I am so sad for her. I don't know her, but I will add her to my prayers. Stay strong for her, and she will be there for you when you need her. Which I pray is a long, long time from now.
Do you have a local YMCA? A lot of times, they have a large room for rent for events. Let's see... A friends church, the Y, a local civic group like the Lions or the Masons might have a hall. How about a local hotel?? Will they let you rent a small banquet room? Heck, contact some local...
You amaze me. I have been reading your thread for a while now. My heart aches and rejoices for you'll at the same time. Is there any way to get the divorce done faster? You could always have a ceremony then sign your papers later if need be. Besides, the most important thing is that you love...