Work rant not sure what to do? (long) updated had meeting

[luvchicks8]

Well I work at my son's school in the cafe, I am covering to help them as there regular employee broke her ancke and she is 72 years old. Anyway my son is in the third grade and everytime anything happens his teacher runs to tell me. She even brings my son in and humiliates him in front of the other girls I work with, she calls him a lier and everything and makes him cry. Well I asked her and the principal to please keep my son and my job seperate. Well today I didn't know it but my son had brought in a few of his birthday invitations to hand out and she took them from him and said he had to invite the whole class or nobody. This upset my son so he told me about it at snack time. I didn't say anything to him but that I would see about getting them back and that I would hand them out after school. Well around 2pm his teacher comes into the kitchen again were I am working and say's I need to see you(not nice at all)
I told her I was busy and that I get out in 15 min and that I would take my son's invitations. She then said see I can't get anywhere with you you only know half the story. Well I knew none of the story because I was WORKING. So she thought I said somthing back to her which was just another person in the cafe talking and she yelled at me from across the room EXCUSE ME, when I said I didn't say anything she said that's what I thought. I HATE confrontations I cry I did say please don't speak to me like I am one of your students so she reported me to my boss and the principals office saying she can't have me working here and she was the one crying. I really like what I do and am afraid I am going to lose my job over this and I have a house and 2 kids.

 

[WingingIt]

You have witnesses as to what happened. Ask the coworkers who were nearest to you to accompany you to speak with the principal and they can back you up that she repeatedly interrupts your work, leaves her classroom to come down there, she was NOT crying, etc. Reiterate what you've already asked: That you've asked repeatedly for her NOT to bring your child to the cafeteria while you are working, NOT to approach you during work hours to discuss your son and that she is NEVER AGAIN to use humiliation and scare tactics to make him cry! You've already approached the principal, so they know it's an issue with her.

That teacher sounds REALLY immature and rude to me, they need to have a serious sit down chat with her.

Hugs

 

[luvchicks8]

The problem is it is a very small school and she has worked there 15 years, they really stick together and my son is going to pay the price. I was told personally that I needed to choose my son or my job.

 

[Camelot Farms]

I dont have any answers but one thought comes to mind... if you are a school employee should are a union member right? Put in a call to your rep.
If not union, contact the local dept of labor. If you choose to quit (even though they are forcing you to choose), you may not qaulify for benefits so you want everything documented in case.

Hang in there!

 

[luvchicks8]

Thats just it I'm not a school employee I am a substitute for the sau but I have been covering the cafe for 7 weeks straight for abroken ankle.

 

[SillyChicken]

What are you planning to do once the SAU comes back?

 

[luvchicks8]

I have substituted for my son's school for 3 years whenever they call I go in. This is the first long term subbing I have done. I have a 5 year old special needs child so it is very hard to wirk regular jobso this has worked great I'm at school when they are at school.

 

[herfrds]

Get written statements from the people who have seen what the teacher has done.
Since you reported it to the principle and nothing is done, take it to the superintendient of your school. Keep a record of everytime she has done this.
Does not matter if you are a sub there are not.
If the super does nothing take it up with the school board and if they do nothing head to the head of the school system for your state.
This teacher is on a power trip.
If you know any parents of your son's classmates give them a call and see if they can tell what they see going on. Kids are smater then some people think they are.

I had an incedent concerning my son at school. I only heard the one side. So i started calling his classmates parents and they talked to their kids and I got the full story of what happened.
Asked the super why my son was punished for defending himself against a bully and nothing was done to the bully. Told the super if that bully was not reined in I was going to teach my son some defense moves that are not clean.
The bully has never bothered him since.

 

[luvchicks8]

Thanks everyone I am so stressed over this, my son has had to sit by himself in the cafe just for speaking to me. The school said that he would be punished if he spoke to me about anything involving his classroom.

 

[sourland]

Your child can't talk to you about what goes on in his life? That is WRONG on so many levels. Something here sounds bizarre starting with the teacher's behavior and continuing up through the principal. Document all incidents with dates and witnesses and pursue as far up the chain of command as you need to go. Again, there is something very wrong going on here!

Edited for language. ~Lisa~​