I have been friends with a woman for about eight years. Our kids have grown up together to a certain extent and we have remained close even though our lives have taken different paths in the last few years. We still go out together every few weeks for dinner or a movie. She has been seeing a married man off and on for the last year or so. I do not approve of that "relationship" and I have been open with her about the fact that it is wrong, imo. She called me a couple days ago and asked if I could watch her kids for a day because she and her cousin were visiting friends out of state and couldn't get back in time to pick up her kids from her ex-husband (she said they were currently driving back home but simply wouldn't make it as soon as she had thought she would). I couldn't do it at the time and referred her to a babysitter I sometimes use though I knew it would be expensive for her. Well, my plans changed and I called her yesterday to let her know that I could watch her kids if she wanted to save money and not pay a sitter. I agreed to do this because it seemed her back was up against a wall and she really needed my help. Frankly, I didn't really want to watch her kids, but I knew she needed the help. So I picked up her kids this morning knowing she would be back sometime in the late afternoon. I got a call from her around 2pm and I was expecting to hear she was going to be home soon. Instead she said that she had been involved in an accident (not a car accident), had a concussion and was going to the ER to see a doctor. After I asked her a couple more questions, she admitted that she was with the married man she has been seeing. So she wasn't driving home as quickly as possible like she told me. She really needed me to watch her kids so that she could go see and continue her affair with this married guy. I was furious! I feel like she took advantage of me. I agreed to watch the kids because I thought she really and truly needed my help, not because she wanted to spend some more time with this guy . She had gone to visit old friends with her cousin, but went from there to this guy's place rather than coming home. It became apparent that she wasn't going to be able to drive home today (she was several hours away still), but I did not offer to watch her kids overnight. She called a family member who came to pick them up and then take them to their Dad's later on. She called me a little while ago and asked if I could come and help her get her car home. It would mean about six hours of driving where I would have to take my husband and kids with me so that I would be free to drive her car home. I said no. Didn't even give an explanation of why, just said no. It hurt me to say no like that since I know she needs the help, but I feel she abused my friendship when she lied to me about why she needed me to watch her kids. I figure if she wanted so badly to see this guy, he can help her get home. Am I out of line? Am I doing the right thing? I have already decided I will not watch her kids again. This isn't the first time this has happened either. I watched her kids for an overnight a couple years ago when she was still married only to find out later that she wasn't visiting the friend she told me about, but was instead "seeing" a different married man. I know she didn't tell me the truth because she knew I would say no, but to me that just makes it worse... *This is not my normal screen name. I just didn't want people I have met to recognize who I am talking about if they ever meet her.