Yeah, I know, someone is always on here asking for various "How should I handle this?" stuff. But it's such a good place to get unbiased opinions from people who aren't involved!!
So my dad's wife has a sister (who I know only a little and am friendly with) who makes her own jewelry. Beaded earrings, necklaces, stuff like that. I don't really wear much jewelry these days, being more around the house with animals, etc. But I was under the impression from many things that she has said that she is struggling. She's a single mother with several kids, and I know for a fact that my dad's wife has "helped her out" before, with bills, etc. So when she said she made jewelry to sell, I thought it would be a nice way to help support her, buy a few pieces of jewelry. My first mistake was mentioning that I'd like to buy some jewelry before I saw her prices, because I almost died when I saw how expensive it was. But I was honest and said "Gee, looks like I'll have to wait a bit until I have some spare cash, but then I will decide on what to order". She said that's no problem.
Now: The other day she posted a picture of a Louis Vuitton designer bag that she got on Facebook. She posted that she "got a deal" and it was only $600.00. I called up my dad's wife and asked if her sister really spent $600 on this bag and she said yes, that she was with her when she got it. So now I'm kind of stunned. I am poor myself. As it was I almost died when I saw how pricey her jewelry was, but decided to splurge MAINLY to help her livelihood because I thought she is a struggling single mother. But six hundred dollars for a purse? That's a LOT of money to me! I can't imagine the extra bills I could pay with that, or other things that I desperately need. With that money I could fix my vehicle which is currently out of commission. I'm just peeved that here I am ready to spend money I don't really have trying to help someone else, and now I see she's blowing $600 on a stupid designer bag?
So the question is; what do I do now?
A) buy the jewelry anyway because I said I would
B) blow off buying the jewelry and never mention it again
C) don't buy the jewelry but tell her why
D) other??
So my dad's wife has a sister (who I know only a little and am friendly with) who makes her own jewelry. Beaded earrings, necklaces, stuff like that. I don't really wear much jewelry these days, being more around the house with animals, etc. But I was under the impression from many things that she has said that she is struggling. She's a single mother with several kids, and I know for a fact that my dad's wife has "helped her out" before, with bills, etc. So when she said she made jewelry to sell, I thought it would be a nice way to help support her, buy a few pieces of jewelry. My first mistake was mentioning that I'd like to buy some jewelry before I saw her prices, because I almost died when I saw how expensive it was. But I was honest and said "Gee, looks like I'll have to wait a bit until I have some spare cash, but then I will decide on what to order". She said that's no problem.
Now: The other day she posted a picture of a Louis Vuitton designer bag that she got on Facebook. She posted that she "got a deal" and it was only $600.00. I called up my dad's wife and asked if her sister really spent $600 on this bag and she said yes, that she was with her when she got it. So now I'm kind of stunned. I am poor myself. As it was I almost died when I saw how pricey her jewelry was, but decided to splurge MAINLY to help her livelihood because I thought she is a struggling single mother. But six hundred dollars for a purse? That's a LOT of money to me! I can't imagine the extra bills I could pay with that, or other things that I desperately need. With that money I could fix my vehicle which is currently out of commission. I'm just peeved that here I am ready to spend money I don't really have trying to help someone else, and now I see she's blowing $600 on a stupid designer bag?
So the question is; what do I do now?
A) buy the jewelry anyway because I said I would
B) blow off buying the jewelry and never mention it again
C) don't buy the jewelry but tell her why
D) other??