We formed our own club because we had a core group of families who did lots of other things and didn't want to make 4H a focus. We meet in the Spring for a while, do the fair, and adjourn until next Spring. We do poultry only, so it's easy. Kids are in Boy Scouts, sports, lots of stuff besides 4H.
Our kids are are in a lot, too. In past years, they've participated in 3 sports/year, along with scouts and Camp Fire. I had to give up something, so I quit leading Camp Fire. Now we're down to Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, Cub Scouts - and in January, they will play Basketball. My daughter is the only one who will play Little League in Spring (thank goodness!). She's pretty athletic, so we will let her play as long as she gives her best, and still wants to. I'd like to do 4-H as a family project, if possible. I'll have to call in and see if they will allow that.