Well, the "chicken vet" offered to euthanize her for the cost of their office visit ($48) if I bring her out to the farm this evening. I think my husband was VERY relieved. Although that's still a lot of money, it's low enough to persuade him. I think the thought of it has been weighing heavily on his mind. Because my daughter is so attached to her too - this is probably the best route to go.
This morning Aster is STILL alive, but is still not coming towards food/water - she doesn't move her head forward - doesn't peck. She'll only drink if you put the spoon up to her beak and immerse the tip of her beak IN the liquid (pedialyte)...and she seems surprised when that happens. I'm not sure she can see or hear at this point. Although she DID chirp quietly at my 9yr old (we call her the chicken whisperer) last night. The farm vet said that because the puncture wounds were on the side of her head, on top of her head (they are pretty extensive) that it's almost probable that there is neurological damage - which is why she isn't pecking, eating or drinking.
I think a few people misunderstood, the vet yesterday didn't refuse to euthanize her and didn't recommend the axe. She recommended we ask our own vet (Dr N) if he would euthanize Aster - she thought it would be cheaper than their office visit fee. Our own vet (for our pugs) qouted $98. I emailed the farm vet (Dr P) and she emailed me back this morning, saying if $98 was the best he could do, she'd offer to do it for their office visit fee of $48. She just told me about the axe method she uses because I asked her. She totally understood how difficult this was because our kids were involved and because we are NOT chicken farmers!
So, I'll nurse Aster today - and if there's no real improvement we'll take a ride out to the farm tonight and will let her go.
Thanks again for all the support. It's comforting to know that we're not the only ones so attached to a chicken!