Washingtonians

[Totalcolour]

Very well said TC. One thing I would like to point out is that since this was done in an e-mail. There isn't much the BYC mods can do.

Oh, so then the person must have known her, to have her email address!

So, we are back to ignoring and blocking evil minded persons. From what I know about human nature, ignoring this kind of behavior, makes the person madder than responding in kind! Plus, WE don't get in trouble with the mods either!

 

[pettec63]

An Online community

When we join an online community, most of us don't know each other. We may in fact never meet, then sometimes some of us meet some of the others. I have only met a few of the WA community, but feel that even those I haven't met, are friends.

This was very much apparent during the recent storms we were experiencing. We tried to keep track of each other, and make sure we were all ok, and when there was someone missing, "texts" and "calls" went out, to make sure they were ok. And help was offered, where needed.

This is a wonderful thing about an online system, and it's a new era of communicating. It's very trusting and sharing, like the villages of old.

BUT, there is a Darkside too.

We often share personal information with each other, online. Because we trust each other. Sometimes the information can be fairly innocuous, but sometimes we share some stuff that those with evil intent, can use against us.

How we respond can make a big difference in our community; and this is where the waters become murky. We can respond in like kind, but that just brings us down to their level, and may in fact exacerbate the situation, and make the evil one more intent on causing damage.

So, since we can't really punish that person, this being a "Virtual" community, we only have a few resources left to us. One is the MODS. When we let them know about bad situations, they can step in and do their thing.

The other thing we can do, is block that person. When I first saw the "ignore" button, I thought it was pretty silly. But after the situation with Heather, I'm thinking this as a wonderful tool that we can use to all our advantage. These evil minded people would get absolutely no satisfaction if they are ignored. If we ALL hit the ignore button, there would not be much reason for them to hang around. Of course, this would only be possible if the person was "known" to us.

However, this could also be a bad thing. Sometimes a post may be "misunderstood", and not meant as malicious at all. So, before deciding if this was a personal attack, it's sometimes a good idea to get a second, or third opinion from an impartial party, before reacting.

So, I'd like everyone to think about the info you post - can it be used against you; do you really want the world to know that little piece of info or do you just want to share it with a few (pm instead)? And if someone responds negatively, you need to decide if you have misunderstood, or if it really was "bad intent". If it is, then you can hit the ignore button, and that person, effectively disappears. Problem solved.

Just food for thought folks . . .

Thanks Kate, I will definitely use your advice, I know there have been times when I have been misunderstood in e-mails, because, you can't "hear" the inflection or know how you came across. Being the emotional person I can be, I sometimes type before I think, although I haven't found the ignore button here??

 

[pettec63]

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Blue Kote also comes in liquid form with a dabber. That is the one I prefer since there is less risk of getting it into eyes etc.


didn't know that!! Thanks CR!

 

[pettec63]

So couple things,
Today I woke up WAY late, cause, I didn't get to sleep right away last night and after taking some pain meds, ended up falling into a deep sleep early am, got up with a headache cause by sleeping late I didn't have my morning coffee! So, I had my first cup at almost 12!! And although it is saying that it's 47 out it feels like 30!!! I had such good intentions today!! REALLY!! I broke out my pruning shears and loppers and decided they needed to be sharpened before I go on my pruning spree. It's been over cast all day making me feel yuky!! Anyway, I was on the byc turkey forum and a byc educator told me that BBBronze turkeys don't mate naturally and said good luck with that, so yea, guess we will see if she's right! I'm not lopping off any heads yet, they aren't even laying yet which is why I was on there to begin with. Nice enough folks tho they gave me some pretty good info.
What hygometers if any does anyone use here?? I have had a heck of a time finding any that are decent in accuracy!! I have bought about 5 and none are very accurate, either the temp is off and the humidity is close, or the temp is right but the humidity is off!!

This latest batch I bought from incubator warehouse, the temp is pretty close but the humidity is off! And I have the Brinsea eco 20 doesn't have a lot of room, and right now it is plum full of eggs!! so the fricken thing has to sit on top of the eggs and slide around when it rocks!!

also, is there anyone here that has fruit trees?? I have apples, cherrys and one plum, I need to prune and I'm trying to find out if I need dormant spray and when I have to use it if it's not too late?

 

[KMoran]

I hope everyone had a good day... Even tho its nasty icky out. I cant wait for all the mud to go away.

 

[Totalcolour]

Thanks Kate, I will definitely use your advice, I know there have been times when I have been misunderstood in e-mails, because, you can't "hear" the inflection or know how you came across. Being the emotional person I can be, I sometimes type before I think, although I haven't found the ignore button here??

I hear ya! I'm the same way - I almost got into it at Costco a couple of weeks ago, with this guy who, well, was being a bit of a JackAss. Hubby thought I'd lost my mind.

So, I try really hard to keep MYSELF in control, and try to figure out if I'm misreading a situation.

And it's really not an ignore, it's the block member in the person's pull down under their name.

I don't know if you can unblock them later though - maybe CR knows - he knows everything, and he's no afraid to tell ya so

 

[Chicken Rustler]

Quote: They apparently got her e-mail from her web site.

 

[Rare Feathers Farm]

Hey everyone....thank you for the support and emails....I'm super busy with the baby but also thinning my flock (to spend less time out with my chickens and more time with her)--until she's old enough for her own chickens

The offending person is actually a BYC’er and is from Washington—just does not post on BYC very much, but does lurk. It’s weird that nearly seven months have gone by since my last interaction with this person (in August, when I got a chicken from them) and out of the blue (this week), they send me an scathing, off-the-wall e-mail about me being a rude person and how much I “suck.” I met this person just a few days before having my daughter and at the time, it was over 100 degrees outside and I was in the midst of full-blown HELLP Syndrome, which almost cost me my life as all of you know. I was flown via MED-STAR to Deaconess in Spokane just a few days later, after my platelets dropped to 15,000. Of course, I did not realize this at the time (either did the doctors) and ended up in the ER with contractions, dizziness, nausea just a day after picking up this rooster . I was sent home because the doctor wanted the baby in there longer ( was not officially due until August 23rd) and chalked up my dizziness, throwing up, dark urine, etc to severe dehydration and over-doing-it when it was 100+ degrees outside.). After 5 bags of IV's and anti-contraction/anti-nausea drugs, I was sent home.

Anyway, the day I met this person—I was really hot, dizzy, had been throwing up in the car while waiting for him and I was literally dying, so I did not feel much like chatting when. Plus, I had my DH in the car reaming me about meeting "strange people" and how this could be a rapist or murderer and asking why I was getting another chicken--a ROOSTER nonetheless!

To this person, I came off as in a hurry, rude, unappreciative, etc. It really caught me off guard and was very hurtful.

 

[Chicken Rustler]

Quote: Yes it was my fav when dis-budding kids. That way I didn't have to worry about spraying in the eyes!

 

[Chicken Rustler]

Quote: That's right I know everything about anything Just ask me and I will tell ya so.

However the TRUE MASER never tells ALL he knows