Adopted Russian Boy sent back.....

[Elite Silkies]

Has anyone read this article yet? http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/eu_russia_adopted_boy

I wonder if they are going to charge the adopted mother? I think she went about it all wrong, but what do I know.

 

[SarahFair]

I just skimmed through it...

Sounds a lot like 'Orphan'

 

[Gonzo]

Wow! I couldn't see just sticking the kid on a plane and flying him halfway around the world. Maybe the kid did have issues, look at what he came from! As a parent, it is her responsibility to provide medical attention for that child. Shame on her! Threats or no threats! This is a child! Not a dog you've adopted and wish to return!

 

[deb1]

Russian Foreign Minister Sergey Lavrov called the actions by the grandmother "the last straw" in a string of U.S. adoptions gone wrong, including three in which Russian children had died in the U.S.

This is from the article.

And this

Anna Orlova, a spokeswoman for Kremlin's Children Rights Commissioner, told The Associated Press that she visited the boy and he told her that his mother was "bad," "did not love him," and used to pull his hair.

What is said is that people who could offer these children a loving home will be prevented from doing so by a few bad cases.

 

[rancher hicks]

I too did not read the entire article. That said one of the TV mag. shows did a story of these types of adoptions where children who have physc or physical problems are being pawned off as healthy. The unaware adopted parents then find out that the child is mentally ill or has some other physical illness that requires long term and expensive care. It's ashame that this is being done to unsuspecting desperate people. Our government should spend as much time and money helping it's own citizens as it does foreign countries. It does little if anything to help these parents who become burdened with severely sick children. Charity begins at home.

 

[Spinster_Sister]

sorry to see, but not unexpected. I have read stories about how the international adoption thing is really just a best guess at best when it comes to temperment / mental health history of the child. some agencies, have been known to cover up issues, in an attempt to get kids out of the system. Although it is criminal to abandon, she didn't kill the child. i wonder about the health care of the kid while here in the states.

i have a good friend who has a grown son who throughout his life has had major mental health issues...major...and God bless her, I don't know how she dealt with him all the years without the help of her then husband. To be honest, I know I wouldn't have been able to handle it, even with a willing husband.

but I do have to wonder what in the hell she was thinking hiring a stranger through some kind of ad to pick up the boy and safely deliver him to Russian authorities??? she was obviously desperate...but her mental health should also be looked at more closely and she should have her file flagged for future adoptions, including pets.

 

[NoseyChickens]

As a parent of three adopted children, through the American foster care system, this makes me a little sick to my stomach. They had the child only since September. 8 months! Of course there would be problems, look where he came from. It takes time and love and patients. I can't even imagine sticking my 7 yr old on a plane alone and waliking away. Granted we don't know if she sought help for this child and the rest of her family to help this child adjust. The article doesn't go into that. They also don't mention that it's not socially accepted to adopt in Russia ( my cousin lives there with her Russian husband and has been trying to adopt but have been turned away because they are in a "mixed marriage" because she is American)

Ugh! I just know that we have gone to hell and back raising our 2 oldest daughters who have had a lot of developmental and psycological problems because of what they went through at an early age. Adoption isnt easy, but it's worth it.

 

[Elite Silkies]

I to have a child (biological) that is very difficult sometimes. He is ADHD with explosive anger disorder, but I could never imagine not doing everything in my power to help him. I am also very lucky that my husband (his adoptive father) can control him and has been a big help in keeping his life in order.

Wether adopted or not, she took on that responsibility of being a mother.

But, I also feel that medical records and any problems that the child has should be disclosed to the adoptive parents. But, I still can not fathom that she could put a small child on an airplane all alone and have a stranger pick him up.

I was wondering which mother he was talking about that didn't love him and pulled his hair. It didn't say wether it was his biological or adoptive mother. He is definitely going to have more problems to deal with now on top of what he has already been through.

 

[rebelcowboysnb]

They found 4 bad adoptions to talk about in 1,600. Sounds like a low number to me. Zero would be better but think about it. That means 1595 unregulated adoptions did relatively ok an 4 did not.

Not going to comment on if the mom did the right thing or not. There are not enough details to do that.

It makes me ask the question.... Why did 1600 family's have to go to Russia to adopt. Were all these family's not good family's or are we to strict about who can an cant adopt in the US. I know the kids are here.

Me myself have no plans of having my own kids for 2 reasons.
1 Im disabled an have reason to believe genetics has a part in it.
2 There is a massive overpopulation of humans on this planet at this time. I don't plan to help make it worse.

That being said I also don't plan to adopt. Not that I would not like to but being disabled is enough to make me ineligible.

Think about that...
What other stupid thing make people ineligible I wonder?

 

[pdsavage]

Why go outside the US to adopt when lots of US children are waiting to be adopted....