After 17 years I called

[Damummis]

Yup, it has been 17 years since my Grampa died. I called Gram after 17 years. Long story that has seemed to turnout good.
My DGF died of pancreatic cancer the day I visited and told him I loved him and he could go. Not that I had that right but I think people need to hear that sometimes. Gram thought otherwise. She thought I killed him.

I know she was sad but to blame it on me really hurt, that is why I haven't called. For some reason I felt like calling today. Glad I did.


Just had to share, hopefully someone can relate.

 

[welasharon]

Good for you. That had to have felt a lot better for both you and her.
sharon

 

[b.hromada]

It should make you feel better now.

 

[PineappleMama]

For the loss, for the blame, and for having the strength to make that call before it was too late.

 

[Damummis]

Gram is 95. I am at peace now. Granted I wish I could say what I said face to face but I am 4 states away. We had a nice long talk. I really wish I could give her a huge huge....

 

[chica57]

I'm glad you did and I'm sure she feels a sense of peace too

 

[Damummis]

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I think so too, if not I at least made her laugh.

I miss all the interaction with the Grands, and she is the last. I learn so much from the collective knowledge and it will soon be gone. How sad....

 

[chica57]

The best you can do is keep in touch and listen maybe you will be able to visit-just like your phone call-you might just get up one day and go see her-time is the best gift we can give someone.

 

[annie3001]

and another

 

[wegotchickens]

Good for you! I'm glad you made that call, rather than regret not trying forever and a day.