Anyone ready to ring in the new year...and lose weight/get fit?

[3goodeggs]

When people do things to tear other people down, to build themselves up, I think they have some serious problems. I am sorry that someone made you cry for days and days. I know how that feels. It stinks.
Good luck at the doctors. And if they do not take you seriously, go find one that will.

 

[vfem]

Don't worry about what people say, if you were fat... that's point it out! They'd whisper loudy and it would hurt.

If you were just right... and you were happy... woman would still make snide comments and men would treat you like a meat pop with nasty comments.

All in all, its not you... its THEM!

So you go to your doctor and say "I am NOT healthy" forget about 'skinny' or 'weight loss' those are just the symptoms you list for him/her.

I am happy at 135-140. I wear a size 6 at 140. People always roll their eyes like I'm lying when I tell them my weight, they think I'm making it up. I can't possibly be 159! My sister is way bigger then me, standing next to each other we're the same height, I may have an inch on here... she weighs 150 according to her and wears a sz 14. So I look at it this way... weight is a number.... everyone has a weight for themselves that is healthy. Because its healthy for me, it may not be for you.

You need a doctor, and don't you fear anything... you go conquer whatever it is and get healthy!

 

[babymakes6]

Elizabeth, you should print what you just wrote and take it along for the doctor to read. I was that way when I was a teen-I am 5'6" and I weighed 110 in high school. I had people say the same things about me, and it only made me more self-conscious and LESS able to eat! I worked on a produce farm for 7 years full-time, so I was quite active, but if I wasn't hungry or if I was nervous I couldn't eat. I hope you can get some help from the doctor and find out what is wrong. It does sound like it could be medical, though. I hope it is something simple that is just out of balance. Here is a hug for you from me-

 

[elizabethbinary]

Aww, thanks everyone.

It's exactly that, babymakes! People staring make me too nervous to eat sometimes and it doesn't hlp at all.

Weight is very silly. For my height, my weight is 'normal', but the way my body works it's just not so. I do not feel *right*. Numbers are silly.

I'm drinking some electrolite replacing stuff right now so hopefully that cheers my stomach enough

I think I'll try to make myself a yogurt smoothie.

 

[BlackBart]

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Bullies are actually insecure, they want to rip people down to make themselves feel better. Still it hurts and it is meant to.
I have a friend who cannot gain weight. They teased her in school for having toothpick legs. It is so frustrating when people cannot see the beauty in other people. Everybody has a beautiful attribute, why do people fixate on what they perceive as a negative?........ggrrr

Somebody sent me a list of 10 things to avoid in 2011. I made a copy and taped it to my fridge. I see it everyday and it reminds me how I can work to be a better person.
Its long but, I think, worth the read.

11 Things to avoid in 2011

1. Withholding forgiveness

If the person who wronged you really cares about you they’ll have beaten themselves up sufficiently before asking for your forgiveness. Don’t risk the health of your relationship by withholding forgiveness. That’s a vengeance that tastes good on the way down and breaks your heart on the way back up.

2. Using your job as an excuse
Far too often the phrase, “I’m doing this for my family!” is given as an excuse for neglect. If you are actually indispensable your employer will, perhaps begrudgingly, give you the time you need to get your relationship with family and friends back on track. You’ll be glad you did and so will your employer!

3. Eating for all the wrong reasons
Don’t eat because you’re tired, bored, thirsty, or anxious this year! You might consider those four different things to avoid but they all lead to the reason you probably resolved to hit the gym more often this year. Consider the notion of eating with purpose and see where it takes you in 2011.

4. Assuming that you always know the entire story
You don’t. Ask more questions. Listen. Ask more questions. Give yourself an out and don’t back others into corners when you give your final answer.

5. Self-loathing
Most aren’t aware of just how much they beat themselves up over things. Note this: You set an example for others as to how you should be treated and appreciated. Respect and take care of yourself and most will follow your example. This is one of those wildly simple yet agonizingly difficult things to accomplish. Try to get a solid start this year!

6. Blaming anything on gender
For example: I was in an argument recently (imagine that!) and my partner in the argument forcefully uttered the remark, “typical male!” in response to something I said that was admittedly unkind (imagine that!). This created a predicament in which my subsequent apology would be not just for my comment but also for my gender. I can’t change my gender (really, not an option) so I’d be apologizing for being myself. Crazy, right? She doesn’t do that because she’s a woman. She does it because she’s an imperfect human. He doesn’t do that because he’s a man. He does it because he’s an imperfect human. Things are simpler when we approach conflict with as few stereotypes as possible.

Such an approach will change things. I promise you.

7. Needless exhaustion
Try to be better about skipping the late-night TV or web browsing when you have work early in the morning. You’ll be more useful at work, more fun as a friend, and it’ll be easier to hit the gym or whatever your new year’s resolution was!

8. Neglecting your mind
You’ve talked about taking a class, joining a book club, working on more challenging projects, and taking time to read more or even start a blog. You’re officially done waiting. Congratulations!

9. Putting off your dreams
Look at your big dreams and identify what makes them so appealing. Is it the free time, the nice things, the great relationships, or being in the best shape of your life? Identify something you can do this year that will allow you to enjoy some of that dream without all the extras. Save up some cash and splurge on that amazing purchase or take some unpaid time off. Treasure the time you have and don’t wait until you’re loaded to start savoring the world around you.

10. Not asking for help
You’d be stunned if you knew just how many people are ready and willing to help you if only you’d clearly define your need and directly ask for help. Don’t ask for help like the friend who begs people to help him move but has nothing put in boxes when they show up. Ask for help like the friend who has done everything in his power to achieve and needs only that final push from a buddy to reach success. We want to be a part of your success!

11. Taking so many moments for granted
Time is limited my friend. Seize the moment. Try to freeze it and own it, squeeze it and hold it. (Eminem) We’ve not been promised another year. Only this moment right before our eyes, between our hands, and in the breaths of those we love.

 

[Reg]

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Plateaus happen. It's pretty common for people to lose a fair bit at first and then plateau. Take a look at how much you're eating. You may need to change it a bit. Also, 3 times a week is a good start but you should really look at adding a bit, especially if you're plateauing.

What's your workout like?

Back to the treadmill then

 

[annaraven]

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You sounds like my husband, honestly, he tries to eat and eat, and even takes the weight gain suppliments from GNC. Kills me to have someone who weighs all of 130 lb at his heaviest!!! Once we get insurance again, he's going to see a doctor and see if it is, what it is... or what healthy changes he could make.

However, my 4 year old is barely 30 lbs she's so tiny, just like her dad and her 98 lb Nana! ARGH! That is one little family!

Sounds like its probably medical and you should visit a doctor soon to get some advice.

I personally know my issues aren't medical.... I just ate because I liked it way too much... and didn't exercise because I didn't like exercise. Now I changes my views and attitude, I'm doing better.

I honestly should adopt your cooking/tasting methods! I saw the stuff you bake and HOOBOY I would be a happy little camper in your kitchen if I got to be a Hoover. But for a year I went to, get this, French Patisserie school - and I still didn't gain. Recipes with literal KILOS of cream. Weeks where I'd bring home 5 french gateaux and 4 doz macaroons and I'd still not gain! It's -awful-. It doesn't SOUND awful to a lot of people (but with your husband I bet you understand) but it really is.

When I go out to eat, people stare at me. They watch me eat. They judge what I order. darn if I order a salad, it's usually met with an eyeroll and someone whispering, "Well no wonder she's so skinny." Or I like salads. If I eat something heavy I get, "Pft, I wish I could eat anything and be that tiny." I don't even -know- the people saying these things they purposefully say loud enough for me to hear (because, what? I'll start eating more?). I once accidentally walked into an automatic glass door and instead of the usual, "haha you walked into a door" commentary, some woman snarked, "Maybe it couldn't see you because you're so small!" I feel like I can't eat in public, which is entirely unhelpful to the situation. The heat is too intense to wear layers. It's really terrible - it's doing one heck of a mark on my self-esteem. One comment, too terrible to say, made me cry for 3 days.

I am going to the doctor today. I got ill last night and wasn't even able to keep my dinner down - which isn't helping. It's a great combo - I get sick more because I'm tiny and I'm tiny because I'm always sick! D: So I need to do -something-, and fast, before it becomes a real hospital-able problem. My fingers have shrunk and my wedding ring (that I only got a year ago) is falling off. I look/am always tired.

That's why - 120. I looked amazing. I had great curves, I still had my fitness, I was eating a heap a day, running an hour a day, getting a TON of stuff done, I was energized, happy, enjoyed life - even my relationships were better. My husband and I would go to the gym 4 times a week together and plan big carbo-loaded meals together for comps. I feel like -my- problems have strained our relationship, y'know? Can't go to the gym, too tired. Morning runs? Gone. But at 120, I was great. Fitness/appearance/energy was all perfectly balanced. I felt like a million dollars at that weight. I feel like I can see my eyesockets without a mirror at this weight.

I think you're right, I think it's medical. I don't even know how to begin to ask the doctor for help though, it makes me want to cry. The backlash in public alone is so intense I fear what do you say? The most annoying part is I studied nutrition for the longest time - I only quit because I got sick - and I still have no idea what to eat to help myself. Every meal plan I come up with is flawed in some way (mostly, I can't eat it!).

I am clearly hurt by this because with the tiniest urging, I posted a fricken novel!!!! I'm so so so so so sorry for taking up your time with all this lamenting sadness and worry. I plan on making an appointment today (its 5am, not open yet, haha) and getting this solved once and for all. I'm sick of being sick. I'm tired of my husband looking at me like he's going to cry! I'm tired of being afraid to eat in public.

I'm so glad you're doing well on your diet! I always found the most awesome way to fit exercise in is to 1. swim a lot and 2. fidget a lot. Fidgeting burns up so many calories!!

Honey, I've been where you are. I was 105 pounds at 5'5" and got ALL the nasty comments. People are just as cruel to someone underweight as they are to someone overweight, except no one even has sympathy for the underweight ones. It sucks. My DD (5'10" and naturally slender) hates to eat out because of how people judge her. Everyone assumes she's anorexic, although she actually eats well and just doesn't gain. (She has way better hips than I did at her age.)

Make the appointment with the doctor and insist on blood tests for thyroid, and whatever else the doc thinks. Explain what's going on. Make doc give you an appointment with a nutritionist if nothing comes up in the blood work.

Just realize - people are cruel and nasty and vicious. Worse than fricking monkeys. Don't listen to their b.s. because that's all it is - a bunch of monkeys throwing excrement trying to make themselves feel better about their own pitiful lives.

We care about you - you're funny and smart and kind. And all of us here obviously care about our health - so we're ahead of the millions who don't care. We'll just have to support each other to survive the myriad idiots out there who think it's so easy to achieve some standard that most of them don't achieve.

I'm glad you're here - all of you. And I'm glad that we're working on this together. Thank you!

 

[Sissy]

I m not not not happy lost only 1 lb.
on my soup diet , could nt keep up
with it as I should have, stayed with 6 dogs .
dog sitting for a friend,

watching all of them eat I guess
made me eat , good excuse, better then none.

.
thats my down fall rye bread n butter
especially when she baked and left it fresh for me to sample.
and a nice hot cup of coffee. or tea.
I now have to
get tough with my self. I promised me to lose at least 20 lbs
before June, comes .only so far have lost about 12 since
I think The first of Nov.

 

[babymakes6]

I am not doing very well this week. We are on the tail end of the ice storm and I made some food to get us through when the power was out. I did fried chicken, rolls, egg custard, and a few other things we would be able to eat cold. Also, my DH is a truck driver and he was out all night in the worst of the storm. I was up most of the night too-praying, watching that the power stayed on (we have a furnace), and talking to him on the phone. I don't do well when I am under a lot of stress!

 

[elizabethbinary]

^ Awww blizzard! You have a decent excuse - but next time, bake the chicken!

Or something. You feeling okay? How's the stress now?

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I honestly should adopt your cooking/tasting methods! I saw the stuff you bake and HOOBOY I would be a happy little camper in your kitchen if I got to be a Hoover. But for a year I went to, get this, French Patisserie school - and I still didn't gain. Recipes with literal KILOS of cream. Weeks where I'd bring home 5 french gateaux and 4 doz macaroons and I'd still not gain! It's -awful-. It doesn't SOUND awful to a lot of people (but with your husband I bet you understand) but it really is.

When I go out to eat, people stare at me. They watch me eat. They judge what I order. darn if I order a salad, it's usually met with an eyeroll and someone whispering, "Well no wonder she's so skinny." Or I like salads. If I eat something heavy I get, "Pft, I wish I could eat anything and be that tiny." I don't even -know- the people saying these things they purposefully say loud enough for me to hear (because, what? I'll start eating more?). I once accidentally walked into an automatic glass door and instead of the usual, "haha you walked into a door" commentary, some woman snarked, "Maybe it couldn't see you because you're so small!" I feel like I can't eat in public, which is entirely unhelpful to the situation. The heat is too intense to wear layers. It's really terrible - it's doing one heck of a mark on my self-esteem. One comment, too terrible to say, made me cry for 3 days.

I am going to the doctor today. I got ill last night and wasn't even able to keep my dinner down - which isn't helping. It's a great combo - I get sick more because I'm tiny and I'm tiny because I'm always sick! D: So I need to do -something-, and fast, before it becomes a real hospital-able problem. My fingers have shrunk and my wedding ring (that I only got a year ago) is falling off. I look/am always tired.

That's why - 120. I looked amazing. I had great curves, I still had my fitness, I was eating a heap a day, running an hour a day, getting a TON of stuff done, I was energized, happy, enjoyed life - even my relationships were better. My husband and I would go to the gym 4 times a week together and plan big carbo-loaded meals together for comps. I feel like -my- problems have strained our relationship, y'know? Can't go to the gym, too tired. Morning runs? Gone. But at 120, I was great. Fitness/appearance/energy was all perfectly balanced. I felt like a million dollars at that weight. I feel like I can see my eyesockets without a mirror at this weight.

I think you're right, I think it's medical. I don't even know how to begin to ask the doctor for help though, it makes me want to cry. The backlash in public alone is so intense I fear what do you say? The most annoying part is I studied nutrition for the longest time - I only quit because I got sick - and I still have no idea what to eat to help myself. Every meal plan I come up with is flawed in some way (mostly, I can't eat it!).

I am clearly hurt by this because with the tiniest urging, I posted a fricken novel!!!! I'm so so so so so sorry for taking up your time with all this lamenting sadness and worry. I plan on making an appointment today (its 5am, not open yet, haha) and getting this solved once and for all. I'm sick of being sick. I'm tired of my husband looking at me like he's going to cry! I'm tired of being afraid to eat in public.

I'm so glad you're doing well on your diet! I always found the most awesome way to fit exercise in is to 1. swim a lot and 2. fidget a lot. Fidgeting burns up so many calories!!

Honey, I've been where you are. I was 105 pounds at 5'5" and got ALL the nasty comments. People are just as cruel to someone underweight as they are to someone overweight, except no one even has sympathy for the underweight ones. It sucks. My DD (5'10" and naturally slender) hates to eat out because of how people judge her. Everyone assumes she's anorexic, although she actually eats well and just doesn't gain. (She has way better hips than I did at her age.)

Make the appointment with the doctor and insist on blood tests for thyroid, and whatever else the doc thinks. Explain what's going on. Make doc give you an appointment with a nutritionist if nothing comes up in the blood work.

Just realize - people are cruel and nasty and vicious. Worse than fricking monkeys. Don't listen to their b.s. because that's all it is - a bunch of monkeys throwing excrement trying to make themselves feel better about their own pitiful lives.

We care about you - you're funny and smart and kind. And all of us here obviously care about our health - so we're ahead of the millions who don't care. We'll just have to support each other to survive the myriad idiots out there who think it's so easy to achieve some standard that most of them don't achieve.

I'm glad you're here - all of you. And I'm glad that we're working on this together. Thank you!

Yeah I think people are starting to assume I have an eating disorder. I don't, I love food. I think food is great. I just bought some leeks and verjuis and quice paste and blackcurrent jelly - hopefully that stimulates me! P:

I will definitely do that with the doctor.

Haha @ monkeys. It's hard to not take a couple of the comments hurtfully (as they're intended) but I try not to. Just that one was pretty horrible and it's hard to act like I don't notice the waitress roll her eyes when I order something on the side. (I don't like the amount of butter they put on toast, it's not a diet thing!)

It's so sweet to see a forum where everyone is so caring! It's so wonderful and motivating and... it makes me feel happy. Like a hen with it's first chick.