I dont believe any breed of dog is born mean....although some may have a tendancy to lean towards it..but..as with ANY dog, if they are brought up properly and brought to a trainer that specializes in this breed..i think they make great pets!..its the humans that screw them up..IMO..also, i didnt read this whole thread, but if it hasnt been metioned yet..i'd check out the pit rescues in your area...they KNOW what they are doing with these dogs..and, they may even have one that they KNOW is safe..instead of getting a pup and taking a chance...thats what i would do, if i were to get one..best of luck!, Wendy