Work rant not sure what to do? (long) updated had meeting

[CityChicker]

Okay, I can't even read the whole thread. Reading your post just made me FUME.

You are 100% in the right. The nerve of some people. I would NOT tolerate that. There is just no way. I don't know how schools work, but is there an HR person or are you just hired by the principal or something similar? If it were me, this would end TODAY. She is so far out of line it is not even funny. How dare she treat you and your child like that.

I would be on the phone with every person necessary until it is resolved immediately (as I'm sure you are doing).

I just cannot believe the gall of some people.

 

[luvchicks8]

I have a meeting first thing in the morning with pricipal teacher and and others involved.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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Good for you!

Some pointers that may help:

Try to stick to facts, not feelings. Feelings muddy the waters and admins cant make decisions based on feelings, only facts and it sounds like she will try to use petty things.
Keep calm, bring a bottle of water with you (in case you are hit with a sudden case of dry mouth), watch your body language...it speaks louder than words sometimes.
Even if she goes for the jugular...keep cool. Take the emotion out of it....facts, facts, facts.

Let us know how it goes!!
((hugs))

 

[WingingIt]

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Good for you!

Some pointers that may help:

Try to stick to facts, not feelings. Feelings muddy the waters and admins cant make decisions based on feelings, only facts and it sounds like she will try to use petty things.
Keep calm, bring a bottle of water with you (in case you are hit with a sudden case of dry mouth), watch your body language...it speaks louder than words sometimes.
Even if she goes for the jugular...keep cool. Take the emotion out of it....facts, facts, facts.

Let us know how it goes!!
((hugs))

I agree. Tonight when it's quiet, sit down and write down the points you want to make. List the dates/times she's come in and interrupted you, the things she said each time, what your response was and who else was present as a witness. Then list what you want to happen from now on. For her to NOT come in while you are working, to set up a conference to discuss your child like she would with any other parents, etc.

It will make sure that you not only stay on track, but also that you won't forget to bring up something important only to remember it after the meeting.

Go get 'em!

 

[redhen]

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yup...why is that teacher still teaching him?...

 

[Prettiest Frog]

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Practice the one eyebrow slightly raised, faintly and coldly amused facial expression and set your face to it every time the teacher starts to go off. Absolutely don't let her get a rise out of you. Don't sink to her level, if she starts, let her wind down a bit, then continue with 'as I was saying...' and make sure you get your side of the story told without letting her break your stride. Pretend she is not even in the room if necessary.

Adopt an anthropologist voice in your head, it helps. 'Here we see specialus teacherus roachalis in it's natural habitat. As a defensive mechanism, it spews venom in a childlike tantruming manner...'

 

[gudrin]

I just want to wish you luck with your meeting! I was the child in a case like this. Not exactly to the extent of what you are going through, and in middle school. In my case, my dad was a fellow teacher, and my science teacher thought he could go to my dad whenever my grades got less than an A. My dad, thankfully, never really did anything about it aside from tell me about it. It happened so many times that I finally went to the teacher myself and asked him to stop, because any other student wouldn't have parents find out about grades until progress reports went out. This was before the gradebooks were available online. And of course, I was much older than your son, but I do understand what you are feeling, to some degree.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Pull your child out of that class--insist on a different teacher. You may even want to put him in a different school (decide that after your meeting). As for work, go talk to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission--harrassment is harrassment, and is ILLEGAL.

Very definitely write down your points, and organize them in a methodical manner. Practice saying them in front of a mirror. One question you can ask is who is watching the children when the teacher is coming down to the lunchroom to harrangue you? In my sons' elementary schools, children were NEVER to be left without an adult in the room.

Whether you are a full-time regular employee or a substitute makes no difference--while you are substituting, you are employed, and you are working. The teacher's harrassment is interfering with your ability to perform your job. As for telling you that he is not allowed to tell you anything about his classroom--that is grounds for a report to CPS in my books--what is it that the teacher and school are afraid he will say?

 

[jojo@rolling acres farm]

Okay, first of all, don't ever let anyone make you a victim. If this is a temp job you were going to leave it sooner or later right? Or did you plan on staying if the lady with the injury decides not to come back?

Regardless of what the answer is...this person is paid by your tax dollars. She is being totally disrespectful of not only your little boy but of you. You need to stand up to her and confront this head on, in a calm manner. Like previous posters have stated - be cool, be deliberate and direct. I think you need to sit down and write yourself notes about what she said to you and when she said it. Be sure to include your response. She is being a bully...don't let her intimidate you or your child. Is this the only school in your area he can attend?

Stay on message. Don't cry or be emotional. Be as tough as nails, stand your ground. Get a meeting with the person in charge there & make yourself be heard.

Good Luck, keep us posted.

 

[RachelFromTheBlackLagoon]

Aw

I feel for your son. I also had a tough time in school. It breaks my heart to think about a kid being bullied or picked on, but it's even worse when it's at the hands of an adult. Kids are supposed to be able to trust and look up to their teachers. I agree that this type of thing can be pretty damaging to a child.

I hope all goes well for both of you. It seems like there's been some great advice given here. Hang in there. You'll do great! Please let us know what happens.

for you and big

for your kiddo!