What am I going to do with him??

shelleyd2008 · Oct 12, 2009

My son is apparently acting out, that's the only way I can explain it. He has been potty trained for about 3 years, and recently he's started peeing just about anywhere. (this is an exaggeration, but it sure seems that way).

I just cleaned the floor behind the toilet 2 days ago, and had to do it again because there was a rancid puddle.
I think he's even peed in the furnace vent in the bathroom, someone has, and it's not me
A few months ago, I caught him peeing in the bathroom garbage can, and got that stopped, but I don't know what to do!!

I've tried making him sit down to go, until he can re-learn how to hold it so it goes where it's supposed to, but that didn't even work! The only way that would is if I tie a string on him and to my belt, cause I can't watch him every single second.

I'm at my wits end....HELP!!!

saddina · Oct 12, 2009

Quote:Long shot but...

Call the peditritian, let them know he's suddenly having accidents, and can they check for a bladder infection (boys get them less often, but if he pees in the tub and sits in the water it can happen), sometimes small kids associate toilet with pain instead of urine with pain, and try to hold it and go in non-toilet places.

cyrixlord · Oct 12, 2009

yah, that woudl be my guess, some medical condition, unless hes angry at something and wants to get back at whatever it is thats eating him

McCord6 · Oct 12, 2009

Keep your eyes glued to him, catch him in action, then sit down with him, talk, and tell him what he did was a no-no and he needs to pee-pee in the toilet. If that doesn't work, then go to a dr. Boys, as far as I know of, like to pee on EVERYTHING. My son did it. If he is outside playing, he will pee outside (so does my hubby, MEN/BOYS).

Eggs4Sale · Oct 12, 2009

How old is your son? About 5 or 6? If so, it would seem that a kid that age knows very well where he can and can not pee without getting Mom mad. After you have him cleared by the doctor, threaten him with little pink Dora panties! Okay, maybe not.

kathyinmo · Oct 12, 2009

I am an RN, and I have worked in the psychiatic field for over 25 years (most of those years with children). My guess is .... he is wanting your attention. AND, he is getting it ... right? I would suggest you have a talk to him about positive, or "good" ways to get attention, verses "bad" attention. Just a thought ...

Another thing ... why are you cleaning up the messes? Oh no, you didn't make the mess, so you don't clean it up! He needs to be held responsible for his actions .... let him clean up! This really needs to begin at an early age.

Good luck!

Sonoran Silkies · Oct 12, 2009

My thoughts exactly. He makes the mess, he cleans it; you inspect and her cleans more, if needed.

In addition to a medical problem or wanting your attention, there could be some other emotional issue going on that he is angry about, and cannot safely (in his mind) respond to in a normal manner.

SarahFair · Oct 12, 2009

He might just be experimenting with places to pee.
I could see at that age an inventive mind wanting to pee down a vent or in a trash can. Its something new.

Make him clean it up and hell stop.

stacym · Oct 12, 2009

It's a boy thing. Some boys just love to pee on everything. My middle son use to pee on everything out in our yard (he was about 4) That wasn't so bad. One day I was vacumning my floor downstairs when he came barreling in and ran upstairs. In about two minutes it started to rain on my head! We live in an old house that has a vent that is covered by carpeting upstairs.( It warmed the upstairs when there was a wood stove) I made him clean it up with towels and lightly dusted his butt with my hand.
This particular child also tried to hatch store eggs under his pillow in his room. Did I mention he was sitting on the pillow?
He's one of my brightest kids but he can still be a handful!

sred98 · Oct 12, 2009

Quote:I totally agree! Unless you suspect there is an underlying medical or psychological issue, boys will be boys. I'm not saying every boy does this, but both of mine did. And I've talked to several parents of boys that had this problem. I don't know if they get bored peeing in the toilet, or are just experimenting? I gave them a place outside to pee. It pretty much stopped the house issues. However...taking a poo in the middle of the driveway is unacceptable! Be sure and set clear boundaries about it...only pee, no poop! You have to be very specific with them!

When we were looking for land, as soon as we'd get out of the car, the boys would run and pee on a tree. Just like a dog marking their territory! It was crazy! They've learned not to do it at friends' houses, but sometimes have to be reminded of the rules, and they are 8 and 10.

Welcome to having boys!

Shelly