How to tell a 4yo that you ate their drake...

[duckmeister]

but lying is never a good answer
That being said there are things in life you have to learn and also a time to learn them.
Thats a parents responsibility and its hard when you  ''get in the way''(no offence TroyerGal)

I would think that someone with a compulsion to tell a stranger's 4 year old something that would make them cry in the name of 'truthfulness' probably shouldn't be allowed to be around small children. But that's just me.

 

[TroyerGal]

The original post stated the duck was going to be culled and the OP wanted to know how to tell a 4 yr old, if she came looking, that her duck was dead.

Lying to spare the feelings of a 4 yr old seems perfectly acceptable.

Yes! That's what I'm saying... I asked if this kid asks, how should I gently tell her the duck is no longer living

 

[TroyerGal]

I thought that would be the case (about the pet) because you said they're vegan.
But when a drake goes mean there's only one thing you can do with him...dinner

I agree, there comes a time when a animal life must be taken for certain reasons... For food, or because it was a danger to another animal. He temporarily blinded over 3 of my ducks!

 

[Cherib603]

You are welcome to eat him, but please spare the kids' feelings! One of my ducks - my 6 yr old granddaughters favorite - was killed by a raccoon and she cries whenever she thinks of it.
Really wish we'd lied to her and told her it went to live on a pond or farm. That's all I'm saying.

 

[Bills vs Beaks]

How on earth did he manage that??? And I am well acquainted with drakes VIOLENT behavior when it come to ducks.
I mean really, is it necessary to DROWN them and RIP their feathers out?

 

[TroyerGal]

I'm totally fine with "lying" to a child to spare their feelings... When I was little, I had a pair of cats run away... My mama had told me that someone probably found them an gave them a nice home. I was devastated, but I'm not permanently scarred from it.

 

[Bills vs Beaks]

You are welcome to eat him, but please spare the kids' feelings! One of my ducks - my 6 yr old granddaughters favorite - was killed by a raccoon and she cries whenever she thinks of it.
Really wish we'd lied to her and told her it went to live on a pond or farm. That's all I'm saying.

when we lost a special chicken my parents sat the lil uns(3 and 6) down and explained what happened and let them cry a bit but its life.
Same when we lost a duck(but they didn't cry then, my mom did)
Sorry for your granddaughter hope she's ok.

 

[Bills vs Beaks]

I'm totally fine with "lying" to a child to spare their feelings... When I was little, I had a pair of cats run away... My mama had told me that someone probably found them an gave them a nice home. I was devastated, but I'm not permanently scarred from it.

That dosnt sound like a lie...just sayin

 

[TroyerGal]

How on earth did he manage that??? And I am well acquainted with drakes VIOLENT behavior when it come to ducks.
I mean really, is it necessary to DROWN them and RIP their feathers out?

I know right?! I looked it up and it seems that excessive mating can cause eye problems... He chases them around and often has a goose, hen And another drake trying to save the poor little duck.

 

[casportpony]

Joking aside... You adopted a drake from your neighbor, and that person probably thought you would provide a good home, so I think it would be best to be honest and tell them it's not working out and that you have two choices, 1) butcher, 2) return to them. Let them deide, then let them deal with their 4 year old. The thought of having to lie to people really rubs me the wrong way.

-Kathy

The original post stated the duck was going to be culled and the OP wanted to know how to tell a 4 yr old, if she came looking, that her duck was dead.

Lying to spare the feelings of a 4 yr old seems perfectly acceptable.

I know what was said, and it's a touchy subject, but my moral compass won't let me lie to so easily, 'cause it's a very serious issue with me.

All of you, ask yourselves this question... "do you lie?" I'd like to sat that I have never lied, but to say that would be a lie, lol, but in a case like this I think it's the responsibility of the parents to deal with the feelings of *their* four year old. Besides, shouldn't the parents be with said four year old when visiting the ducks? Please don't tell m that the four year old is allowed to roam the neighborhood unsupervised.

-Kathy