Am I being too sensitive?

[Pagan Prince]

It sounds to me that this teacher is a bit of a "Flake". What is she doing teaching 3 to 4 year olds ? What kind of message is this sending to the kids ?

I would take the decision from her. Maybe start up your own batch and tell her that you would be happy to have the kids visit as part of her educational program on baby animals/chickens and maybe let them candle some eggs later then visit when they pip, and then as "Day olds" in the brooder etc. imho she was being ambitious expecting kids that young to do much more anyway. AND very inconsiderate to you and the kids. (Despite her obvious good intention)


JMHO

 

[dewey]

I don't think you are one bit.

And to top it all off she decides to give away chics that weren't hers to give. Wow. With that type of integrity maybe your chicks weren't going to be given away.

How has the class hatched them in years past after the school purchased them? I'd set her free of obligation to give me an answer and let her go the route the other teachers have in the past.

 

[welsummerchicks]

I'm going to say this and duck and run because I know I'm in the minority on this one.

I believe you are being way too sensitive. And I believe everyone else is reacting the same way, simply because they happen to know what you do.

I honestly do not believe the teacher realizes her change of plan would cause you any trouble. Really.

I worked at a stable that gave riding lessons - one of the mothers always showed up late or often would not arrive. Finally one of the young riding instructors let her have it - and of course this youngster was not particularly pleasant in how she did it - the mom just stood there with her mouth open, her eyes as big as saucers and started crying. She never brought her child back.

Honest, she had no idea that we had to get the ponies ready beforehand, that the ponies needed to have their exercise each day, if her child didn't show up someone had to either untack the pony, assign someone else to it or exercise it themselves, and that whoever had gotten the pony resented doing work for nothing as well. That when her child arrived late they often had to change pony assignments around to get each kid on suitable ponies, that the lesson was delayed and 6 or 8 parents picking up kids with places to go after the lesson would give the instructor a piece of their mind about the delay, that it was a mess.

It's not stupidity, they just aren't familiar with what you do. It's that simple. They don't know all the ins and outs.

 

[Skittlez]

I have a small update. Just got back from picking the children up from school and finally recieved a definate answer. The teacher has decided to order pullets. Yeah, I get my bator back! The teacher has never incubated before, they always buy day old, keep them for a week or two then give them to a 4H group or someone else.

Wellsummerchicks-Thank you for your opinion. I can see that side of it also. I had left out some details to make my post shorter. Sorry. In our original discussion, I did tell the teacher of my hatching plans and I told her I would put my plans on hold for her. I guess I assumed she understood, but I could have explained it better. I know she doesn't realize, but we have had many conversations about this. I also let her know I would give her the eggs, and the chicks would come home to me. She offered the chicks to someone else on her own. I guess I was just frustrated that what I tried to educate her on went in one ear and out the other, so to speak. I am an overly sensitive person, but I felt I my feelings were being dismissed too casually.

Thank goodness my daughter is in her last year at this school. This school has frustrated me to no end!

 

[welsummerchicks]

I think it's kind of the straw that broke the camel's back - there have been many frustrations. Without knowing the whole situation it's hard to understand the whole situation.

I have to say I'm often appalled at how clueless some people are to the level of inconvenience they're putting someone to.

When I worked at another stable, we often saw that people were very surprised when they got a short or humorless greeting if they showed up 2-3 hrs late to see a sale horse, without letting us know.

They simply had no idea what went on. 'Well you said you were going to be at the barn all day!'

YES but we have to bathe the horse, tack it up, someone has to stand there and hold it while we wait for you - we generally braid the mane, put on polos, white saddle pad....tell everyone to reschedule their lessons or the other sale appointments to make an opening for you - the list goes on and on.

People would usually hear all that and say, 'But you said you'd be at the barn all day!'

We developed the habit of NEVER saying, 'we will be at the barn all day' as in, 'we will be at the barn all day - when shall we make your appointment for????

That wasn't much better. We started saying:

'Horses are shown by appointment, we will be bathing the horse the night before, braiding and grooming 2 hrs before your arrival, and tacking the horse up 15 minutes before. We will see you at 2 pm. No one will be available to help you before 2 pm and our insurance says we cannot allow people to groom or tack up sale horses themselves. If you cannot arrive at 2 pm, please call us and let us know so we can make you an appointment FoR ANOTHER DAY'.

NOT MUCH OF AN IMPROVEMENT! LOL.

I was always tempted, when the instructor would get someone like that on the phone, to shout into the receiver, 'WE NEED ENOUGH TIME FOR THE DRUGS TO TAKE EFFECT!'

I often threatened to do so or pantomimed such during a call. No one seemed to understand my dry humor...

I've tried to find a way to deal with this problem ever since I started working.

MY CONCLUSION - LOL - DESPITE MANY CONVERSATIONS, NO ONE ELSE REALLY GETS WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!!!!!! LOL!!!!

 

[Skittlez]

The drama in a horse boarding barn is so...Dramatic! Been there, done that. I have shocked a few mothers myself. I sent a family home one day when they showed up in shorts and flip flops and screamed at me because I wouldn't even let them enter the barn. All students recieved a handbook of rules and parents had to sign it stating they read it and understood the rules. It never ceased to amaze me the audacity of their comments to my reaction. I know have my own land and I don't do lessons anymore. Too risky.

Selling a horse is even worse. People are so inconsiderate sometimes and I'll admit, I do not have the patience for it anymore.

My neighbor once walked off with my lawn mower. I had run out of gas by the mailbox. I went to get the gas can and saw her walking away with my mower. I was like, umm, excuse me, but where are you going with my mower? She said "Well, I thought you were throwing it away. It was by the road."

I have strangers stop and ask me if my dog kennel is for sale all the time. It is attached to my house and can't you see the dog in there? I could not fatham actually stopping at someones house and asking if their stuff is available.

It seems like I am always holding my tongue about something, maybe I should be more blunt.

 

[Welsummer Rancher]

Yup, too sensitive.

 

[Mattemma]

I would be annoyed and would back out.

Hello,she is getting the bator and the eggs FREE. I think in the least she should have asked YOU what you wanted to do with the eggs.Oh wait, you TOLD HER and she still decided to do something else.RUDE.IMO those eggs were yours,and any resulting chicks were yours not some farmer who only wants hens and only of certain breeds.

I would be honest with the teacher and not give anything at all.

Glad to read the update,but I wouldn't put it past the teacher to change her mind again. She should just stick with day olds.My dd's class had 6 eggs hatch out of 25 and they had done this before.This lady sounds a bit clueless. I hope she is better at teaching the kids.