I think my DDs (11) anxiety is at the "disorder" state. I really do. Her anxiety is taking over - oh heck truth be told it has run the family for years now. She's an emotional black hole for me. I simply cannot love her enough for her to feel safe and happy. I was clinically depressed after her birth and while I got treatment and she was well cared for by me and others I think somehow that distance from way back then set her up to never be able to get enough reassurances that she is loved. Seriously. She wants to be in full physical contact with me as much as possible. She gets a full tucking in routine: my husband and I get on her bed with her sister and the dog and we all sing her good night and kiss her. And she complains that we don't pay enough attention. I can kiss her fifteen times and she'll swear I didn't kiss her. I can spend three hours after school with her glued to my side and she'll complain I don't hug her enough. I know I am not the perfect mom. Who is? But, today, right now, I am exhausted and discouraged. She gets frozen in her anxiety and won't do anything toward getting herself ready for school. She refuses to do her homework and then panics and yells at me because it isn't done. DH and I then fight about what is the best approach. If we let things take their own course let her face natural consequences she gets worse. She gets more anxious and then starts to fail school. If I sit on top of her to get her homework done it takes hours. She's been tested. She has a high IQ but she severely dyslexic. The dichotomy causes lots of her issues. She started middle school yesterday. I will be calling the school for a meeting soon. But, I promised her I would let her speak to her teachers about it first. One teacher sent home a form asking the student and parents questions about themselves and she wrote on there that she is dyslexic. Raising kids is the hardest thing I have ever done.