Am I right or wrong? *Another long rant*

[debilorrah]

I too am seperated from most of my family. I tolerate my mother as little as possible, and haven't talked to one brother in over 10 years and the other I do my best to be nice to, because I love my nephews.

We can't pick our family but we can pick our nose - far enough to stick it in the air at them.

 

[annaraven]

No answers. Just

 

[gritsar]

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I say I don't want anything from my Dad but that's not entirely true. I want what has already been designated for me - my dad's "dolphins", a (can't think of the word) emblem? that he got while he served as a submariner in the navy. I also want his flag. The flag thing really bothered me a long time ago, so I called the VFW. They asked me to explain the birth order. Won't go to the eldest; she's his niece by marriage. Won't go to my brother; he's a stepchild. It will go to me; dad's only living child. And you can bet your bottom dollar I'll make sure it's that way.
The other stuff I don't care about. Most of it is gone anyhow. What my sister that lives close to him didn't "borrow" he used to get my other sister's ut-hum fiance out of prison.
What I really want is for all my siblings to go away, go hibernate somewhere to give me some time with my dad. I made up my mind a long time ago that I will cut all ties after my dad passes. These people are toxic to me. I only keep in touch now because my dad asked me to and it makes him happy.
Dad has told me that he has in his will to "share and share alike" amongst the six of us. He considers them his children even if they don't acknowledge him as the only dad they've ever really known. My DH (from a normal? family) would like me to contest that when the time comes. I don't want that hassle and wish to respect my dad's wishes.
The family I have includes DH's family (his girls) and the friends I have chosen to have as family.
Those other people?

 

[gritsar]

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Ranchy, step away from the Star Wars movies!

Already poached

Thanks y'all

 

[PineappleMama]

Between my Mom and Sis... lord but I hear you. Never did ask how you got your ScreenName... is it perhaps because you're good at Gritting your teeth and pushing through?

Your pop knows ya love him, knows you care and always have. You'll get down when you can. Let him get what enjoyment he can out of these people, and IF they cause him grief THEN worry... but so long as all they do is bring him a little sunshine I would try not to fret. Big emphasis on TRY... sure we all know just how great I am at turning off the fretting.

 

[michickenwrangler]

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I say I don't want anything from my Dad but that's not entirely true. I want what has already been designated for me - my dad's "dolphins", a (can't think of the word) emblem? that he got while he served as a submariner in the navy. I also want his flag. The flag thing really bothered me a long time ago, so I called the VFW. They asked me to explain the birth order. Won't go to the eldest; she's his niece by marriage. Won't go to my brother; he's a stepchild. It will go to me; dad's only living child. And you can bet your bottom dollar I'll make sure it's that way.
The other stuff I don't care about. Most of it is gone anyhow. What my sister that lives close to him didn't "borrow" he used to get my other sister's ut-hum fiance out of prison.
What I really want is for all my siblings to go away, go hibernate somewhere to give me some time with my dad. I made up my mind a long time ago that I will cut all ties after my dad passes. These people are toxic to me. I only keep in touch now because my dad asked me to and it makes him happy.
Dad has told me that he has in his will to "share and share alike" amongst the six of us. He considers them his children even if they don't acknowledge him as the only dad they've ever really known. My DH (from a normal? family) would like me to contest that when the time comes. I don't want that hassle and wish to respect my dad's wishes.
The family I have includes DH's family (his girls) and the friends I have chosen to have as family.
Those other people?

Maybe DH needs to have a talk with your father if DH can do so without looking like a gold-digger.

Yes, my DH received the flag since he is the eldest son. The flag and decorations will go to our DD, although my stepdaughter has a son (that's a long story. DH is 99% sure the "daughter" from his first marriage isn't his daughter and he rarely talks to her).

Probate is a hassle, just to let you know.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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I agree. Be glad to NOT be a part of the circus.

 

[gritsar]

Thanks y'all.

I need to call my dad today to let him know I was wrong about the date his package from us is due to be delivered, but I don't want a long drawn out conversation with any of my siblings that might answer the phone. I'm such a baby

I may wait till DH is available to make the call.

Pineapple - Girl Raised In The South, but yeah there's been some teeth grinding going on too.

A thought occured to me last night. Out of all my siblings, I am the only one that is married. Not only married, but happily so. Some jealousy maybe? Especially from the sister that is sent me the nasty messages over on FB. I've been over there killing em with kindness.

 

[love_a_duck]

Especially from the sister that is sent me the nasty messages over on FB. I've been over there killing em with kindness.
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It took me a long time to get this, but I do now. It is delicious, especially when you really mean it.

"oh, dear, i certainly didnt mean to hurt your feelings, did i lie about you?"

and yes, you certainly get the flag.
my only sister and the only child out of four who did NOT join the military, took my father's flag after my grandmother handed it to me.
he is buried at Arlington.
believe me, i got it back really quick, i am the oldest ya know.
and i know the regs on it!
bwahahahahaha

keep doing the next right thing.
i am glad you can come here to rant.
this is one of the few things i didnt let go of .....with my sister.

Beth​

 

[gritsar]

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It took me a long time to get this, but I do now. It is delicious, especially when you really mean it.

"oh, dear, i certainly didnt mean to hurt your feelings, did i lie about you?"

and yes, you certainly get the flag.
my only sister and the only child out of four who did NOT join the military, took my father's flag after my grandmother handed it to me.
he is buried at Arlington.
believe me, i got it back really quick, i am the oldest ya know.
and i know the regs on it!
bwahahahahaha

keep doing the next right thing.
i am glad you can come here to rant.
this is one of the few things i didnt let go of .....with my sister.

Beth

Sometimes you are better off with the family you choose for yourself, rather than the one you were born with.