A divorce too long in the making.

[TXchickenchick]

Thanks guys! I am definitely at the lost my mind stage. Just gotta keep remembering to put one foot in front of the other.

No, I am not religious. But I do talk to my chickens about it and they are good listeners. I definitely think saying it out loud to someone or something certainly helps work tbrough it all.

 

[oldrooster]

If there is no abuse verbal physical drugs or booze seek out therapy for your marriage if it is mainly fighting about money then financial therapy (there is a specialty in that may not be called that) I would hate to see something that may be salvageable destroyed for what could amount to just how both of you approach stuff in different ways and can't comunicate so the other can understand and talk things out with the other.

 

[TXchickenchick]

I wish it were so simple. My husband has severe, incurable, extremely dangerous mental illness. I have tried to be the supportive 'good wife' for 15 years but now he found a girlfriend just as crazy as him. It hurts so much but I am going to feel alive soon for the first time since I said I do!

 

[FridayYet]

Well if he's moving on already, hopefully finalizing the process will be amicable for you two.

 

[TXchickenchick]

It should as long as he remains stable. We are pretty much in full agreement so far.

 

[snow5164]

Feeling your pain, mental illness can't be seen but it's soo real. I hope you are able to get yourself healthy and well so that you can move on and have many truly happy days!!!
You deserve peace on earth .. We all do .
Praying for you and your chicken therapists

 

[shortgrass]

I think you would benefit if you PMd me.... I can't speak publicly but I hear a similar story and can help, maybe...privately

 

[TXchickenchick]

Thanks guys. Yes, it is so real and so devastating. I didn't even come close to understanding just how extreme it was until less than a year ago but it has been destroying our marriage and our family since the beginning. I am literally exhausted.

 

[UrbanFarmOC]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. Went though something similar. It ended amicably, but it was still difficult despite the tremendous relief I felt when we decided to split. He was a good guy...still is, but there were issues neither I, he or any therapist could repair (my opinion) and I felt bits of myself suffocating and dying everyday to accommodate him. I was in no way a doormat or a pushover, but I tried to be understanding and his issues are inflexible and selfish in nature.

I got through it following my gut, believing in myself and reveling in the lifting of heavy weights on my heart and mind. I stayed longer than it was healthy for my own psyche and health, but I know I tried. Today, I feel myself again and feel quite content and happy with my life. I've never been happier. I still worry about him a little and wish him a great life and hope that he finds someone great.

Anyways, I know you will get there. Be patient. You did the right thing. I believe in trying hard, but I also believe that separating in such situations is the right thing to do for yourself and your kids. Just believe in yourself and have confidence to regain and reclaim pieces of yourself. I personally don't believe in praying or any religion, but I do know that having confidence and hope in what we each find comfort, whether it be yourself, your chickens, friends, Gaia, Buddha, Allah, Jesus or whomever/whatever, helps in the path towards healing.

 

[FridayYet]

My husband always says that his parents divorce was the best thing that ever happened to him as a kid. The tension in the marriage was stressing out the whole family, no matter how much they attempted to hide it.

He gained a Stepfather he is very close to and our kids (first grand-kids) made out with three sets of grandparents!