I just needed to rant a bit... I have a 13 year old daughter who is ADHD. She was medicated when she was in the first grade and we dealt with her issues fairly well until last year. Well, last year was a NIGHTMARE in school. She was in the AIG (academically gifted) program and things just spiraled downhill all year. Her grades fell to failing and no matter what I did it made no impact at all. We finally decided to take her off of her medicine because it just wasn't working any more and we were noticing side effects that were concerning us. She came home with a 43 on her report card in Language arts. This upset me greatly because when I got a progress report she had a B average.. the problem was that there was a reading journal that counted for 5 test grades and she didn't turn it in. It was due the last day of the grading period so of course with 5 zeros her average was destroyed. She ended the year last year with a failing average for English and she didn't actually pass her end of grade testing. She missed it by two points the first time and three points the second time. They did pass her for the year so she advanced to the 8th grade this year. Several administrators at the school told us she was a perfect candidate for the "avid" program where they focus on study skills and organization, leadership, preparing for college etc. So we did all the work to get her into the program. She is very smart but she is very immature and irresponsible. She doesn't turn her assignments in on time, she doesn't focus well, she lies frequently, has impulse control issues, and we can't find any punishment that actually works for her. Part of he ADHD causes her not to really care about very much, she is not really "connected" to anything. This was great when she was a young child because she didn't care if she was wet, or tired, or dirty or hungry, she never got attached to any particular toy and when another child took something away from her she just happily got something else to play with. It made for an easy toddler... but it makes a nightmare for trying to teach her any kind of lesson at all. There is no cause and effect for her, she lives in this very minute... and it is very hard to learn a lesson without caring about the consequence. We have always tried to be consistent and she gets in trouble, she knows that she will get in trouble and I don't think she wants to but she just can't seem to gather up the determination to do what it takes to avoid it. So, today I went for teacher conferences.. she has been struggling with AlgebraI. I don't think she has a very good teacher, she is floating by in most of her other classes barely for the moment. (And this is with me riding her as hard as I can EVERY day) I have talked to every teacher multiple times in the month that she has been in school. Today at the conference they tell me that they are going to kick her out of the Avid program because she just can't handle the organizational skills that she needs to succeed in the class. I just don't know what to do.... she is never going to get into college at this rate. She is so smart, but it is such a struggle with her. If there is a choice she is going to make the wrong one... guaranteed. I am just about ready to pull my hair out. I don't know what to do. I am struggling to raise two kids, 11 chickens, 2 dogs, a rabbit and a couple of cats, I have a full time job, a rocky marriage and am working on getting my degree so I am struggling with classes myself. I feel like I am about to lose my grip on what tiny amount of sanity I have left. Does this ever get any easier??