➡I accidentally bought Balut eggs: 2 live ducks! Now a Chat Thread!

[ShrekDawg]

Need to have a routine and do it repetitively for 21+ days.

We all hate something about ourselves

I usually only last a few days at most. I guess I need to really try to stay dedicated to it.

And eh, it’s not really that I hate myself per se, pretty happy/good overall lately, just what I do or rather don’t do haha

ETA: that was supposed to read not that I do

 

[ShrekDawg]

@KDOGG331 what did you go to school for anyways?

Behavioral Science.

 

[RUNuts]

Yeesh, territorial much?

And venonononomouss!!!

 

[Tesumph]

I usually only last a few days at most. I guess I need to really try to stay dedicated to it.

And eh, it’s really that I hate myself per se, pretty happy/good overall lately, just what I do or rather don’t do haha

I understand Kelsey. And for what it’s worth, I don’t think you should go back to school. If it wasn’t absolutely necessary for my career path, I would drop out in a heartbeat. It’s really not worth the toll on your mental health.
If anything, look into trade school.. going back for your bachelors is not a guarantee at a job and the behavioral degree field is extremely oversaturated anyway.
Believe you me, experience looks better than a piece of paper.

And hey, I’m not one to talk, but maybe you should ask your doctor about depression.

 

[Sara L]

At least here you have the right to fire your agent at any point during the contract. I think that our agent just listed our house and sat back & did nothing. It was on the market for over 4 months, and ended up losing our a$$es

That sucks that's what I'm worried about.

That’s the weird thing. I do want it but can’t seem to stick to it or actually change.

Course some would say I haven’t tried hard enough (or really at all) which is probably true too

But the thing of it all is that even though I don’t really act like it, I do hate that I’m like this

You need to make it into a habit. Find a buddy in real life not just online, that can help you build good habits and stick to them.

Need to have a routine and do it repetitively for 21+ days.

We all hate something about ourselves

This. Exactly.

 

[ShrekDawg]

I’m confused. Did you go to a 4year college or just community college?

Both haha

Just didn’t stay at the 4 year one long enough to get a degree

Right out of high school I went to PA for school but I only stayed there for like a little over a year. It was a trimester system my first year so I got more credits in than usual. Then it switched to semesters. Anyway, second year I dropped out two weeks before finals.

Then I proceeded to take the next 4 years to get a two year degree

Granted, I took a lot of time off between and didn’t take a lot of classes at first but still.

It took like 6 years to get that damn 2 year degree haha

I graduated high school in 2012. I only got the degree last year.

 

[Conan]

I understand Kelsey. And for what it’s worth, I don’t think you should go back to school. If it wasn’t absolutely necessary for my career path, I would drop out in a heartbeat. It’s really not worth the toll on your mental health.
If anything, look into trade school.. going back for your bachelors is not a guarantee at a job and the behavioral degree field is extremely oversaturated anyway.
Believe you me, experience looks better than a piece of paper.

And hey, I’m not one to talk, but maybe you should ask your doctor about depression.

Yes, @KDOGG331. THIS ^
I have a four year degree. It was useless for what I ended up doing, and unless you are going for very specific certifications or trade school, I really wouldn't bother. The market is saturated with young people in debt from school with no work experience. Get experience first.
Go on every feed store site or pet place site, and apply for every job that you qualify for. Apply at coffee places, fast food restaurants (they are the most fun places to work, imo). Go in, and hand them your resume. Introduce yourself.
Apply to help seasonally somewhere. Everyone is hiring seasonal employees this time of year. In fact, I was in line at my feed store last week and a young man walked in and asked about a job. The cashier called the hiring manager up, and they started chatting about a warehouse position. This kid didn't even have his shoelaces tied... I'll bet they hired him.
Shut up with your reasons or lack thereof. I mean that in the kindest way. Shut up, and get out there. Get a job. I guarantee you that you will feel better about yourself and your life after doing so.

 

[ShrekDawg]

I understand Kelsey. And for what it’s worth, I don’t think you should go back to school. If it wasn’t absolutely necessary for my career path, I would drop out in a heartbeat. It’s really not worth the toll on your mental health.
If anything, look into trade school.. going back for your bachelors is not a guarantee at a job and the behavioral degree field is extremely oversaturated anyway.
Believe you me, experience looks better than a piece of paper.

And hey, I’m not one to talk, but maybe you should ask your doctor about depression.

Yeah, that’s what I’m afraid of. My first school I dropped out because I was extremely depressed and failing all my classes. I had already dropped out of some of the classes because of it and thought I’d have time to get my grade up in the past couple and everyone was amazing/fantastic trying to help me but it was just too late.

It was weird though cause the first year I did great and got great grades and stuff. Idk. I guess I was just happy to be away from home or trying to impress everyone or something. But I also had an amazing friend that year too but then she left the second year. I think that was part of it. Not that my other roommates weren’t great, they were, and we all got along great, but we just didn’t have the same connection. With her, we’re inseparable, like long lost sisters haha we don’t talk as much now but only cause she kinda sucks at texting/long distance communication. but we’ve met up several times since and it’s like we never left. That really helped me that first year cause I was struggling a ton then too and dealing with a lot but she helped me so much and the other ones even though they were great I felt like I couldn’t tell them anything.

And even just at the community college, which theoretically should have been way less stressful and way easier, and with amazing professors and students, it wasn’t. I mean, it was. But I still would get super stressed out.

Idk. I don’t think I’m cut out for school.

And you’re right about experience. And especially in something like dog training, no one looks at degrees and most don’t even have them I don’t think. They care much more about certifications and experience.

I think I’d be better off just going into a training certification program and getting started.

And I didn’t know it was oversaturated. That is good to know and more reason to not waste time/money going into it. I figured everyone was in psych or animal science haha

And thank you.

That particular one was actually a typo. I meant I don’t hate myself. At least not now. I did years ago. Actually, that friend I mentioned above was one of the ones who really helped through that too. Like I said, was going through a lot then haha

I used to struggle to even think of anything I liked about myself back then. She made me make a list every day of 5 things I liked about myself. And they had to be different ones every day. And not something easy like my eyes or some shit. Man I really struggled with that list for a while. I literally struggled to think of even just 5 things I liked about myself. But it got easier and easier. I’m much better now. I mostly like myself now.

That said, I do think I still have depression. It’s just not as obvious as it was back then. But it’s been worse lately. I’ve been pretty bad again lately.

I did actually find a therapist though that’s located literally like across the street from me and takes my insurance and everything and specializes in the exact issues I’m dealing with. Been meaning to call her.

I do think I need to do something because I do think that’s a big part of why I’ve been so bad lately

 

[ShrekDawg]

That sucks that's what I'm worried about.


You need to make it into a habit. Find a buddy in real life not just online, that can help you build good habits and stick to them.


This. Exactly.

Thanks, yeah I’ll try. I don’t really have many friends in real life, most of them are from school and moved away. But I do still have some. Should probably try to make more and/or hang out with the ones I do have. I’m sure that’s probably part of the problem.

 

[Tesumph]

Yeah, that’s what I’m afraid of. My first school I dropped out because I was extremely depressed and failing all my classes. I had already dropped out of some of the classes because of it and thought I’d have time to get my grade up in the past couple and everyone was amazing/fantastic trying to help me but it was just too late.

It was weird though cause the first year I did great and got great grades and stuff. Idk. I guess I was just happy to be away from home or trying to impress everyone or something. But I also had an amazing friend that year too but then she left the second year. I think that was part of it. Not that my other roommates weren’t great, they were, and we all got along great, but we just didn’t have the same connection. With her, we’re inseparable, like long lost sisters haha we don’t talk as much now but only cause she kinda sucks at texting/long distance communication. but we’ve met up several times since and it’s like we never left. That really helped me that first year cause I was struggling a ton then too and dealing with a lot but she helped me so much and the other ones even though they were great I felt like I couldn’t tell them anything.

And even just at the community college, which theoretically should have been way less stressful and way easier, and with amazing professors and students, it wasn’t. I mean, it was. But I still would get super stressed out.

Idk. I don’t think I’m cut out for school.

And you’re right about experience. And especially in something like dog training, no one looks at degrees and most don’t even have them I don’t think. They care much more about certifications and experience.

I think I’d be better off just going into a training certification program and getting started.

And I didn’t know it was oversaturated. That is good to know and more reason to not waste time/money going into it. I figured everyone was in psych or animal science haha

And thank you.

That particular one was actually a typo. I meant I don’t hate myself. At least not now. I did years ago. Actually, that friend I mentioned above was one of the ones who really helped through that too. Like I said, was going through a lot then haha

I used to struggle to even think of anything I liked about myself back then. She made me make a list every day of 5 things I liked about myself. And they had to be different ones every day. And not something easy like my eyes or some shit. Man I really struggled with that list for a while. I literally struggled to think of even just 5 things I liked about myself. But it got easier and easier. I’m much better now. I mostly like myself now.

That said, I do think I still have depression. It’s just not as obvious as it was back then. But it’s been worse lately. I’ve been pretty bad again lately.

I did actually find a therapist though that’s located literally like across the street from me and takes my insurance and everything and specializes in the exact issues I’m dealing with. Been meaning to call her.

I do think I need to do something because I do think that’s a big part of why I’ve been so bad lately

Oh ok. Sorry for misunderstanding.
You just have to get up and go out there. You will rot unless you start moving. No one can hold your hand and make you.
Call the therapist tomorrow morning, and then get in the car and pick two places to walk into and ask if they’re hiring. Don’t think about it, just pick two places and go.