you know, EM 2.... the original purpose of 4H, and agriculture in general, is to learn where food comes from, how to develop it, and to promote it. Fairs and expos are geared for the public to come, see what's happening, where their food comes from, and general public awareness.
If you aren't able to promote where the food is coming from, maybe you need to quit being a wanna-be, and leave it up to the folks who do?
Have you confided this problem with you sons? I don't know how old they are, but I know that when I was 5 or 6, I loved butchering chickens, it was a blast.. and to this day still make comments like: "Boy Rosemary sure tastes great", while sitting at the dinner table.
maybe that's not the norm?