IMHO a cockerel isn't a rooster until he has completed his first adult molt or in the absence of an adult molt when he reaches 18 - 24 months old . It is the same difference between a 15 year old boy and a 25 or 30 year old man.
Whether you pickup your hens or not is immaterial. What matters is that your hens are quite and complacent when you do pickup or hold one.
A gentle and quite rooster begins with gentle and quite hens. An overly nervous and flighty hen will help spoil the whole flock, or at least make it hard to see what's going on with the rest of your birds. The hen contributes most of the personally to a rooster and a flighty hen will spawn more nervous roosters than tame ones.
Whether you pickup your hens or not is immaterial. What matters is that your hens are quite and complacent when you do pickup or hold one.
The post below may work but only if your hens don't go into orbit from the whipping and flogging or the beating of the floor that you are doing.
For all the new flock keepers that is a very accurate description of a flock of chickens. I have yet to hear two roosters strolling wing in wing while singing Kum-ba-ha and I doubt that Beekissed has seen this sight either.
The next time you think that you have a bully of a hen, all she is doing is protecting her "personal" space which is all that the pecking order is about.