal with. Ultimately, many turn to alcohol to dull all. Which us support people know is not the answer, it's a one way street but who are we to judge when a loved one is done. We can't give up. You just keep on helping where ever you can to help them through and hopefully make a difference. But if not, you did the best you could. It is very painful to watch a loved ones life waste away but people make up their own minds. We just have to keep loving them. Wondering how many of these 'intervention' programs actually work. You see the shows on TV and I think it give you a false hope for your own loved one. How many people in those shows actually get through to the other side and stay there. I just know that once people get to a certain point there is not much you can do but love them and try to continue on with your own life and make some happiness for yourself. They are their own person and make their own choices. Sorry, don't want to be a downer but that JMHO.

For some people, when their situation feels or seems hopeless, it is very hard for them to not become depressed and or selfish.
Having hope makes all the difference in the world... if you can get it from your head into your heart.

I am fighting the hardest battle of my life right now. I so want to curl up in a corner some days... but I can't.
I have to show my kids that there is another way to deal with things like this when they come.
I could easily spend vast amounts of time being angry for what is happening but what would that solve besides teaching my kids how to be bitter?
Ultimately, I think life is about being content with whatever comes; secure in the knowledge of where I will end up.
I am learning the hard way that life is about quality time...

Luv ya Broody!!

 

[pettec63]

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[pettec63]

So, it was a balmy almost 60 degrees today here in lovely Eastern WA! I almost croaked when I woke up and it was 48!!! First time I've felt like going out and cleaning anything!! So I did!! Both goat inclosures, both chicken coops, it was great! and hmm with the warmer weather my hip wasn't hurting as much!! Now whats with that!! LOL! OH OH, hang on I gotta post some pics!!!

 

[Rainwolf]

First I want to say hi to all the new people!

Second.... for those who have older roosters with spurs.... Here is some info I found useful when my roosters developed spurs enough to do damage.

You can remove the spurs rather easy with a little prep.
Make sure you have some Kwik Stop on hand to stop any bleeding that might happen.
Some birds will not bleed at all while other might bleed hence the Kwik Stop.

Spur Removal is painless and only done when spurs grow sharp enough to damage hens or people.
Its basically a twist and remove action but takes a little practice to get it down pat.
Here are a couple videos that can help.

First few times I did this I needed the Kwik Stop
After some practice I got to being able to remove spurs with out problems but some breeds are more disposed to bleeding then others so always have Kwik Stop or something that clots blood.
I also Have a clean dog crate ready for the rooster and only do this just after they go to sleep. This way the bird is inside a crate for the night in clean setting and can not get picked on or dirty while any bleeding drys.

The soft spur left after the removal of the sharp spur will eventually harden and grow in to a sharp spur so just like clipping the dogs toenails it has to be done based on how fast it grows.


Anyhow that's my newbie tip of the day

Hope you all have a Great New Year!

PS I get my new ears on Tuesday!

 

[pettec63]

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Happy New Year to you too!!! Thanks for posting the spur removal stuff!! What new ears???

 

[broodytood]

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For some people, when their situation feels or seems hopeless, it is very hard for them to not become depressed and or selfish.
Having hope makes all the difference in the world... if you can get it from your head into your heart.

I am fighting the hardest battle of my life right now. I so want to curl up in a corner some days... but I can't.
I have to show my kids that there is another way to deal with things like this when they come.
I could easily spend vast amounts of time being angry for what is happening but what would that solve besides teaching my kids how to be bitter?
Ultimately, I think life is about being content with whatever comes; secure in the knowledge of where I will end up.
I am learning the hard way that life is about quality time...

I hope you get chances, when nobody is looking, to curl up in that corner.

Thanks, Haller, I do try, cause I know I need to, sometimes.

 

[broodytood]

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Thanks CL! And thanks for the PM and info. I'll keep her in mind. I have a gal in Canada I'm talking with who is in the same boat with me right now. It does help to talk.