Would you be offended.

[Cindiloohoo]

First, my daughter is planning on getting married March 8th. Got the news LAST WEEK! She is still in high school. We've known the BOY for 4 years from when they started dating. Now they have decided to get in a rush and get married before she finishes school. Neither has a job

We're broke so no wedding, it'll be a courthouse extravaganza...and his mom and sister just took it upon themselves to plan a reception at their house after the ceremony. We're invited

but....isn't that tacky? No call to ask if we want to try to do something together...just decide, plan, and invite. They are in no better financial situation, and I just feel like we should have had some sort of say in something. She FINALLY called to say we're invited and she doesn't want us to bring anything...possibly even ourselves...but what the...it just seems tacky to me. Am I just being stupid or is that just really inconsiderate and offensive?

 

[Cindiloohoo]

I just realized this is in the wrong place too!! I'm so aggravated!! Mods sorry if you would please move it for me?

 

[jeremy]

You're family... you rightly should have been some of the first to know.

I'd be a little hurt.

 

[WriterofWords]

Depending on how much it means to you to be there, and I don't think it does that much from the sound of it,,, send her a belated card about 2 weeks after to wedding, no money inside, and say congrats hope you are happy. Yeah it's rude and inconsiderate. And no,, I don't think you will look back and laugh later at her insensitivity.

 

[debilorrah]

I think you are both - your family and his - in shock right now. And because of that, something like this can be overlooked. They are probably doing what little they can and are not thinking clearly. Are you?

 

[Mandalina]

i would be aggrivated by the wedding in general and their rudeness. your dd needs to stop and think,getting married is a huuuuuuuuuuuuge decision.

 

[Ms.FuzzyButts]

I would be offended. They should have contacted you first. It is nice that they are doing something for them, but they should have thought to include you and any plans your family may have had.

 

[vickie2133]

Yes I probley would. But please realize that they are the inlaws and the smoothier everything goes, then the happier your daughter will be. Not trying to step on no toes, but they are so young to be getting married. I thought I was too young at 21 LOL. But I have also know of couples that have married young in life, and grew old together. Congrads, and catch your breath, count to ten. Then think of something you may can do for them after the wedding.

 

[FortWorthChicks]

Oh, I guess if goes under family.

I would be a bit annoyed. Since there will not be a big wedding it seems like they would at least give you the chance to help with this reception they decided to throw.

Your right to feel this way.

And I heard it on the Bonnie Hunt show "Love is blind, marriage is eye opening."


I wonder why the rush to get hitched too.... I mean before school is out?

 

[usschicago1]

Thats tough! I wouldn't say anything since its a special time in there and your life! Though, if there living under your roof it would have been nice to know a while back