Anyone else struggling with Infertility?

[Nava]

the charity place says we are 100 percent guaranteed that we can because of the circumstances. but it will take 6 to months to 1year depends on how fast philippines work.

 

[Nava]

I'm sorry about your mcs too.

 

[redhen]

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Well, keep us informed on the progress..

The waiting must be sooo hard..

 

[Nava]

but i didn't tell you guys about the cost. if we can grow our money tree in our backyard fast, before the year gets here then we're good. they are asking 20,000 for the first child and 1,600 for each additional child. UUUUGGGHHHHH!!!!!!

 

[17roses]

I am sorry that you are struggling. It is never easy. My husband and I decided that we would try for 1 year and then adopt. We ended up adopting from the foster care system and I can honestly say that it was the best decision we could have made. First off, it is free and the kids desperately need homes (as much as I needed to be a mom). It can take as much time as any other adoption and I would highly recommend serious research before jumping in. The classes are usually available at least once a month and are free to take, even if it is just to investigate.

I think anyone who can...
be clear on what past behaviors and disabilities are exceptable for their lifestyle, can go into parenthood with no expectations and can see an older child as there own, really should look into it. Most people dont know our son is adopted until they are told. He is our son. There are alot of prejudgice about children in the system which are not accurate. We plan on adopting again in the next few years. I am happy to discuss the details over PMs if anyone wants more info but please remember that the experience is as varied as the children available. Babies are not usually available unless you foster and then they may go back to their birth parents.

 

[Nava]

thank you for that info. my husband and i would tear us up if and when they are taken from us. i'm all for the fostering but we just can't do it. maybe i should say me. losing aniimals is so hard now i can't imagine going thru that with children. well, in our defense we traveled to the philippines because my brother past away 6 months ago and left behind the children and one grandchild.

 

[Nava]

they are in very bad shape as in care we are just not in it for them but for us also. we love our kids near or far. we would just prefer near.

 

[claud]

I'm sorry for everyone's hardship with this.

I am a big advocate for adoption although I realize it's not for everyone. It's just a shame it is so expensive when so many kids need homes.
And a shame that the biological parents have so many rights over foster kids here in the states.

We adopted an 11 year old girl from a Russian orphanage 7 yrs ago and she is now 18 years old and a senior in high school. She fit into our family perfectly and is a great kid. There are sooo many older kids that can't get homes.

BTW, she has a little 3 year old brother now that came to our family the old fashioned way

 

[Nava]

THAT IS THE GREATEST THING IN THE WORLD. my youngest is 9 my grandbaby is 3 months. i am so happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Nava]

we get alot of grief on why we don't adopt here in the states. well there is alot of reasons. one is they are family. another is the poverty there is horrible. the worst i had seen. they called my kids dumpster kids at one point after their father died because they use to go to the dump so they can eat. we send them money every week for their medical, food, clothing, school, transportation, housing, you name it we provide it every week so they will not have to do without. i just want them home already. i need them home now! I may sound a lil' on the selfish side, but i can't help it.