➡I accidentally bought Balut eggs: 2 live ducks! Now a Chat Thread!

[Kiki]

That second part made me laugh

But I’m the same way tbh. I can spend a ton on the pets, make sure they have the best whatever, but then meanwhile I only have like a few pairs of sneakers I wear daily and mostly wear t shirts and shorts daily and eat like crap most days

That said, I do somewhat have a problem with buying like band merch or books or whatever. I’ve been better lately but occasionally have a bit of a spending problem but I don’t spend it on anything useful lol clothes or shoes or anything

Meanwhile the pets all have sooo much stuff

And thank you. That does make me feel better tbh.

It’s lame but sometimes I have to do that or I won’t remember.



Sounds nasty LOL



X2! On all of it lol cottage cheese popsicles sounds disgusting lol

And yup! Whenever I eat like shit, processed foods, sugar, etc. it’s a given that I will both feel like shit physically and mentally and usually get depressed. It’s a real thing. They say food can have a huge impact on your mental health. Grain/bread too.



AH HA! So that’s why you wanted me to shovel so much earlier... you enjoy it!

I definitely don’t but I will try it if I can manage to without barfing everywhere

Currently trying to eat lunch.

You know, I think this is karma for my mom and I making fun of my dad about his cold and wondering why he was laying around so much, saying it’s just a cold, quit being a baby, get up and do something, etc. and thinking it was just “man flu”...... yeah.... this is a horrible cold. I feel like dog shit. Definitely karma.



Try! Or a vitamin mix drink at least.



x2



Okay ewwwwww.







No lol



true



So you would do something but it didn’t work lol



X2!



good idea.



Me too lol



Me too ha



Good idea but I do think you should find another therapist.



Good idea.



You are already keeping a sleep diary. Should be simple to just add food to it.



X2! On everything. I’ve definitely had days where I don’t even go outside all day.

But I feel like shit. So going outside definitely helps. I always feel better once I do haha



X2

I think he needs to find a new therapist.



Very true. I used to write stuff down/journal a lot and it did really help.

I’ve never reread mine though, I think it would just make me depressed all over reliving it and especially I was pretty negative/nasty/mean in it. Thinking of burning it lol







Those are fast and easy but no sure they’re the healthiest but eating anything is better than nothing at this point.



Good idea.



I don’t think it will. Internet/phone/social media addiction is a real thing and can make you feel worse.



X2!! It’s very real.



I really believe it would help you rather than hurt you. Being on the screen too much does not help depression and possibly even causes it. I would know ha

You should try going for a walk, reading a book, hanging out with your animals, drawing/painting, writing, anything other than being on the phone or computer. I really believe it would help you. And maybe it doesn’t have to be for a whole week or two whole days or anything like Kiki said. Maybe it starts with a couple hours. Or even maybe just an hour at first. If you can’t get off it for a whole hour, start with 5 minutes. Get up, get a glass of water, walk around a bit, come back. Baby steps. But I really believe it will help you.



That is awesome!!



Hopefully.



I really do not think it will. In fact, they’ve done studies that show that excessive phone/internet use can actually make you feel more isolated, lonely, depressed, etc. that’s because you have so many friends online, followers on social media, lots of likes, whatever but none of them are there in real life and usually when you’re online, you’re inside or otherwise isolated from real people/real life. So being online too much actually makes you feel more isolated. Do you have any IRL friends you could hang out with even just for a little bit? Or siblings? Go hang with your animals even. Just get off the phone temporarily. I promise you will feel better. I know it’s hard, I’m usually on my phone all day every day, rarely put it down, always on here, Twitter, or FB, and it’s hard to put it down and pull yourself away but I’ve been trying lately and you can too. Technology addiction is a very real thing just like any other addiction and you have to break the cycle. I promise you will feel better if you do. No one’s saying you have to just throw it away and all of a sudden magically be super productive but it starts with baby steps. Force yourself to get up out of bed, force yourself to eat, force yourself to shower, force yourself to drink something, etc. and it will be hard. Not gonna lie. But then I promise it will start to snowball and you will feel better. Just gotta keep one foot in front of the other and keep pushing on, pushing through. You’ll make it.



I know you can do a lot more than that.



true lol although ours often are the source, the farmers or small people go there hah



X2. I hope they know how he is feeling. You really should tell them, Carp.





What about something IT related? You are good at computers, right? I think you could easily do something like that and you may even be able to find something where you can work from home which might work for you.

You are super smart so I know that you will get past this and you will find a good job and have a good life



Oh wow! I can see why you rescued them! Would have too tbh haha



Oh wow that is a tiny farmers market! Haha I think I’d feel bad then too lol we have a few different ones here and they’re not too expensive but some of them are and some have like crafts or whatever too. They’re not huge though, more than 6 but not a ton. Idk. I like them. But now my garden’s so huge I don’t really need to go to them.

I'll never get things done today if I have to read novels like this.

 

[BantyChooks]

Back when I worked for a lg animal vet, I NEVER minded shoveling horse poop. I guess it's bc I got to be outside hanging with the horses.

@BantyChooks i hate to admit I wouldn't even know how much different or alike it is. My step mom is from Vermont and it's very country and open and sounds amazing but I haven't been yet. They usually bring me syrup from there when she and my dad visit me.

Hey, me neither. All I know is what I've learnt from you guys on here! I've traveled a decent amount to places north of the Mason-Dixie line, but rarely south of it and never to a wide area or for very long. I far prefer staying home to seeing the world.

 

[Kiki]

Anyway, I'll get outside and do something today.

 

[CarpCharacin]

Anyway, I'll get outside and do something today.

I'll make an attempt.

 

[Kiki]

I'll make an attempt.

Can you go get a few pictures of some of your outside fish for me please?

 

[CarpCharacin]

Can you go get a few pictures of some of your outside fish for me please?

Do they need to be new ones, or can I post existing ones?

 

[Kiki]

Do they need to be new ones, or can I post existing ones?

Yes...I need fresh ones.

 

[ShrekDawg]

Both of my brothers are computer nerds.
They make well over 6 figures and both sit at home, in their underwear, to work.
And guess what...one only completed high school. The other did graduate college.

You posted before me but I was gonna say the same thing! I think he should do something with computers.

That really isn't something I think I would want to or even could do for a living. I couldn't do programming. A lot of it is the same type of reasoning as math, and that's where I'm weak.

You don’t have to do programming! There’s a ton of different areas and fields in computers/tech and tech is a huge industry right now. I am positive you could find something you are good at and make good money doing it. Or even consulting or something.

Also I’m pretty sure MIT offers some free courses online. You should look into that or maybe take a couple.

Took me two seconds to swallow this without even tasting it.
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100 times better than a popsicle.

X2!

I just got out of bed and had an ice cream bar.

That’s a major step in the right direction.

My daughter likes those things. Just went and restocked on some different ones not even an HR ago bc we had run out.

I gotta try these haha

Party time!
I think you should do a thing now.

X2

Absolutely. Not really something that can be compared.
I don't know of any actually local farmer's markets, though if I could find one I imagine it would be more comparable. You've got to travel to the less rural areas here before they start popping up. The one I go to most often is also the biggest because I'm there mainly to help sell stuff and it pays off to haul everything an hour away.

It's the same people selling locally and over there—I just meant that they just charge more when they haul their stuff into town to sell.

That makes a lot of sense. If they can get away with charging more, good for them haha

Maybe I'll take a nap.

If you feel you need it. May help you feel better. But I really feel you should try to stay out of bed and do something else.

I"m so far behind but wanted to say adorable!

X2

I just started buying them.
No one else here will try them since it's labeled for babies.
I'm not a fan of labels when I'm in a hurry and wants a quick snack.

That’s ridiculous. Label doesn’t matter. They’re good lol

He is ridiculous.
I can go from wanting to cut his head off to kissing his fat little neck in a split second.
By far the worse dog I have ever had. I hope he lives to twenty.

awwww

You seem pretty sure about that. Do you have friends who haven't seen you lately?

A lot of people choose the anonymity of the Internet over real life relationships when real life seems too difficult.



You're more creative than that but you do seem to struggle with focusing on what you can't do rather than what you can.



But your language skills are strong. Do you think authors punch a clock?

X10000!!

I do believe getting off the internet will help him.

And I totally get the focusing on the negatives or what you can’t do, I’ve been there before and it can be really hard to change, when I was at my worst many years ago, it was hard to find any hope at all and I thought I’d never get better, tbh I didn’t even wanna be there, but I got past it and I know he can too.

Char, hang in there.

Yea i do those too of course it started for the little ones, but my two in the pantry are like blueberry yogurt. Theyre good but i was embarrassed by the label. And i dont have any as healthy as yours

Still better than popsicles lol

I'll wear grandma shoes to the grocery store to buy them for myself and tell anyone who will listen that I plan to chug them and not think twice about it.

Yea i dont care either what the strangers think but what would my Mother in Law think? My real life friends might decide im not coming back from this one.

I live in a super small "city" surrounded by a lot of open area that's just outside of city limits. Most of us "city" people only have a yard that doesn't necessarily accommodate a large garden so our farmers market can be a vital resource as going straight to the source (aka the plant) isn't always an option. Technically some of them do bring things into the city but our " city" (we are actually considered a city) is 2 miles x 2 miles approximately so not much time spent traveling and considering its country roads that lead straight into town, no interstate driving or other major towns/ cities to drive through to get here from where they are located (again some live right here) there's not a lot of travel expense on their part. My grandma lived in a very rural area in north Louisiana and catered to small towns around her home. She made her living this way.

Oh wow small town haha

Gotcha, makes sense. It's neat to me how southern and northern areas differ so much in how they're laid out and connected to surrounding areas.

X2 although I think it varies a lot even in the same area, like there’s rural and cities in most places ha

I am pretty sure about it, for basically my entire life I've found it to be practically impossible to find friends that share common interests at school, and it's hard to be friends with someone if you share no common interests.

Maybe I do. I do tend to think about the worst possible scenario, one good example of that was when I was in third grade, and there was an earthquake drill, and I remember talking to my teacher afterwards because I was concerned about the possibility of the ground liquifying in the case of an earthquake, because the school was built in an area with silty soil and groundwater.

I'm awful at making up stories. Previously, I wanted to have a career doing scientific research and publishing it, but right now I feel like I can't do anything, and I'm not exaggerating.

I am sure you can find someone to be friends with

And I totally understand the worst case scenario thing, it’s anxiety, I have it too, and coupled with the depression, it can really alter your perception on reality, but you gotta try.

Something my friend made me do when I was at my worst was make a list of 5 things I like about myself and she even made me make a new one with different items daily. It was damn hard at first, I’m not kidding when I say I struggled to find even 5 things I liked about myself. I hated myself at the time. Hated a lot of other stuff too. Didn’t want to do anything. And it was damn hard to think of those things. But she stuck with me anyway. And you know what? That list helped. It started becoming much easier to think of things I liked about myself. I really think it could help you. Or maybe not even just what you like about yourself but maybe list things you are good at. You seem to know exactly what you aren’t good at and I think listing things you are good at could help you. Maybe list things you are thankful for too or any positive things going on in your life. Maybe make a couple lists. I really believe this will help you. It can be really hard to see any positive or any future or hope when you’re in that dark of a place but trying to make an effort to focus on the positive and even just come up with a few good things every day really does help.

The biggest craziest difference, to me, is the whole air conditioning thing.

We have AC LOL

And heating! Who doesn't have heating? Nutters.

 

[BantyChooks]

X2 although I think it varies a lot even in the same area, like there’s rural and cities in most places ha

Yes, but the way they're connected and concentrated is vastly different.

 

[CarpCharacin]

You don’t have to do programming! There’s a ton of different areas and fields in computers/tech and tech is a huge industry right now. I am positive you could find something you are good at and make good money doing it. Or even consulting or something.

I still don't really want to work in IT, like at all..... I still kind of hope a little that I'll be able to work in science, but maybe I shouldn't have false hope? :/