Any other truly "lonely onlies"?

[Northwind]

I'm one of these "onlines" you speak of, but I have mixed feelings about it. It depends on how I'm feeling. Some days I will look at other people, snapping the heads off their siblings, and think 'thank God'. Other days, siblings will be helping each other out with the daily chores while I slog away on my own in the house, with only the radio to listen to. Being someone who doesn't make friends easily, I sometimes feel a little sad that I haven't had the 'built-in' someone to lean on when I need a listening ear.

 

[swampcat]

I completely agree, Northwind. Whether I need to unload some sadness or share something happy, I never have that sibling to turn to. I wish there was group for lonely onlies nearby so we can all find our surrogate siblings.

 

[Northwind]

We can find them in the most unlikely places sometimes. Keep looking. Don't give up.

 

[debilorrah]

I just sent my son, my only child that I gave birth to, asking if he wishes he had full siblings. He has half's and steps. I know he is a well adjusted person, at 22 years old. He spends a lot of time with us and brings his girlfriend, whom we love.

 

[debilorrah]

His answer:

I was in the past, but not so much anymore. It was mainly because everyone else had siblings and I didn't really, but it turned out for the better for me.

 

[Carols Clucks]

I am an only.

It was lonely as a child. We did not live by people with kids my age and my parents were older and dad sick mom busy trying to work to feed us. My friends were the cat and the avocado tree for the first several years of my life. The first time I had kids my age to play with was in kindergarten. That can cause a few issues....lol

I always wished I had parents and a family like other people. My dad was almost 50 when I was born. Did not even have cousins in the same state. I think it changes who are are and how you learn to relate to other people. But I suppose there are more families that the kids wish they did not have to deal with siblings.

Now was mom is approaching 90, it means I can make the decisions and not have to argue with a sibling. It also means that I am the one mom calls. And that there is no one else to help if I need it. I did not want to be an older parent or have an only, I have 3 boys who are almost all in their early 20's. It puts me feeling like a failure as a parent with the youngest, because I have to deal with my mom too. There are times having a sibling would be wonderful.

 

[vettechstudent]

ugh, sometimes I wish I didn't have a younger brother. See, I may as well have been an "only" because my brother and I are 6 years apart, I've known what it was like to have a life without him there and we fight constantly. My boyfriend on the other hand has an older sister, she's only like ... 1.5 - 2 years older than him so she's never really experienced life that she was aware of him not being around and they have an awesome sibling relationship, whereas my brother and i's relationship sucks.

 

[stoopid]

Go grab a chicken and give her a big hug.
She is your sister. She won't lie to you, kiss your boyfriend, steal your clothes, borrow money and never pay you back.
She won't talk trash behind your back.
She will give you unconditional love.

This is what I came up with after editing my life out of this post.
It was way too long to put everyone thru reading it.
Yes, I am an only, too.

Strength to you, sista