A case for marriage or My cousin died

[cassie]

Another advantage of the marriage certificate is social security. The surviving spouse is eligible for the social security of the deceased spouse. Without my late husband's social security check I would be living under a bridge eating cat food.

 

[rancher hicks]

Another advantage of the marriage certificate is social security. The surviving spouse is eligible for the social security of the deceased spouse. Without my late husband's social security check I would be living under a bridge eating cat food.

Well now , now that's not completely true. I know guy who lives under a bridge and on occasion he gets Dog food.

Seriously you are correct about Soc. Sec. I've read that even if a woman worked she might get more by drawing off her husbands Soc. Sec.

I'm glad you're not living under a bridge.

Rancher

 

[Glenmar]

This is exactly why gay couples need to be able to get married. That document is a legal contract that effects a ton of financial and civil rights.

This is exactly what I was thinking when I read the first post on this thread. Many times the gay partner knows that person better then their own family.

 

[rancher hicks]

Issues with hospital visitation/decisions and taxes/health insurance, and the weakness or absence of common law in all states, are the only reason my husband and I married.

We stay together out of love and joy, we married for business reasons. X)

My sympathies to you and your cousin's loved ones Rancher. Deaths are always made harder with family tensions.

I politely disagree. I married my wife because I am committed to her. Not because it was good business. I'm an old man and have been in more than one relationship. Love and joy can be fleeting. Love ebbs and flows like the tide. What we have is "True love". There is a difference.

 

[debilorrah]

This is what we recently learned as Ken is terminally ill. We have to be married for 10 years before I can collect his social security. Read it in the handbook.

Rancher, I am wondering about the DNR. Didn't your cousin have to sign it?? Ken has one as well, and it is up to me to see it enforced. I do not recall paying much attention to the document though and now I REALLY need to know if his nut job ex wife and just make one up with a newer date!!!

 

[debilorrah]

I politely disagree. I married my wife because I am committed to her. Not because it was good business. I'm an old man and have been in more than one relationship. Love and joy can be fleeting. Love ebbs and flows like the tide. What we have is "True love". There is a difference.

I agree with this statement. I married Ken knowing his time here is short. I married him because he is the love of my life and it was the right thing to do.

 

[punk-a-doodle]

Quote: I think that is wonderful, and am glad you found someone you love! My post was not attempting to define marriage for everyone. I was pointing out the personal reasons my husband and I chose to marry, and where love lies for us personally. It was a statement to show that even those who do not personally agree with the institute of marriage, and even those who find that they do not need marriage to find love and commitment, still need to look into marriage and what it means on a legal level as the lack of a legally recognized relationship can have huge impacts that many do not always consider.

 

[oldrooster]

A very important post.

To provide a measure of security for your wife, husband, or even
your younger children in the event of a death is very much a
responsibility.

I'm certainly not a lawyer. But I am a husband, who loves his
wife and daughter like no tomorrow. And in that love, I know that
I am here only today without a promise of tomorrow. And that
has been planned for.

The marriage license is very much a part of our life. I haven't seen
our in many years. Yet it the very core of my life, the most important
paper I've ever in my life signed.

I loved her enough to take that step. And I love her enough that
even beyond my death...I will see to it that she is cared for.

Spook....


***on another serious note***

As many know, my father passed away in December. He left this
world without a plan for moms welfare. How very foolish. I use to
beg dad to let me get him life insurance. He thought it was a waste.

*Mom has a policy. Dad never did.

If anyone else is in this situation like spooks is in the States research pre=paid pre-planned funerals, while not quite as good as a life insurance policy because it wouldn't pay for medical bills court costs etc. at least the funeral would be paid for.

 

[oldrooster]

Quote:
yes that is possible (my mom is proof it can happen) but a family friend found out her percentage of her husbands SS if and when he passes will be less then hers (they married each other late in life and she always held a high paying factory job, his work history is a little more sketchy on length of work and a lot on pay) so as one posted before in essence read the fine print...

 

[miquwid]

This is so important and true, In the greater Rochester Area if not all of NY state they advertise lawyers who specially handle non married couples so you don't have to worry about these things but probably the easy way is to go to town hall and just get married. Either way it's an step to take regardless of which one you do take.