Late m-i-l, late sister, late friends- try being married to a chronically late person! No one, and I mean no one, has been able to change him. If we need to be somewhere at a specific time, I always tell him we need to leave before we really do because then there is a ghost of a chance that he might be ready. Drives us all crazy! When the girls were younger and we were going somewhere, he'd say: "We'll leave at 11:30." 11:30 would come, all four of us would be waiting at the door, and he'd be still tying his shoes or finishing dressing or whatever.
And it's not that he doesn't care or anything like that. He just gets focused on what he is doing before he needs to go, and loses all sense of time. Alarms? Timers? Tried that. He just shuts it off, the thought passes thru his head that he needs to go, and he keeps right on plugging away at whatever he was doing. And then half an hour before time to leave, he is just getting in the shower. Is it annoying? Sure. I get freaked out because I hate being late. To him, if it starts at 5, and he's there at 5:10, he's on time. We live with it, because we don't have a choice.
That's not to say I have just resigned myself to being late for everything. Either I tell him to be ready before he needs to be, or I just get myself ready and head out to the car. If it gets really late or I really need to be there on time, I just leave. He usually gets the hint when I put on my coat and head out the door! Tonight will be interesting. He wants to go to the dog's weekly therapy class, but has a special meeting/presentation at work today. He *says* he can skip or leave early and that he will. We'll see. I may be pacing the floor in front of the door......
And it's not that he doesn't care or anything like that. He just gets focused on what he is doing before he needs to go, and loses all sense of time. Alarms? Timers? Tried that. He just shuts it off, the thought passes thru his head that he needs to go, and he keeps right on plugging away at whatever he was doing. And then half an hour before time to leave, he is just getting in the shower. Is it annoying? Sure. I get freaked out because I hate being late. To him, if it starts at 5, and he's there at 5:10, he's on time. We live with it, because we don't have a choice.
That's not to say I have just resigned myself to being late for everything. Either I tell him to be ready before he needs to be, or I just get myself ready and head out to the car. If it gets really late or I really need to be there on time, I just leave. He usually gets the hint when I put on my coat and head out the door! Tonight will be interesting. He wants to go to the dog's weekly therapy class, but has a special meeting/presentation at work today. He *says* he can skip or leave early and that he will. We'll see. I may be pacing the floor in front of the door......