A divorce too long in the making.

[TXchickenchick]

Yes, divorce can be the best possible thing for a family. My patents divorce was an amazing thing, for sure. They are now 70 and 80 years old, live next door and help one another constantly.

UrbanFarmOC your story sounds so much like mine. I am so, so ready to feel myself again and know I will eventually get there. I get angry with myself for the tiny baby steps it feels I am taking but I suppose you can't erase 15 years overnight.

 

[TBirdsTheWord33]

TXchickenchick, I hope it's not tacky of me to ask how you're holding up these days. I saw your post over a month ago, but life went crazy after that and I wasn't able to get on BYC for a long time. My heart goes out to you because I've "been there, done that." Thankfully, there is life after divorce and you WILL experience it. I'll keep you in my prayers.

 

[TXchickenchick]

TXchickenchick, I hope it's not tacky of me to ask how you're holding up these days. I saw your post over a month ago, but life went crazy after that and I wasn't able to get on BYC for a long time. My heart goes out to you because I've "been there, done that." Thankfully, there is life after divorce and you WILL experience it. I'll keep you in my prayers.

I apologize for not reading this sooner. It seems like life has been so crazy with adjusting to the new "normal". I appreciate you asking, and not tacky at all. Things are actually going really well. Better than we either anticipated, I believe. We are actually becoming friends again instead of two people who hate each other and doing a good job of making the transition as easy as it can be for the kids. The future still looks scary and strange but I know it will take a long time to get to a place where it doesn't. Just taking baby steps to get there.


Again, thank you. It means a lot to know there are people who care what others are going through. This world can be a tough place sometimes.

 

[Outpost JWB]

Sure can be. Hang in there. Things will get better.

 

[TBirdsTheWord33]

I apologize for not getting back with you sooner. My little ones keep me busy these days! It's good to hear that you're slowly but surely adjusting to your "new normal." It is a process, but try to find encouragement in each and every baby step you take along this journey. I spent a decade of my life in a HIGHLY destructive marriage (there's WAY too much to cover here) and had to re-enter the workforce after 7 years of being a stay-at-home wife and mom, so I understand PERFECTLY how "scary and strange" the future looks before, during, and for quite some time after a divorce. Rest assured, the "strange and scary" will gradually fade to reveal a future that is hopeful and promising. Sometimes REALLY good things come out of the bad...my life is proof of that!

 

[janey133]

It takes a lot of strength to leave when you know it's time. It's really hard, but also very brave. We're proud of your Divorce isn't easy but sometimes is the only way. Otherwise you can be unhappy forever and you don't want that. You only live once, truly, make the best out of it. A relationship once ruined can't be repaired anymore... This is what I think and I saw it at many couples. Anyway, at least you know your children are fine, they are thriving and they'll move on with life. You got another chance at life and that's beautiful. If it makes you feel better pour a glass of wine and read some melancholic stuff on https://breakupangels.com/get-over-your-jealousy-and-save-your-relationship/ . After that, get up and be awesome!